12 months

PTH2009

I have not kissed a girl in 12 months now or even came close and its really starting to annoy me. This year i went through a big break up form an old friend. I know people have gone years without but why do i always see guys kissing girls and i think to myself what the **** did i do to god to be still single coming up to my big 21st birthday. Am i being punished for something. Whats the best advice for a lonley guy turning 21 who never had a serouis relationship. Im from a city in which only has a few night clubs and my mates wount invite me out with them for what ever reasons they have.

I always turn to drink. eveytime im out i drink like crazy always end up vomiting but thats what nights out are for.

Princess Peach

This is not what nights out are for! I used to be of the same attitude until I realised I was doing this, not because its normal, but because I was dealing with a lot of problems and I thought getting so drunk I couldn't feel was the solution. Cut back on the drink. Maybe this is why your mates won't invite you out, just a wild guess here.

At our age nights out are basically the main way of meeting people. If you hear people you know talking about going out, be bold and invite yourself along. They most likely won't mind. Next time, be a bit more sober and just go up and start talking to a girl. Seriously just chat, ask if she likes the club, if she likes the music, what she does in her spare time etc. Don't be offended if she seems a little stand-offish. She may not want to be hit on that night, don't take it personally. Just be a nice guy and try and introduce yourself to new girls.

And if your not going out much, I don't know what your work/ college situation is but just try chatting to girls. If your a bit nervous or something, think to yourself whats the worse that can happen? The worst is that some girl you don't know you like doesnt want to chat back, no big deal really!

Just be a bit more confident in yourself

consultech

"God" doesn't ration out punani my friend, and there's no such thing as luck either. It's a rationalisation we adopt to avoid responsibility for our own destiny. Your destiny is very much in your own hands so stop looking to the sky for a grand fix and start making your own luck.

Start approaching and talking to more girls, and you'll gain confidence over time. Be a bit bolder than you currently are, in the way you talk and the things you say to girls, and how you put yourself out there socially. That hot girl across the bar/party is not going to come up to you and say "I don't usually do this, but I just couldn't resist coming over to introduce myself...".

John Mason

PTH2009 wrote: »

my mates wount invite me out with them for what ever reasons they have..

I always turn to drink. eveytime im out i drink like crazy always end up vomiting but thats what nights out are for

this is why your mates dont ask you out - no one wants to deal with the messy drunk in the corner.

this also why you havent pulled when you go out - girls do not want to kiss someone with a vomity mouth.

cut back on the drink and relax

LegacyUser

I always turn to drink. eveytime im out i drink like crazy always end up vomiting but thats what nights out are for.

ughhh, theres nothing more disgusting than having an absolutely hammered guy try it on with you...vile.

I have not kissed a girl in 12 months now or even came close and its really starting to annoy me

my mates wount invite me out with them for what ever reasons they have.

Am i being punished for something

You're punishing yourself! no girl is going to want to be near a disgusting mess of a guy reeking of drink and vomit. Nobody wants to have to babysit their friend every time they go out. You reap what you sow. You've brought all this on yourself tbh.

stop drinking, apologise to your friends for being a complete a**hole everytime you went out with them tell them you're off the drink and it won't happen again.

stop drinking and next time your out try chat up a girl while not smashed off your face, and she might actually take you seriously.

why do i always see guys kissing girls and i think to myself what the **** did i do to god to be still single coming up to my big 21st birthday

I always turn to drink. eveytime im out i drink like crazy always end up vomiting but thats what nights out are for.

Nothing to do with god i'm afraid. You can't blame anybody but yourself for your problems. How on earth can you expect to get a girl on a night out when you stink of booze and vomit. No girl wants a relationship with a guy that she can't even go on a night out with because he'll end up making a show of himself and vomiting in a corner. You're almost 21 its time to grow up, if you want a mature relationship with a woman, then you're going to have to start acting like a mature man not a immature 18 year old boy.

Miss Fluff

PTH2009 wrote: »

I always turn to drink. eveytime im out i drink like crazy always end up vomiting but thats what nights out are for.

No that's not what they are for at all. You have two options, you either cut down drastically on what you are drinking or you quit altogether.

Messy drunks are not just very annoying and very embarrassing, they are also a liability. Nobody in their right mind would choose to spend an evening with someone who goes OTT and then pukes all over themselves. Why would they? It would be like choosing to share a two-man tent with someone with dodgy bowels.

Basically on social occasions you're a ticking time bomb nobody will want to associate themselves with if you more often than not end up with vomit down your clothes. Would you honestly want to hang out with someone like that?

If you stick rigidly to changing your drinking habits, be really strict with yourself and literally have two/three drinks max when you are out, everything else will fall into place for you.