Inconsiderate college friend

LC2010HIS

Hello!
Just a problem im having with my friends or "friends" ...Ever since september, my head is being wrecked by my friends who are in college. They're going out all the time in the city and keep bugging and pressurizing me to go out.

One friend in particular, is really on my back for going out. Pretty sure shes an alcoholic the way she goes on. She manipulates me about night outs etc and when i say no she gets odd, makes me the bad guy and ignores me for a week. Very immature alright but its like life and death to her. She goes out every weekend and ive been told im "boring" and reminded im "19 like" 24/7....The fact is Im repeating, Im not entirely into the whole going out and Im more of a mad saver than a spender and hate spending it on drink.
She really is on my case, acting like a 6year old child. Im boring cause i dont get so drunk my friend carries me home (refering to an incident where i had to carry her she was so bad.) I always get a text about at least one event at the weekend, its bloody ridiculous! She doesnt recognise im repeating and i also work at the weekend.
When I remind her of my own life, she says "oh i can just ask for the shift off" and being completely honest, when we go out, this friend just gets polluted and i just watch her make a show of herself. Never worth it in the end. She is a great girl sometimes, but Im sick of her walking all over me also. Any way i can get it through her head, that unlike her (whos in a university and should take it more seriously) i actually have priorities, have respect for my working parents etc? Dont wanna lose her friendship either..

Thank you!

dory

She doesn't sound like much of a friend to be honest. How does she not understand you're doing the leaving? I drifted from a few of my friends at that age because of differing going out patterns. I drifted back in their direction a few years later, well those who were real friends.
You can either tell her to cop on, or just ignore her. But certainly don't jeopradise your Leaving for her!

UpCork

I think everyone has been in this sort of position at one time or another and it does smack of being highly inconsiderate on the 'friends' behalf.

I kind of had that problem in reverse. When I was in college and up to exam time or project deadline, my friend without fail (who wasn't in college) would ring me up and badger me to go out. I'd be so sick of it. I didn't want to go out as I had a deadline to meet so I'd have to face her wrath if I didn't. In the end I just said to her 'I have deadlines to meet, college is important to me, I can't be going out all the time'. When that didn't work I just didn't go out. There's comes a time when you have to please, number 1 and that's you. Your Leaving Cert year is too important to throw away. You can go out all you want once it's over and you are in college or at work. Your friend needs to get a grip.

lau1247

she'll talk the talk, you just walk your walk..

You know your priorities.. you are more happy with staying in than going out.. just stick with it.. Don't let them talk you down.. What they say is 'Designed' to just justify what they want to do