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Problems With Hardness

  • 26-10-2010 1:50am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi, I'm a 17yo male in my LC year. Lately life has been kicking me in the teeth a lot and I don't really know where to start but I'll focus on one thing:

    I started going out with a girl during the summer and it was all grand until it came to the sex part...when we went to have sex my erection was just not hard enough for me to enter her. This has been causing me serious stress because like I'm 17 I should be in the prime of my life here! I looked it up on the internet and it said that a possible cause could be excessive masturbation....So I took the advice and laid off it for 2 weeks. There was definitely an improvement but it still wasn't enough when we tried again.

    I don't really know what to do as I'd be way too mortified to go to the doctor but I know I'll have to... So basically has anyone ever experienced this before and if you have what did you do?


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Well ok so you cut down on the masturbating will help but also you need to relax and let it happen. Remember an erection starts in the head so you have to be turned on there and everything else will follow. Just take it slow and take your time.
    There is definitely nothing wrong with you you just need to start the ignition again and get driving.
    Good luck


  • #3
    token56
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,638 ✭✭✭token56


    A few things that might help narrow down the problem.

    I'm going to presume you are wearing a condom when trying to have sex (correct me if I'm wrong). Is there any difference in your erection when you put a condom compared to before? If so this is something you can address.

    You also mention masturbation, when masturbating on your own do you notice a considerable difference in your erection compared to when you are attempting to have sex? You should be able to tell pretty easily. If there is then its possible its mostly down to anxiety or confidence issues which can also be pretty common and can be overcome too.

    If its something that is noticeable all the time, i.e. on your own or with someone then its something you might want to get checked out by a doctor and there is absolutely no shame in doing so. Its the same as going to check out any other part of your body.

    But whatever it is there will be a solution so dont worry yourself too much over it which is easy to do with an issue like this.


  • #4
    Overheal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 86,729 ✭✭✭✭Overheal


    Sounds like sexual anxiety. You're possibly over-thinking things when you try to have sex. My advice: Don't think. Relax.


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