Didnt Get her Number!!!

mascherano11

So I was out in a Club at the weekend with a few mates and I met this really lovely girl was chatting to her for most of the night, we got on really well I have to say. So after being hanging out with her Chatting, Dancing and just having the a bit of Banter we ended up snogging for a considerable ammount of time also!! So after after the Niteclub she went back off to meet up with her friends and we said our goodbyes and went our seperate ways.On the way home I was thinking to myself wouldnt mind meeting up with her again, then I realised I didnt ask her for her phone number (Schoolboy error on my part) I dont know why I didnt ask her for it as i am usually on the ball at that sort of stuff!!


I added her on Facebook then after a few days (by chatting to her it turned out shes best friends with a girl I was in college with so I tracked her down on her page) so she accepted me on Facebook anyway. Now Im basically wondering if i should send her a Mail via Facebook basically asking her did she have a good night? Hows her week going? all the things you usually text a girl really. So Im really just wondering what do girls reckon is it a bit creepy/needy to be sending her mails on Facebook or should I just fire away??

LegacyUser

By the sounds of things, I would say go for it! Not as though it was just a 2am snog, sounds like ye got on well and the snogging happened after that. I'd say contact her in exactly the way you suggested. Good luck!

Exclamation Marc

I'd echo the above statement.

You really have nothing to lose. Either you find out she's not interested or you play it cautious and risk losing the interest on her end.

As Sophie Angry Pension said, all girls are different, but in reality you've no other way of contacting the girl so you're not really left with a huge choice.

Fire away with the mail, keep it light and maybe after a few mails ask for a number.

Remember, nothing to lose, you either find out she's interested or she's not and you get to move on. It's a win/win.

LegacyUser

Just send her a message on the following lines:

Hey,

If this isn't too stalkerish, I was wondering if you would like to go for a drink/meal/coffee/whatever suits you sometime in the future? I had a really nice time with you on Saturday, thought we got on great together, and would like to like to meet you again.

Anyway, hope alls well and the rest of the weekend was good,

Fireball

dearg lady

FBstalker wrote: »

Just send her a message on the following lines:

Hey,

If this isn't too stalkerish, I was wondering if you would like to go for a drink/meal/coffee/whatever suits you sometime in the future? I had a really nice time with you on Saturday, thought we got on great together, and would like to like to meet you again.

Anyway, hope alls well and the rest of the weekend was good,

Fireball

Please don't put 'if this isn't too stalkerish' in the message!!!!

I'd be inclined to ask for her number on facebook, say you'd like to meet up and could you have her number. If she gives you the number then call her up.

Put it this way, if she likes you, she's unlikely to find it offputting that you contacted her through facebook first. If she wasn't really interested in the first place then it doesn't matter!

Hope ya get on well btw

mascherano11

Cheers for the replies guys very helpful Kind of put my mind at ease that I wouldnt come across as a stalker!! I think ill just take the plunge and send her a message on Facebook tonight and see what sort of reaction i get (if any) i get off her.

One of the main reasons i was apprehensive about sending her a message Via Facebook was that she is an extremely good looking girl (shes actually a model... Im not trying to blow my own trumpet her either!!) so id be pretty sure that shes used to lads throwing themselves at her and coming across as Clingy or Creepy, and that is definitely not my style.

Im still kicking myself I didnt get her number as Id be fairly in tune with the whole texting lark and wouldnt have been as cautious about making contact with her.

littlefish

I would send her the following messgae.

'Hi, I had a great night with ya last weekend and meant to ask you for your number to see if you wanted to meet up again sometime. Let me know if you're interested and we can sort something out. Here's my number ... Hopefully I'll be talking to you soon.'

That to me would suffice. Def don't mention the word stalkerish!

consultech

Jeysus don't say "I hope this isn't too stalkerish" or anything to that effect! (lol at the name of the guy who suggested it!) The human mind is a funny thing; introducing the word "stalker" (especially on facebook, AKA Stalksville) in reference to yourself is generally a bad move! You've already half-stalked her anyway, don't throw petrol on that fire.

Be aloof, be playful, if you had any private jokes or teased her about anything during the night, do the same kind of thing straight out of the gate via mail. Try get her number outright, and invite her to something you're "already" attending.

God speed.

chainsaws

Send her this message.

'Hey <girl's name>. Your feeling good? I'm going to <insert location/activity/time>. If you want to and you should tag along. Up to you. Cya.'

Gets to the point, you are not asking, you are telling her, you've got a plan, but you sound like you have alternatives if she doesn't. Pick a time after 7pm because night-time is about romance.

It's beats the hell out of this wussy message: 'You are the most beautiful women in the world. I love you so much. Please please will you go out with me? Please. I will kill myself if you don't. You are my precious darling.'

That_Guy

chainsaws wrote: »

Send her this message.

'Hey <girl's name>. Your feeling good? I'm going to <insert location/activity/time>. If you want to and you should tag along. Up to you. Cya.'

Gets to the point, you are not asking, you are telling her, you've got a plan, but you sound like you have alternatives if she doesn't. Pick a time after 7pm because night-time is about romance.

It's beats the hell out of this wussy message: 'You are the most beautiful women in the world. I love you so much. Please please will you go out with me? Please. I will kill myself if you don't. You are my precious darling.'

I disagree.

A simple, "Hey, how are you? I had a really nice time with you that night. If you'd like to get together for coffee or get someting to eat sometime you can give me call if you'd like on this number. 08........"

chainsaws

That_Guy wrote: »

I disagree.

A simple, "Hey, how are you? I had a really nice time with you that night. If you'd like to get together for coffee or get someting to eat sometime you can give me call if you'd like on this number. 08........"

Firstly the question comes across like she is sick in hospital.
Second a girl doesn't want to know if a guy had a nice time.
She knows he did. She wants him to give her a nice time.
A coffee in the afternoon sounds really really exciting.:rolleyes:
She might fit that mind-numbing chore in between her dentist appointment and her colonic irrigation.
She is being given the option of saying 'no' from the get go.

That_Guy

chainsaws wrote: »

Firstly the question comes across like she is sick in hospital.

Are you kidding me?

Second a girl doesn't want to know if a guy had a nice time.
She know he did. She wants him to give her a nice time.

And how would you know that she doesn't want to know this?

A coffee in the afternoon sounds really really exciting.:rolleyes:
She might fit that mind-numbing chore in between her dentist appointment and her colonic irrigation.
She is being given the option of saying 'no' from the get go.

Come off it will you? It'll be their second time meeting where they can get to know each other in a non pressure situation on both of them.

chainsaws

That_Guy wrote: »

Are you kidding me?

I am kidding.

And how would you know that she doesn't want to know this?

She's a woman.:D

Come off it will you? It'll be their second time meeting where they can get to know each other in a non pressure situation on both of them.

Seriously though.
Coffee sounds too much like a date which is pressure and girls don't like that because it means they have to make a choice.
Nobody likes being put on the spot.
I would do something totally un-date like going to a bowling alley, paintballing or skateboarding or something different like that and bring both male and female friends along.
That way if she likes the OP she will have to compete for his attention.

That_Guy

chainsaws wrote: »

I am kidding.

Well thank fcuk for that.

She's a woman.:D

:rolleyes::rolleyes:

Seriously though.
Coffee sounds too much like a date which is pressure and girls don't like that because it means they have to make a choice.
Nobody likes being put on the spot.
I would do something totally un-date like going to a bowling alley, paintballing or skateboarding or something different like that and bring both male and female friends along.
That way if she likes the OP she will have to compete for his attention.

Eh... It is a date. He clearly likes the girl and wants it to possibly go somewhere. What better way than to start things off by getting to know each other one on one in a non pressure environment.

Then if things go well, do the fun date at a later time.

Compete for his attention??? Good Jesus.

LegacyUser

I would do something totally un-date like going to a bowling alley, paintballing or skateboarding or something different like that and bring both male and female friends along.
That way if she likes the OP she will have to compete for his attention.

yeah that'd work if the OP was 16! why should he make her compete for his attention, shes not a bloody dog to be trained.... he's a grown man, if he likes her why on earth would he start playing juvenile games?

Coffee sounds too much like a date which is pressure and girls don't like that because it means they have to make a choice.
Nobody likes being put on the spot.

If she likes him she'll say yes if she doesn't she won't, its not rocket science.
Most women would be flattered to be asked out...
Oh heaven forbid a woman has to make a choice....seriously what kind of comment is that to make ffs? its a coffee, its a yes or no answer.

shellyboo

chainsaws wrote: »

Coffee sounds too much like a date which is pressure and girls don't like that because it means they have to make a choice.

Oh chainsaws you're totally right, us women don't want to bother our pretty little heads with things like decisions. We all just want a big clever man to come along and tell us what to do instead. Swoon!

/sarcasm

In all seriousness, not all women act in the exact same way, or think the exact same way. We are, in fact, unique human beings. And you'll find that most of us like to be treated accordingly, particularly by someone who claims to LIKE us. Being made to compete for someone's attention when they've asked you out on a date is pathetic in the extreme.

OP, mail the girl, flirt, chat, get her number, ask her out. Same as you'd have done if you got her number - she accepted your request, she obviously doesn't have a problem with you contacting her on Facebook.

chainsaws

shellyboo wrote: »

Oh chainsaws you're totally right, us women don't want to bother our pretty little heads with things like decisions. We all just want a big clever man to come along and tell us what to do instead. Swoon!

/sarcasm

In all seriousness, not all women act in the exact same way, or think the exact same way. We are, in fact, unique human beings. And you'll find that most of us like to be treated accordingly, particularly by someone who claims to LIKE us. Being made to compete for someone's attention when they've asked you out on a date is pathetic in the extreme.

OP, mail the girl, flirt, chat, get her number, ask her out. Same as you'd have done if you got her number - she accepted your request, she obviously doesn't have a problem with you contacting her on Facebook.

Women like dominant men. They don't like guys who are needy.
The OP shouldn't do what she expects.
The whole meet for coffee thing has been done a thousand times before.
It absolutely reeks of neediness, pleading and insecurity.
A woman hates guys who have absolutely gone out on a limb and planted a make or break decision in their laps.

dearg lady

chainsaws wrote: »

Women like dominant men. They don't like guys who are needy.
The OP shouldn't do what she expects.
The whole meet for coffee thing has been done a thousand times before.
It absolutely reeks of neediness, pleading and insecurity.
A woman hates guys who have absolutely gone out on a limb and planted a make or break decision in their laps.

How exactly does asking soemone out for one coffee reek of neediness :rolleyes:

If she's like the guy it's an easy decision-yes.
If she doesn't like the guy it's an easy decision-no.

Honestly I so despise this playing hard to get nonsense. Don't throw yourself at someone, but don't feign disinterest either. I'd lose interest in a man like that very quickly.

and chainsaws, do not for a minute think you are speaking for all women.

OP – When she met you she clearly liked you a lot and you know her better than any of us because you spent time with her and we did not.

So my advice is defo contact her. You have nothing to lose by doing it and nothing to gain by not doing it.

As for what to say… ignore everyone here who has been writing that email for you… she liked you when you met her… just continue being yourself because that is what she liked the first time. Forget what you think she wants to hear or read, do what feels right to YOU. That is what you did last time, and clearly it worked a charm.

Finally, do not be so worried about good looking model girls having loads of guys coming on to her and so she would not like to hear from you. In fact you may find the exact opposite is true in that so many guys see a girl like that and think like you that almost no one goes up to her or tries it on. Sometimes beauty can be a ward, not a draw, and you may find you are a welcome change for her.

LegacyUser

chainsaws wrote: »

Women like dominant men. They don't like guys who are needy.
The OP shouldn't do what she expects.
The whole meet for coffee thing has been done a thousand times before.
It absolutely reeks of neediness, pleading and insecurity.
A woman hates guys who have absolutely gone out on a limb and planted a make or break decision in their laps.

Says who? you? You know the mind of every woman on the planet do you? oh please....

Women like dominant men, what century are you living in! Maybe going after insecure, airhead women who need a man to make all their decisions for them might work for you chainsaws, but this girl sounds like shes an independent kind of woman who'd run a mile at the thought that a man would expect her to be so submissive...

Ugh OP seriously please ignore all chainsaws advice, if ever there was a way to make a woman run far far away its by following his advice. It reeks of this "Pickup artist" cr*p, trying to flip the situation so the guy has all the power and the woman has to jump when he says so.

chainsaws wrote: »

'Hey <girl's name>. Your feeling good? I'm going to <insert location/activity/time>. If you want to and you should tag along. Up to you. Cya.'

Gets to the point, you are not asking, you are telling her, you've got a plan, but you sound like you have alternatives if she doesn't.

If a guy said this to me my skin would actually crawl...smarmy doesn't even begin to describe it.

and chainsaws, do not for a minute think you are speaking for all women.

+1

do not be so worried about good looking model girls having loads of guys coming on to her and so she would not like to hear from you. In fact you may find the exact opposite is true in that so many guys see a girl like that and think like you that almost no one goes up to her or tries it on. Sometimes beauty can be a ward, not a draw, and you may find you are a welcome change for her.

Completely agree with this

WhodahWoodah

chainsaws wrote: »

I would do something totally un-date like going to a bowling alley, paintballing or skateboarding or something different like that and bring both male and female friends along.

lol Don't suggest a date where you actually shoot her with paintballs or she might take a tumble from a skateboard!! She's a fricking model - her looks are her livelihood - so she doesn't need to be covered with bruises!!! Do the coffee thing or ask her to meet for a pint if you'd rather meet in the evening.