Bloody facebook...

LegacyUser

Guys what do you do when you split with someone re the whole facebook thing...my ex dumped me 2 weeks ago, fair enough, things were coming to an end we werent getting on. He asked could we try to stay friends, so I didn't delete him off facebook, there has been no contact from either side, since I collected my stuff (we were living together for 3 years) but he deleted me off facebook the other day- fair enough again his choice...but I have lots of his family on my facebook and his friends. I have seen photos of him at a family do this weekend, which killed me, him with his arm around a girl, and everyone partying in what was my home up until 2 weeks ago....just seems too much information, but I feel really rude if I delete them and think it makes me look really bitter. Have tried hiding a few but still pics pop up...or comments etc...

Sgt Pepper 64

Simple, just stay off Facebook, either permanently or for a good while.
Go back to old fashioned communications, phone, letter etc.
Use the time you save to get out and meet new people and you will soon move on.
Good luck

Miss Fluff

If you want to make a clean break of it then you need to delete his family and friends as well. It's the only way really.

tenchi-fan

On your news feed, click the X for "remove" and you will be given the option to "Hide NAME". that will stop them appearing in your news feed.

you can also add them to a list called "hide" and then when posting comments choose "visible to all people - except hide" to stop them reading certain posts.

chainsaws

facebook nightmare wrote: »

Guys what do you do when you split with someone re the whole facebook thing...my ex dumped me 2 weeks ago, fair enough, things were coming to an end we werent getting on. He asked could we try to stay friends, so I didn't delete him off facebook, there has been no contact from either side, since I collected my stuff (we were living together for 3 years) but he deleted me off facebook the other day- fair enough again his choice...but I have lots of his family on my facebook and his friends. I have seen photos of him at a family do this weekend, which killed me, him with his arm around a girl, and everyone partying in what was my home up until 2 weeks ago....just seems too much information, but I feel really rude if I delete them and think it makes me look really bitter. Have tried hiding a few but still pics pop up...or comments etc...

Is this about facebook or is it about him with his arm around another girl?
The relationship is over, you broke up with him and he is single so he can do what he likes.
More importantly you can do what you like.
You should move on, meet someone else and get over it.
If you deleted your account on facebook it would probably be something else reminding you of him.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself, go out and meet someone new and stop torturing yourself.
Best of luck.

LegacyUser

I don't understand why this would even be a dilemma. It's simple: delete them!

I went through exactly the same thing 14 months ago. Going out with my ex for 4 years. Living together for 1. He ended things.

We remained friends on facebook for a while but I couldn't handle seeing other women posing with him in nightclubs and such, so about a month after our split I deleted him, his cousins, sister and our other mutual friends who no longer needed to be a part of my life.

If I meet them on the street, I'll still smile and say hello, but I don't need to follow their day-to-day life now. It may sound cold but that's what I needed to heal and I doubt any of them would've wanted to hold me back.

I wasn't going to move on when I found myself clicking in to see what he was doing without me in his life. I did this for about a week, then realised I was thinking of him more than ever. It was killing me to see him having a ball while I was at home miserable.

Hitting delete on each of those who would have pictures of him felt like a physical weight being lifted off my back. From that moment, I immediately began to move on.

Nobody likes to run into their ex in their local pub. Most of us would avoid that situation if we could, right? So why in the world would you allow yourself to run into every element of their daily life by seeing specifically when they move on (i.e. update in status), etc.

That's not progress in moving forward. It's pathetic. It's one of the reasons I loathe facebook.

An ex is history, the past. We do not need to know their every move once the relationship has ended. If it means deleting members of their family or their closest friends in order to move on, then so be it.

When a relationship ends, it's important to put yourself first for a while. Your healing should be your number one priority. Knowing you won't be seeing what he got up to at the weekend will immediately be a weight off your shoulders.

Start deleting and good luck!

The Nipp

delete account and be done with it.

magneticimpulse

DELETE account. (or at least the Deactivate button). I had to do this as im finishing off studies and it was getting annoying with everyone asking me if i was finished yet and the slightest moment i was on it...people would give out to me.

Life is wonderful without facebook. sure 1 or 2 people asked why it was gone...just said spent too much time on it...and that was it. Not looked back since. Can always reopen it when you want. Your real friends will still be able to contact you by phone or email. People did exist before facebook and did communicate before...

Gman1

facebook nightmare wrote: »

Guys what do you do when you split with someone re the whole facebook thing...my ex dumped me 2 weeks ago, fair enough, things were coming to an end we werent getting on. He asked could we try to stay friends, so I didn't delete him off facebook, there has been no contact from either side, since I collected my stuff (we were living together for 3 years) but he deleted me off facebook the other day- fair enough again his choice...but I have lots of his family on my facebook and his friends. I have seen photos of him at a family do this weekend, which killed me, him with his arm around a girl, and everyone partying in what was my home up until 2 weeks ago....just seems too much information, but I feel really rude if I delete them and think it makes me look really bitter. Have tried hiding a few but still pics pop up...or comments etc...

His deleting you was a way to cope with the break up, seeing statuses can remind you of your ex.
Best thing to do, is to block him and other people associated with him, that you are not really friends with. This will take him off your mind.

Also its not rude to do this, he did it first.

Katgurl

Delete them, its fairly standard & they will understand if they even notice.

LighterGuy

I agree.

Delete his family as friends or Delete facebook entirely.
I think the first option definally goes without saying.

Lolnouska

The Nipp wrote: »

delete account and be done with it.

I really don't see how the OP deleting her account is important here. She broke up with her BF, not all her friends on facebook etc, she shouldn't have to isolate herself from the it just cause they split up.

OP - like other posters have said, Just delete the family members/mutual friends of his that you don't talk to unless you're good friends with them aswel. They'll understand why - even if you don't tell them.