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Dad's drinking troubles

  • 01-11-2010 5:00am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Long time poster, going unregistered.

    I'm a young lad, living in a rural area. I had to move home because of money issues.

    Every Saturday night my dad has a few cans by himself in front of the telly. He gets plastered. He's really hard to deal with when he gets drunk.

    When I was younger I hated his drinking. It ruined my childhood. He'd come stumbling home drunk, scream at my mother, tell me she was a whore, they'd have blazing rows, once or twice he hit her, he hit me once while drunk, only once. I'd feel tense in school all day Friday because I knew the freak show would start when I got home.

    He's not that bad now, he only drinks on a Saturday. He's frustrated with where he is in his life, and I hate seeing him drunk. He stumbles around. Last night he followed my mother around, told her she broke his heart, and said he just wanted to hang himself from the rafters in the attic.

    I. Just. Cannot. Deal. With. This. Anymore. It's bad enough being stuck here. It's a remote village, so I can't even get out of here there odd weekend. Life shouldn't be like this. My friends are traveling the world, in relationships, and I'm stuck in some rural hellhole listening to my Dad acting like this.

    I'm not sure it's a drinking problem. Maybe I'm wrong. That's what's the most frustrating. My mum just ignores him, it genuinely doesn't bother her. She's just as mental as he is sometimes. It's so fúcking repressed. I just wish we could be like one of those American families who talk about everything and solve problems. Instead everyone pretends like nothing's happened.

    I just needed to vent. The thought that someone will read this is comforting. I've just felt like crying all day. I'm in therapy and taking antidepressants. Stuff like this just makes it worse. Life shouldn't be this way. I'm lonely and have no one close enough to tell this stuff to.


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  • #2
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    There are support and help groups for people who are in your situation and in your mothers. They run all over the country.
    The Purpose of Al-anon is to help families and friends of alcoholics recover from the effects of living with the problem drinking of a relative or friend in an anonymous environment.

    The only requirement for membership is that there be a problem of alcoholism in a relative or friend.

    Al-Anon is not affiliated with any other organization or outside entity.

    Al-Anon meetings are held in 115 countries. There are over 24,000 Al-Anon groups worldwide.

    http://www.al-anon-ireland.org/meetings.htm


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