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Stuck in a rut

  • 31-10-2010 7:58am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Right heres the deal Im 20 yo male in college (2nd year) and dont seem to have friends. I get on with everyone grand Im fairly quiet but lately and I know this may sound stupid or like Im shooting myself in the foot but lately I just dont feel like talking to people alot of my mates have dropped out and I seem to be on my own. The class i'm in very clicky and alot of them if you walk by them and say "Well" or "Hello" they will just walk by you so in that sense I only really have time for certain people in the year.

    When I go home in the Evenings I dont really talk to my housemates bar the usual Good day as there all 3rd 4th years who known each other since 1st year like there all sound but after the usual small talk I dont really talk to them.

    The one thing I hate about myself is I just go home do what has to done for college in the room and then sit on the internet all night bored ****less. the odd night I might go to the pub have a few come home and I do be sitting there wanting to do something or just hang out with someone but I cant seem to make the effort I think its because I know that the other person might not make the effort back I am a nice lad too nice infact and Im afraid of getting treated like a doormat which has happened in the past.


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  • #2
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    Are there any clubs or social groups that you could join in college? If you don't feel like talking to people then it's going to be very difficult to make or maintain friendships. Perhaps just push yourself to get into the habit of chatting to people or attending a course or club and you'll find yourself making friends at the same time?

    All the best.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Ickle Magoo wrote: »
    Are there any clubs or social groups that you could join in college? If you don't feel like talking to people then it's going to be very difficult to make or maintain friendships. Perhaps just push yourself to get into the habit of chatting to people or attending a course or club and you'll find yourself making friends at the same time?

    All the best.

    There problaby is I'm going to look into it tomorrow. I know I'm shooting myself in the foot and normally I am talkative enough or was it just seems lately I've gone shy and as well lately I don't seem to have any confidence in myself.I do get on with people it just seems I can't really click with any of them because alot of them are in there small circles.


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