Foreskin Question

BigProblem

Hi People

Any advice would be really appreciated.
Here is my problem...I am a 30 year old virgin (i know that is a problem in itself :mad:) I have been going out with my gf for past 4 months and now we are ready to have sex. My problem is my foreskin does not roll back and my penis does not come beyond the foreskin. The foreskin is tight! Is this normal? Do I need to get circumcised? Should the penis not go outside the foreskin? When I eventually have sex with my gf, will i have problems having sex or will foreskin split? Obviously I am really worried about this because this could be really embarrasing when i am with my gf.

Thanks for reading and any advice would be really appreciated!!!

LegacyUser

Hey OP,

My foreskin is the same! Its isnt not normal, but it is meant to go back. I say its normal because I know a lot of people who are the same.

You dont have to get circumcised, no. There's creams you can get and excercises to help, but I wont elaborate in case its medical advice (not allowed on here).

I imagine it would be a bit painful though...not something I'd enjoy anyway. Good luck!

Ickle Magoo

Obviously nobody on the internet can tell you if you require circumcision or what you are likely to experience during intercourse - if you are at all concerned you should make an appointment with your GP.

BigProblem

thanks for help, will it be painful to have sex if foreskin does not come back?

Dean820

BigProblem wrote: »

thanks for help, will it be painful to have sex if foreskin does not come back?

It probably won't be painful to have sex with it forward. But you should maybe warn your girlfriend not to pull the foreskin back because that WOULD be painful since your penis would be very sensitive.

Some will tell you get a circumcision to correct this and you can do that if you want but this is totally fixable. But you'll need patience. You need to try and pull the foreskin back a little day by day. It may take a few weeks to get it totally behind the head. Try and do it in the shower or bath. It will take about six months to get the penis normal and less sensitive to touch thereabouts.

There's a massive topic about this somewhere in the Gentleman's section I think its called right here on boards.

This is actually a very common problem so try not to make yourself out to be a freak or anything. Good luck.

holystungun9

I remember being worried about the same thing for a long time. In general I have the tight foreskin thing too but it is fine to put on a condom like that. It can happen that in the pre fun and games that the foreskin does come back itself but nothing should be forced. Do not let this be an issue at the time, comfort is the most important thing and make sure you leave plenty of "slack"so to speak at the top for your stuff to go. Just like if you were putting on your sock but didn't pull them up. Looks funny put hey willies are weird anyway.

LegacyUser

I can only echo what people are saying here. This is more common than you think and I, having been in the same situation, was suprised by how many threads discuss the issue (including how the issue is not discussed among men).

Your foreskin is like a muscle - it needs a work out to be able to work properly. Everyone is differnt - for most men (but by no menas all) this happens naturally. For others they need to manually work at it while for still others they might require a circumcision

I spent some time searching the net and a few interesting points came up. Firstly, how people think that circumcision is the only answer - I for one was in no rush to go under the knife!! Second, while not always the case stretching can improve the situation. I can only speak from my own experiences but I started doing the strecthing in the shower. Some people said you would see improvements after a month, for me it was more like 4 months but I never gave up and I went from going from being nowhere near able to retract when flacid to being able to retract my foreskin when erect. So it most definitly can work.

What helped me as well was that I could talk to my gf and share the whole experience with her. Like other posts state, its not the be all and end being able to retract.

A word of advice with doctors and GP's get a second opinion if you go down teh circumcision route. Its not always required but from reading other posts not all doctors out there really know about the stretching tecniques

Major Lovechild

Hey buddy, sounds like you have phimosis. <snip>

WindSock

There's a good thread stickied in the Gentlemens Club forum that may be handy for you to read.

http://boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=1136

kjl

OK OP, you are a virgin, but surely you have masturbated before. Whats that like, how does that do it for you?

Ickle Magoo

Can we make sure diagnosis are only made by the doctor please.

BigProblem

yea KJL i do masturbate, majority of the time it is fine, sometimes it can get sore around the top of the foreskin after finishing masturbating. the foreskin gets streched there is sometimes abit of redness/soreness. i will try to try to stretch the foreskin so.

Arthurdaly

This happened to me for a few months when I was a teenager, I know you are a virgin but you have not tugged? Your wash the sheets bill must be massive?

WhodahWoodah

You never know - speaking as a female, I say talk to your GF and maybe she'll "give you a hand" with the stretching!! Soz about the bad pun but I absolutely had to!! But it would mean that this could go from being an anxiety causing issue to being a bit of fun, especially if you get massage oils etc involved! Enjoy!!

Ickle Magoo

No more jokes or puns please, they are considered both off-topic and unhelpful.

WhodahWoodah

Ickle Magoo wrote: »

No more jokes or puns please, they are considered both off-topic and unhelpful.

Sorry for the pun but I seriously did mean what I said. I think if the OP thinks the GF might be on for it he should see if she wants to help. The pun was a bit insensitive of me though so sorry to the OP.

BigProblem

hey no problem with pun, thanks for advice if anyone else has anymore advice please let me know

LegacyUser

Hi OP I have the same foreskin problem as you except I am not a virgin.

My foreskin does come over the head when I am soft but if I do it when I am hard it is very very painful!!

Anytime I have tried to have sex it has been agony, in fact one time I ended up with paraphimosos which meant that my foreskin got stuck behind the head of my penis and the nerves got trapped or something (had to go to the emergency room and had 3 doctors pulling at my penis!!!) but all is ok now.

Based on my experiences I am considering getting a circumsision as I do not enjoy sex one bit, far too painful! Think there is an operation where they cut the skin a little to loosen the foreskin which I might look into...

I am not a doctor so I can't give you medical advice however from my experience why not try loosening the foreskin by yourself? See if you can get it over the head while soft and work from there. Best of luck and if you are at all worried see your gp!! Remember circumsion is not reversible!!! So think wisely

BigProblem

i dont think it would be possible to get the foreskin over when i am soft, there is more room to move the foreskin when hard, i will try the stretches when hard so, cheers