Breast enhancement-Boyfriend unsure but I think I know best?

LegacyUser

Well the title says it all. I am finally financially in a position to get a breast enhancement. Now I have the money put by to finance the work on a breast enhancement that I feel would make so much difference to my life.

I still will be me, I am fit and well but pear shaped. With the breast enhancement I will be going up one and a half sizes, an anatomical implant under the muscle. It will balance out my body and look natural.

I have meticulously researched the procedure and understand the implications and possible complications, however I am happy to take the (small) risks and go ahead.

However, those close to me are unsupportive. My partner doesn't see the 'need' for the breast implants as he is happy with them as they are. But his feelings are not my motivation for doing this. I am not happy with they way they are now. They have served me well over the years and were a good shape and size but hace become saggy and lost volume. I just dont feel sexy any more with them. I feel a small implant will make them less saggy and flat. I dont want anything dramatic. I know I am very lucky for my age, I've been told I have the breasts of a teenager but that's just a nice but slightly untrue white lie.

When my operation is done if all goes well i should be a C-D wheras at the moment I am a B-C (dress size 10-12) I am tall so this would look nicely balanced with my figure wheras at the moment I am pear shaped.

What do you think. My boyfriend says it is a waste of money and is dead against it but I really want it? I feel maybe he thinks I am going to come back with Jordan style rock hard torpedos but as I understand it the breasts become softer after about 6 months after the surgery and look very natural if you get a good surgeon and appropriate size.

Can anyone advise, if you got the operation how did your boyfriend/husband feel before and after. If he was against it....did he change his mind after the op?

dory

It's hard for someone else to say what is right for you. You seem to be doing it for the right reason (you), but I'd be worried about any partner's reaction if you intend on staying with them long term.

It's a tough one OP, I understand your reasons but you really should talk to your partner, explain all that you wrote to them.

dan_d

OP....speaking as someone who is pear shaped, size 10-12 and has breast cups B - C and think I look just fine....maybe you're exaggerating this in your head.

We are our own worse critics. Maybe if everyone you know is telling you you look fine, there's something true in there. If one or two of them were telling you, fair enough, but everyone??

I won't say do or don't but please ask yourself honestly, are you blowing this out of proportion in your head every time you look in the mirror?

LittleBook

Improvement? wrote: »

I am not happy with they way they are now. They have served me well over the years and were a good shape and size but hace become saggy and lost volume. I just dont feel sexy any more with them. I feel a small implant will make them less saggy and flat. I dont want anything dramatic

OP, in my mind there's a huge difference between breast enhancement and breast augmentation. People (including your partner?) are more familiar with the latter and assume that is what you want.

As another poster said, you should take what you've written and get it across to your partner. You've taken the time to educate yourself, maybe you need to educate him.

Improvement? wrote: »

They have served me well over the years

I love my breasts and would like (and fully intend) to keep them as they are for as long as possible and within reason. I can completely understand where you're coming from.

JonathanAnon

Improvement? wrote: »

However, those close to me are unsupportive. My partner doesn't see the 'need' for the breast implants as he is happy with them as they are.

Are you sure that your operation wont have the opposite affect, I know a lot of guys who are completely turned off by fake breasts...

Time is against all of us regarding our looks, so if you invest money in them now will you want to invest more money in a few years time? How many years will the operation buy you?

I think that anybody who goes under the knife for cosmetic reasons are mad.. I hope you are not bringing trouble on yourself..

Chuchoter

Well, if I was him I can see his point. I really hate fake boobs and I can always tell when they are fake even the natural looking ones, I'd prefer an A cup over D cup fake ones any day.

I think any improvement in the way you feel about yourself would be transitory to be honest. It is a very risky and invasive surgery, and although it could go well, it could also go horribly wrong. You also can't keep the implants in forever, and will have to have at the very least 1 or 2 follow up surgeries, at which point in your life there could be many other things you'd like to spend your money on.

Actually another thing, I have D/E cup boobs, they do nothing but make you look fat unless you intend on wearing going out clothes all the time. Big boobs do not suit casual wear.

magneticimpulse

Fake boobs always look fake. My friend has fake boobs and no matter what dress she wears she looks like a dancer (to say it in the nicest way).

B-C cup is perfect size. I mean if you did get a boob job, how will your body manage to keep its hold on them when your 50 and everything else is droopy downwards? as in all the skin around them i could imagine will be very saggy by then and you will have these mini footballs hanging drooping down? it sounds like high maintenence to me. you would always have to get the skin pulled back etc just so you can continue to have them over your lifetime.

the likes of pamela anderson and jordon are always going for operations on their boobs. so although you might have the finance to get them in, do you have the finance to have that operation every 5 to 10 years???

IMO i hate fake boobs and always will and as much as i like my friend, i hate her fake boobs, they just look tarty and slutty, no matter how nice you are.

curlzy

I don't know why people seem so worried with what her OH thinks!!!! It isn't about what he thinks of her body it's how she feels about her body. If she's researched it and considered it and wants it then no one should be worried about what the boyfriend thinks, sweet jesus, hello?????? I'll say it in capitals: IT'S HER BODY!!!

Chuchoter

curlzy wrote: »

I don't know why people seem so worried with what her OH thinks!!!! It isn't about what he thinks of her body it's how she feels about her body. If she's researched it and considered it and wants it then no one should be worried about what the boyfriend thinks, sweet jesus, hello?????? I'll say it in capitals: IT'S HER BODY!!!

But she's doing it to be sexy and feel attractive to other people, hence its called cosmetic surgery. What most people are saying here is that surgery only makes you feel better for a little while, its expensive and its better to be confident.

Cuddlesworth

Have you considered just doing a breast lift to put them back into a position where they started?

Breast enhancement or augmentation can be a turn off for guys and is a long term monetary commitment. You will need new work done every 10-15 years, sometimes a lot sooner.

LighterGuy

Yes its her body. If she wants it. its up to her. I think the bf just likes her the way she is. I dont think its about the boyfriend worrying that its for "others" to look at them too (which some guys would worry about that - sometimes something like that would be founded to do so)

But op your BF says you dont need them. Thats him being nice. If the boyfriend turned around and said "yeah get them you need them" - i think that would be a different story op

LegacyUser

I don't want an uplift as the sagging is actually not that bad and also to do an uplift they have to cut into the breast and move the nipple, this can result in a permanent loss of sensation wheras an implant under the muscle rarely ever results in loss of sensation.

I just dont understand why my BF is so adamently against it.

Normally he is supportive of things that would make me happy.

magneticimpulse

Improvement? wrote: »

I don't want an uplift as the sagging is actually not that bad and also to do an uplift they have to cut into the breast and move the nipple, this can result in a permanent loss of sensation wheras an implant under the muscle rarely ever results in loss of sensation.

I just dont understand why my BF is so adamently against it.

Normally he is supportive of things that would make me happy.

Because fake boobs are FAKE! They are tarty, slutty, prostitute, pole dancer, playboy looking. Whats there to like about fake boobs?

LighterGuy

Improvement? wrote: »

...I just dont understand why my BF is so adamently against it....

well op its either 1 of 3 things:

• He just thinks you are sexy the way you are and that the breast enhancement doesnt change a thing.
• He doesnt like fake breasts.
• He could have that "niggleing" feeling that makes him fear its also for others to look at.

Silverfish

magneticimpulse wrote: »

Because fake boobs are FAKE! They are tarty, slutty, prostitute, pole dancer, playboy looking. Whats there to like about fake boobs?

Okay, tone back the insults please. There's no need for this.

greengiant09

you got to wonder if this is more a self esteem issue than appearance. sure you may have the op and feel better for a short while but the fact that you think you need one suggests you are unhappy with yourself. lets be realistic here, sooner or later, your going to lose your shape and get old and wrinkly like everyone else, it's better to accept this than fight it which is a hopeless cause. i'd agree with the other posters who said that fake boobs aren't as nice as real ones just for the record.

magneticimpulse

Silverfish wrote: »

Okay, tone back the insults please. There's no need for this.

im not insulting the actual OP. The image of silicon breasts in our society is associated with Jordan, Pamela Anderson, porn movies etc. Its not an insult, its just things which are associated with fake boobs.

Look at Reese Witherspoon, Katherine Heigl, Jennifer Anderson etc, they have a certain air of elegance to them without having fake boobs.

Whereas you wouldnt really call Jordan sophisticated and sexy? Im sure Jordan is a nice woman, but the image which she gives out is abit cheap.

So im not insulting the OP, im saying in society, this is usually the image associated with implants.

Silverfish

magneticimpulse wrote: »

im not insulting the actual OP. The image of silicon breasts in our society is associated with Jordan, Pamela Anderson, porn movies etc. Its not an insult, its just things which are associated with fake boobs.

Look at Reese Witherspoon, Katherine Heigl, Jennifer Anderson etc, they have a certain air of elegance to them without having fake boobs.

Whereas you wouldnt really call Jordan sophisticated and sexy? Im sure Jordan is a nice woman, but the image which she gives out is abit cheap.

So im not insulting the OP, im saying in society, this is usually the image associated with implants.

"tarty, slutty"

These words are insults, and there is no need for abusive posting in this forum. You did not present it as 'associated with' you presented it as fact.

Please read the charter, and abide by it, and if you cannot post without resorting to insensitive insults, then please do not post.

Thank you.

LegacyUser

greengiant09 wrote: »

you got to wonder if this is more a self esteem issue than appearance. sure you may have the op and feel better for a short while but the fact that you think you need one suggests you are unhappy with yourself. lets be realistic here, sooner or later, your going to lose your shape and get old and wrinkly like everyone else, it's better to accept this than fight it which is a hopeless cause. i'd agree with the other posters who said that fake boobs aren't as nice as real ones just for the record.

Well of course real ones are nicer! If you have nice real ones! But I don't like my real ones any more!!! I look at them and cringe, they go all over the place without a bra. It's not good. My own body turns me off (

I'm not really getting the self esteem vs appearance thing? Self esteem comes from having a good appearance! Yes I am unhappy with myself and this is one thing I can change which will make a difference to me! The way I see it is life is short, what's the point going around feeling ugly and unsexy when I can do something about it!

I disagree with accepting ageing. I plan to fight it every step of the way!!

Distorted

I don't think fake boobs help the outline of the figure and clothes don't hang well with bigger boobs. If you are pear shaped, you are meant to be that way and don't need fake boobs to "balance out your figure" - losing any excess saddlebags of fat and becoming more toned will do that more effectively. I also don't see how having fake boobs is about anti -ageing - if you are worried about sagging, you can get them tightened up without getting them enhanced. Theres nothing worse than seeing a tight, over stretched, mottled, wrinkled chest with a pair of massive fake boobs dragging it all south. To me, fake boobs are all about detracting from other faults in a sexually provocative way. They're not like your face and generally publicly on show after all. Not something I'd personally want to do as I only like men who talk to my face.

username123

OP - a very attractive friend of mine got a breast enhancement a couple of years ago, she had always been flat chested (never had any trouble attracting men), and just felt herself she would prefer to be more balanced. Like you she had researched it and saved up etc.

I have to say its transformed her life. She totally loves her new boobs, they are completely natural looking, they really do balance her body out. They are not that big, a C cup (she was an A cup before). Only for I know they are fake, I wouldnt have a clue they were fake.

Her partner was perfectly happy with her body as it was, but supported her decision, she is happier in herself now (self esteem up) - so he is happy for her.

She has never regretted her decision and is only sorry she didnt get them done years before as she spent a lot of her 20s not liking her boobs!! She feels she has far more freedom to wear what she likes now as before any kind of cleavage showing top wasnt nice on her (so she thought).

I do think its sad that some people would choose to use insulting words to describe breast enhancement. If its going to help self esteem issues and make you feel better about yourself and you are happy to take the risks associated with surgery then I think more power to you and the best of luck with it.

PanchoVilla

Improvement? wrote: »

I'm not really getting the self esteem vs appearance thing? Self esteem comes from having a good appearance!

That's completely wrong. Self-esteem comes from being happy with what you've got. Maybe you should speak to girls who have had the operation to see if they feel any better about themselves in the long run, my guess is they don't. You have a partner who likes you just the way you are, I think that should be enough. If you go ahead with this don't be too surprised if he leaves you.

I disagree with accepting ageing. I plan to fight it every step of the way!!

Well that statement sorta puts things into perspective. You think you can look young for the rest of your life, you can't. There's nothing wrong with growing old, billions of people do it every day. I don't mean this as an insult but you come across as extremely vane and superficial and that will only lead to a lifetime of unhappiness. I suggest you start accepting yourself for who you are, not what you look like. The only change you need to make is on the inside.

username123

PanchoVilla wrote: »

Self-esteem comes from being happy with what you've got.

I dont agree with this. If you had a disfiguring facial scar that could be removed wouldnt you have it removed? For the OP she feels her breasts are not nice, that can be changed, why shouldnt she change it?

The friend I mentioned in my earlier post is happier with her body now, two years on. Its not even that she is now happy with her body, but she is no longer unhappy with her boobs.

Johnny Favourite

As a guy I can tell you that I hate fake breasts. I would prefer an A cup to fake boobs. They look terrible and they feel terrible.

If you have or are going to have children, what message do you think that is sending out to your teenage daughter??

LegacyUser

username123 wrote: »

I dont agree with this. If you had a disfiguring facial scar that could be removed wouldnt you have it removed? For the OP she feels her breasts are not nice, that can be changed, why shouldnt she change it?

The friend I mentioned in my earlier post is happier with her body now, two years on. Its not even that she is now happy with her body, but she is no longer unhappy with her boobs.

Thank you Username123. I've read a lot of message boards online (irish girls) and they say the same thing.

It's all very well people saying self esteem comes from being happy with what you've got but I'm not happy with what I've got. I am ashamed of my body and I actually sleep with a bra on now just because the sight of my boobs gets me down.

As for 'being an example to a teenage daughter' -we have to live our lives for ourselves as well as our children. I think it would send the signal that it is ok to improve something about yourself if it is genuinely getting you down and not just in your mind. I wouldn't approve of some sort of extreme makeover as I said in my OP.

I would like to go natural. Some of the men are saying they dont like the feel but what about the feel of a saggy old empty pillowcase....because that's what my existing breasts feel like.

LegacyUser

It's fairly clear you have your heart set on this,& nothing/noone is going to detract you.
The OHs' protestations are a minor glitch in proceedings, but that is all. He'll eventually back down if the misery continues.
So. Your body, your life- go for it if it'll make you happy.

LegacyUser

Why was the ''penis enhancement'' thread closed for not discussing medical matters yet this one is ok....sexism?

Silverfish

sexist wrote: »

Why was the ''penis enhancement'' thread closed for not discussing medical matters yet this one is ok....sexism?

Because in that thread, the OP was asking about the procedure and where to get it done, in this thread the OP is having an issue with her boyfriend being unhappy about her getting it done. So no, not sexism.

In future, please use the correct channels to complain.

Thanks.

Fluorescence

I wouldn't be one to advocate cosmetic surgery, but it's your money and your body that ultimately you have to live with. If you've done your research, consulted various surgeons and considered it from all angles I see no reason for you to remain as deeply unhappy* with your body as it currently is. Do what feels right to you; your family and friends will come to terms with your decision in time.

I'm wondering why you feel the need to post this thread though, since you seem so set on the op as it is. If you need validation from strangers on the internet, are you sure you're confident this is the surgery you want? [genuinely curious - the tone isn't meant to sound condescending...]

*from what you've said here this seems to be the case. If I've misinterpreted then feel free to mention.

LegacyUser

It's possible we've forgotten what real womens' breasts should/do feel like! After all, we only ever feel our own,& tend to be biased one way or another.
Have you tried out what a C feels like? eg: by filling your top out to a C size, and equivalent weight, and wearing for a week? And try out clothes in them also- larger breasts on a small upper body can make you look a bit "mumsy".

tiny_penguin

You see the problem is, you think you would be ok with the small risks involved, but I think that is only because in your mind they will not happen to you.
I have a friend who had a very simple cosmetic procedure go very wrong, and when she was telling me about her choice to have it done she says she understood and was ok with the risks. That was until it happened to her. She had done her research, and was sure it would be fine.
I just think to have surgery that has not been advised by a doctor is not worth the risks.

username123

Improvement? wrote: »

It's all very well people saying self esteem comes from being happy with what you've got but I'm not happy with what I've got. I am ashamed of my body and I actually sleep with a bra on now just because the sight of my boobs gets me down.

I think all women dont like various bits of their bodies - its a reasonably normal way to feel. But its not normal to really really hate a bit to the point that it makes you feel ashamed of your naked body. And thats something that can be fixed. Its having a psychological impact - it can be changed - so logically the thing to do is to change it!

Improvement? wrote: »

As for 'being an example to a teenage daughter' -we have to live our lives for ourselves as well as our children. I think it would send the signal that it is ok to improve something about yourself if it is genuinely getting you down and not just in your mind. I wouldn't approve of some sort of extreme makeover as I said in my OP.

I totally agree with you. The message being sent is also that its ok to want to look the best that you can look and not suffer just because 'thats what Ive got I have to accept it'.

Improvement? wrote: »

I would like to go natural. Some of the men are saying they dont like the feel but what about the feel of a saggy old empty pillowcase....because that's what my existing breasts feel like.

Its not really about what some men say they like or dont like - its about you and how you look and feel about yourself. Id be willing to bet that most men dont even recognise women with fake boobs in everyday life, lots of women in this country have had enhancements, but few go for the fake torpedo look - when it looks natural how would someone know the difference?

I think its an important distinction to be made here that the OP is not saying 'Ive grand boobs but Id just like them bigger cos I like big boobs'. What she is actually saying is 'I hate my boobs, they feel saggy and look ugly, I never feel comfortable in my skin and Id liked them fixed so that I can not feel ashamed when I look at them'.

Big difference. If there wasnt a market for cosmetic surgery it wouldnt exist.

username123

tiny_penguin wrote: »

I have a friend who had a very simple cosmetic procedure go very wrong, and when she was telling me about her choice to have it done she says she understood and was ok with the risks. That was until it happened to her.

What was the outcome for your friend - were they able to repair it?

tiny_penguin wrote: »

I just think to have surgery that has not been advised by a doctor is not worth the risks.

Actually a GP could well advise that cosmetic surgery is an option if something is having a massive psychological impact on someone. Its common for burns or accident victims to be referred for scar coverage for example. Partial or full mastectomy victims are also commonly referred for breast repair. Breast enhancement is not really any different when the underlying reason is deep dissatisfaction with how ones breasts look naturally - statistically its a safe procedure - there will always be examples of things going wrong - that happens with non cosmetic surgery too.

LegacyUser

fluorescence wrote: »

I wouldn't be one to advocate cosmetic surgery, but it's your money and your body that ultimately you have to live with. If you've done your research, consulted various surgeons and considered it from all angles I see no reason for you to remain as deeply unhappy* with your body as it currently is. Do what feels right to you; your family and friends will come to terms with your decision in time.

I'm wondering why you feel the need to post this thread though, since you seem so set on the op as it is. If you need validation from strangers on the internet, are you sure you're confident this is the surgery you want? [genuinely curious - the tone isn't meant to sound condescending...]

*from what you've said here this seems to be the case. If I've misinterpreted then feel free to mention.

Well, the reason I posted is I was wondering about the reaction of womens husbands/boyfriends after the women went through with it, if the man was initially against it did they change their mind afterwards?

I think the thoughts of breast surgery does bring a lot of negative images to peoples minds as has been seen in the thread already and I wonder that maybe my own partners reluctance is due to the fact he is imagining all sorts of awful plastic looking nightmares.

When in reality as Username123 says (and a lot of the women online that I've read) no-one notices their surgery at all. The trend in Ireland nowadays is a small implant to replace volume, often teardrop shaped (not round and fake looking) and the object of the thing is to enhance the breasts subtly making them fuller and more feminine without being too obvious. I am talking about going up one and a half cup sizes.

So I was thinking maybe the partners of people who've had it done are relieved afterwards when they see it is not some awful looking mutilation!?

I'm fairly sure I'd like the surgery but of course it would upset me if my partner hated it. I hate my boobs as they are now though, so if it were just a case he misunderstands what is going to happen then it would be easier to deal with.

On how they feel, I've actually felt a friends ones (she's had it done a few years before) and they felt fine to me. But that's actually not a huge issue for me. I wear padded bras all the time so my aim would be to look the same size/shape as I do in a padded bra.

Thanks Username123 for all your sensible advice. It is helpful.

username123

OP - my friends partner was initially a bit horrified with scar tissue, swelling, healing, changing dressing etc.... No way to say it but bluntly - he was shocked! But genuinely after the healing process (which in total was around 3 months) it all became a big nothing. He was more happy she was happy than too concerned with the boobs themselves tbh!!

lasalle

if you dont mind telling op, how much does it cost? just wondering with recession pricing has the cost reduced at all from previous quotes on other threads.

greengiant09

I'm not really getting the self esteem vs appearance thing? Self esteem comes from having a good appearance!

no it doesn't!...i'm actually a bit shocked someone would actually say something like that. that's completely incorrect.

I disagree with accepting ageing. I plan to fight it every step of the way!![/QUOTE]

good luck with that fight....cos there's only going to be one loser!

Toots

OP, have you actually gone and had a consultation about it or anything? A friend of mine was a B and wanted to go to a D. When she went to her consultation her surgeon said the D would look fake and advised her to go for a C. She's so glad she did, because her breasts are exactly the way she wanted them now, and she realised that the D would have been too big. Her BF wasn't overly keen on the idea, but she was really insecure about her breasts and knew that this was something she really wanted. Similarly to username_123's story, he was pretty horrified by the amount of time it took to heal up and the healing process. I think he thought she'd go in for the surgery and come out with a couple of stitches and that was that!

Now I've never felt them (she offered but I wasn't really comfortable groping my friend's breasts lol) but as regards looks, you'd never know she'd had them done. For her it was the difference between having to use 'chicken fillets' when she went out and now she just wears normal bras. Her BF says there's not a huge difference in feel, they're just slightly firmer, like she's been doing toning exercises or something.

Maybe if you talked to one or two surgeons and brought your BF along for the consultations, it would alleviate some of his concerns. How against it is he? Is it a case that he just feels 'if it ain't broke don't fix it' or is it a dealbreaker for him?

Sgt Pepper 64

My personal opinion is that any sort of operation should be avoided at all costs. Apart from the problems that could arise during and after the operation, what about long term? Will you have to have another one in 10\15\20 years when the original op starts to sag?

Assuming that your partner is the only person to see you naked and he is happy with the way you are, then can you not accept this and still feel sexy?

Perhaps a more flattering bra would help?

Good luck whatever you decide

Milkmaid

Hi OP "Improvement?"..just wanted to ask if you have thought about what you will do? I have seen some really nice boob jobs on friends, but they were pretty sore afterwards and had to stay off work for quite a while.

You say you are a B-C cup at present so I was wondering is it the actual shape rather than the size that is bothering you? The reason I ask is the girls I know who have had the op done had all had kids and their boobs had become less firm afterwards and this is what was bothering them rather than the size.

I also was wondering about your weight as I have been very slim all my life and at one point after a pregnancy my boobs got less "perky" as I was underweight.
In my last pregnancy I followed a friend's advice and ate more and the extra stone I gained stayed on me after the baby and my boobs went up to DD from a B before! I am a curvy size 12 but I love my new shape.
I would have considered the op before that and was shocked to see the difference an extra stone weight made to my boobs.
Just my experience and wish you luck whatever you decide

cooperguy

You say you have researched the procedure itself but have you researched the longer term consequences. Scar tissue builds up around the implant over time and in ten years time you will be alot saggier than you are now due to the implants.

am i bovvered

Hi OP
I can speak from experience....
6 years ago my wife had a boob job, she had wanted one for a good few years but I was reluctant as I loved her "petit ones"
My worries were totally unfounded, it is now hard to imagine her without them, they do look natural and she says that they are the boobs she should have always had. It was money well spent.
6 years down the road the scar is nearly invisible, and they look and feel great
I realise this all sounds so superficial and there are many more important things in life.
For my wife, it was an issue, and if back she would definately make the same choice.
Good luck

xxLadyxx

OP, I'm sure you've spent a lot of time thinking about it & if it's something you want done for yourself - then do it!

Of course there's risks -but I'm sure you know them
Of course some people will agree & disagree . . but it's YOUR body,so do whatever feels right for you.

Just be safe & make sure you see a good reputable doctor, ask for photos of surgeries he/she's done and in some cases they will give your phone number to a previous client so you can have a personal account on their surgery.


(I've been through the motions, just never plucked up the courage!! Maybe one day . . !)


Good luck OP x

LegacyUser

Hi OP, I had a breast augmentation at the age of 23, because my boobs were so tiny (I mean really, barely there) that they were making me miserable for all sorts of reasons. Clothes didn't look right unless I wore a padded, water- or gel-filed bra with chicken fillets, I didn't have any cleavage in some of the tops I wanted to wear (and I don't mean really revealing things, just nice tops that show a tiny bit!), and - I know this is an unpopular reason - but I just didn't feel as feminine as I would have liked to.

I gave it LOADS of thought beforehand, and, six years on, I believe it was the best decision I ever made. I had small implants under the muscle because I have a very small size 8 frame. The results feel slightly firmer than the real thing, and it took a while for them to move the same, but they do now because they have settled and I have probably grown a tiny bit too. My boyfriend says they are the most perfect breasts he has ever seen. It was quite a while before he noticed the scars - they are at the stage where they can be felt a bit but they are hard to see. They honestly look completely natural, and nobody else has any idea I had the surgery because I had worn water bras, gel bras and chicken fillets since I was a teenager.

The surgery and recovery was almost painless, and barely uncomfortable.

I hope you can make an informed decision with all the stories you read and hear. My experience, for what it's worth, has definitely been a positive one. The operation made a huge difference to my self-esteem, and I never felt the need to have any further surgery on any other part of my face/body. (Some people say plastic surgery is addictive, but I believe that if there is genuinely only ONE thing having such an impact on your emotional wellbeing, and you have it in your power to change it, nothing should stop you.)


Best of luck with whatever you decide.