text or call?

LegacyUser

On my late 20's but had only ever one relationship so my lack of experience would like some advice from the ladies.

I met this girl the other day and we got on well and I've got her number. Would like to ask her out for dinner this weekend but should I call her or text her? I feel that if I text her that would give her sometime to think about but once I've been told that ladies preferred to be asked by calling them rather than sms?

jellybear

Hi OP, I think it's best to call her. Im only in my early 20's and would hate if a guy text me to ask me out on a 1st date, seems like something a 16/17 year old would do. Just be confident and say you'd love to take her out to ____ (pick a place if you can, shows confidence) because it's a great place for dinner and maybe a few drinks after. Best of luck

tiny_penguin

I dunno, I am in my mid 20's and Im not a big fan talking on the phone. Especially with someone I don't know very well, it can be awkward. I think either way is as good as the other, but I know myself, and a good few of my friends would rather a text!

Princess Peach

Go for the text! Phone calls can be awkward with someone you don't know. In this day and age no girl would think less of you for sending a text, its completely the norm. I would personally be a little taken aback if a guy called me for a date, I'm just so used to texting. Also its much easier if either of ye are nervous

LegacyUser

first of all i am female so this next comment may seem strange but...some women have it in their heads that if a guy calls you then he must be weird/stalker/too cocky etc.. I don't have this opinion (nor am I say all other women do) but personally i would prefer a phone call...i think it shows genuine interest and you will know better where you stand after a phone call! Depending on how the initial call goes texting can start after (its always nice to get the odd text from the person you like). Texts can be misleading - you may interpret them differently to how they are actually meant. However, I understand what people are saying about the awkwardness so maybe even if you text the girl first just general chit-chat to see how that goes but to ask her out i would recommend bite the bullet and dial her number

Colonel_McCoy

Hi Op.

Forget the the test you are not a teenager. Ring her up have a place and time ready in your head and ask her. Make some small chat and leave it at that.

Forget the text Tennis!

The Colonel

Chose whatever your more comfortable with. If the girl likes you, it won't matter which option you chose.

MissHoneyBun

People are individuals. There is no one 'Guide to the Universe'. I don't want to sound harsh but whatever happened to using your cop on to gauge whatever feels right at the time? Relax and have faith in your own judgement to make a small decision. A little confidence is always more attractive than sweating the small stuff.

LegacyUser

thanks for the replies everyone. I'd say I'll give her a call.

mood

It's ok to text the first time but if you want a second date call.

LighterGuy

You really shouldnt be worrying about the how you contact
its all just about contacting and asking her out is what matters.

babs78

Personally, I would prefer a phone call rather than a text if it was a bloke asking me out on a first date. Though if it was a bloke I liked I wouldn't refuse him just because he asked me by text

Unique User Name

Hi OP. I was pondering the same thing myself last night. In the end I called the girl and it was the best decision I ever made. We chatted away about lots of stuff as well as arranging the date. The thing is I feel like I know so much more about her now than I ever would have had I just text her. It also gave me plenty of conversation fodder for our upcoming date. Just sharing what I did with you but best of luck whatever you decide to do.

gillian1983

well pleaseadvice, how did it go?
did you call her?
where are you from?

nickobrien1986

Call,
text is for pussies.
Really I've learnt the hard way.

tolosenc

Always call. Even if you're not confident, it'll come across as if you are, which is a big thing in a situation like yours.

Beruthiel

ohdear:) wrote: »

some women have it in their heads that if a guy calls you then he must be weird/stalker/too cocky etc..

That's pretty ridiculous. Any person with that level of paranoia should be avoided at all costs.

OP
Texting is for teenagers. Calling someone to ask them out shows a level of confidence and that can only be a good thing.

silkworm53

Call her. Speaking to someone is much better than a text.
If she says no, it's no big deal.
And if things don't work out next time you meet another girl calling her wont be as big a deal then.