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What to do about ex?

  • 31-10-2010 11:44pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hey, sorry have to get this out coz my head is wreaked  broke up with ex a few months back, his doin, he wanted to stay in contact claiming he still cared for me etc etc. So after a few months the contact dwindled and I heard nothing for two months, where I was accepting that he was over the whole thing and had moved on. Then out if the blue he's back in contact and text and calls and tells me he still thinks about me all the time and that he really wants to meet up ( he's away in the uk with work for a few months) when he comes back. So now I'm all confused and can't stop thinking about him and any progress Iv made in regards to movin on has gone, feels like I'm back to square one. I would love to give it another shot with him but i dont know if that is what he wants or does he really trying to be nice (I dunno what else he wants)
    Thanks for any advice yous might have.


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  • #2
    Princess Peach
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    The same thing happened to me with my last boyfriend! All of a sudden he seemed interested in me again. In the end I slept with him and he juts lost interest pretty much immediately after, so I know now what he was after.

    My advice is to just ask him straight out why he is talking to you, is he interested again. I was afraid of asking my ex this, thought that if I started to do the serious talks again I might scare him off. But I just ended up misinterpreting the whole situation, thinking it was more than it was and getting hurt. If I had asked him straight off what he wanted from this, I could possibly have gotten an answer. I know its hard to have that talk, especially if you think you might be looking into this too much, but for your own piece of mind just ask him. I just wouldnt like you to get your hopes up of getting back with him if thats not what he wants.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
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    Firstthread1980 wrote: »
    ( he's away in the uk with work for a few months) .

    He's in the UK away from family, friends and I'd say he's a bit lonely. He starts thinking back to his last girlfriend possibly - you know, when he had someone to do things with, hang out with etc...

    When I'm at my loneliest, that's what happens to me. It's not that I would want to be with my ex really, it's just remembering happier times.

    As for Princess Peach, yeah, that'd be right. He might have built up in his head that he did want to get back with you and wanted to sleep with you - basically romantacising..... then after sex, and dealing with the reality of the situation he realised "shoot, now I remember why we split up ....."

    Happened to me before... was romantacising about an ex.... met up with her for a weekend (over in UK) - after a day (no sex mind) I just thought "now I know why we're not suited".


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