Do Irish people who settle in the UK become V mean with their $ (my sisters have)

mr_happy

I have two sisters and both them are their partners are very high earners.
One couple earns over 200K PA after tax sterling.

When they are in Ireland they are prone to very tight.

Example I brought the niece and nephews out and after spending money all day and giving them a great day out we went to a smoothie bar. My sis was nervous going in as it involved money. She asked me if we wanted to go halfs on smoothies for two of the kids. I was shocked.

The other sis forgets her wallet when going to a restaurant. Everyone expects this from her now.

My question is, is it normal for English people to be mean. Do the Irish abroad tend to become tight?

Teutorix

I thought irish people in general were mean.

Celly Smunt

its an 800 year thing,best to stay out of it

Koloman

Teutorix wrote: »

I thought irish people in general were mean.

After the budget we'll be getting even meaner!

Scuid Mhór

i've never seen anything of the like.

Yawns

maybe they can't believe how much everything costs over here compared to there?

starbelgrade

You're sisters are tight. Don't try to pawn it off on an entire nation - it's your problem.

El Weirdo

But they use £ in the UK.

Sofa King Great

Is it the English? Is it the Irish in England? I'd look a bit closer to home. Your family are tight arses

WindSock

starbelgrade wrote: »

You're sisters are tight. Don't try to pawn it off on an entire nation - it's your problem.

Agree, you shouldn't accept your sisters behaviour for always doing the Australian Haka with her wallet. Show her up and don't play along with it.

Teutorix

starbelgrade wrote: »

You're sisters are tight.

Need i say more? :cool:

alwaysadub

Your sisters are just stingy.

stovelid

Time to add parsimony to the Brit roll call of shame.

Thought that was the Jew lads, but?

El Weirdo wrote: »

But they use £ in the UK.

Sarf London they use dollar innit?

Celly Smunt

stovelid wrote: »

Sarf London they use dollar innit?

norf landan masseive!

mr_happy

Sofa King Great wrote: »

Is it the English? Is it the Irish in England? I'd look a bit closer to home. Your family are tight arses

The Irish side of the family are fine.

OPENROAD

Probably shocked at the prices of things here imo

Dudess

You don't REALLY think moving to another country makes a person stingy, do you OP? Like, really?

OPENROAD

Dudess wrote: »

You don't REALLY think moving to another country makes a person stingy, do you OP? Like, really?

Maybe not but it does make you more prudent, certainly if you start comparing prices.

pjproby

all Brits are tight, they have just become naturalized

mr_happy

Dudess wrote: »

You don't REALLY think moving to another country makes a person stingy, do you OP? Like, really?

Im trying to understand them. They moved from Ireland in the 80s, no work here. Living in another country for 30 years is going to change you. You are not going to be same person if you had of stayed here.

I get a bit upset with their carry on when they are home. The common thing is the UK residence. Maybe they would have grown up as tight here, I will never know.

g5fd6ow0hseima

mr_happy wrote: »

The other sis forgets her wallet when going to a restaurant. Everyone expects this from her now.

Only one way to solve that. The next time you're in a restaurant and it comes to paying time just get in a little dig 'oh I suppose you've forget to bring your wallet again' before she gets the chance to make excuses.

tony1kenobi

mr_happy wrote: »

Im trying to understand them. They moved from Ireland in the 80s, no work here. Living in another country for 30 years is going to change you. You are not going to be same person if you had of stayed here.

I get a bit upset with their carry on when they are home. The common thing is the UK residence. Maybe they would have grown up as tight here, I will never know.

You went the internet to complain about buying your niece or nephew half smoothie......who is the tight c*nt in this scenario?

PanchoVilla

Or maybe it's more to do with the people who leave this country do so because they actually understand the value of money. It seems lots of people living in Ireland are very comfortable with spending 250k on a house that cost about 70k to build.

Example I brought the niece and nephews out and after spending money all day and giving them a great day out we went to a smoothie bar.

Case in point. A great day out =/= spending a ton of cash on kids. You could have brought them to the park, spent nothing whatsoever, and they'd still have fun. Maybe you should learn from your sister's example instead of criticizing her.

mr_happy

tony1kenobi wrote: »

You went the internet to complain about buying your niece or nephew half smoothie......who is the tight c*nt in this scenario?

I had brought them out all day and paid for everything up to that point, forgot to say that. It was unbelievable that I was expected to pay for half of the smoothies after I had forked out all day. This sis gets really uneasy when she has to spend a bean.

I told my folks about the day out and they were shocked and silent as they dont want to cause a fight when they are on hols from the UK.

JONJO THE MISER

In fairness u agree with em.

grizzly

OP, stop bad mouthing your family and get some sleep.

mr_happy

PanchoVilla wrote: »

Case in point. A great day out =/= spending a ton of cash on kids. You could have brought them to the park, spent nothing whatsoever, and they'd still have fun. Maybe you should learn from your sister's example instead of criticizing her.

I dont think I have anything to learn from her.

We had an amazing day and it didnt cost me much, but it cost her 0 and that was important to her. She wanted to bail back to the folks for free food when the kids were starting to get hungry. We wanted to chill with some smothies. She is wealthy and she wanted me to go halfs on a 15 euro bill? I had bought her about 30 euros of veg food as well that day to go in the folks fridge especially for her that day, it was in the boot.

She has form like this for being mean. Both of them do.

mr_happy

grizzly wrote: »

OP, stop bad mouthing your family and get some sleep.

Your right. Im off to mi leaba.

I love to see them, but I feel they take the piss when this stuff happens and it happens every visit.

I wish they werent like that but thats the way they are.

You've 2 sisters who are vey tight?






Awwwww yeah!

TouchingVirus

Man up and say something about it - it clearly bothers you so just do it. If they take offence then so be it, at least you won't have to fork over your cash for them in future

PanchoVilla

Example I brought the niece and nephews out and after spending money all day and giving them a great day out

mr_happy wrote: »

I dont think I have anything to learn from her.

We had an amazing day and it didnt cost me much, but it cost her 0 and that was important to her. She wanted to bail back to the folks for free food when the kids were starting to get hungry. We wanted to chill with some smothies. She is wealthy and she wanted me to go halfs on a 15 euro bill? I had bought her about 30 euros of veg food as well that day to go in the folks fridge especially for her that day, it was in the boot.

She has form like this for being mean. Both of them do.

So which is it, you spent money all day or didn't spend much money? Either way, what she does or doesn't do with her money should be no concern of yours at the end of the day. People who are genuinely generous with their money don't ask for things in return. The fact that you went home and complained to your parents and are now complaining on boards doesn't really speak highly of you.

I used to spend loads of money on my sister and her kids until she stole 400 euros off me while I was staying at her house. I didn't complain, I didn't involve anyone else, I just stopped speaking to her. It's as simple as that. If your sister's attitude towards money is so offensive to you then just tell her you don't want to speak to her anymore. If it's not worth losing your sister over then just suck it up and get over it. Just don't spend so much money next time she's over, she'll probably thank you as she seems the type to teach her kids the value of money.

DeVore

Offer to loan her the money. Dont "pay her way", hand her a 50 and say "its ok you can pay me back when we get home". Then ask her for the 50 later.

I hate tightwads too but thankfully my family usually fight over who is going to PAY the bill. (and we didnt grow up rich by any means).

DeV.

PanchoVilla

DeVore wrote: »

Offer to loan her the money. Dont "pay her way", hand her a 50 and say "its ok you can pay me back when we get home". Then ask her for the 50 later.

I hate tightwads too but thankfully my family usually fight over who is going to PAY the bill. (and we didnt grow up rich by any means).

DeV.

In fairness there's a difference between being generous and being a fool with money. For all we know the OP's sister could be donating 50% of her wages to charity. Maybe she doesn't like the idea of being ripped off and just refuses to spend money in this country. I'm the first person to offer to pay a bill but I hate the cost of living in this country knowing so much of my money goes to people who don't need it.

COUCH WARRIOR

are your sisters wealthy or are their husbands. Maybe their husbands are control freek dicks who won't give their wives stay at home wives any money and you don't know because your too mouthing off on the internet.:mad:

stovelid

PanchoVilla wrote: »

In fairness there's a difference between being generous and being a fool with money.

Think Devore has a point. I'm from a poor family too and most of them would fight over buying a round even if they would worry about it the next day.

Let's face it: any Irish person on a big salary that welshes a round has forgotten how to be Irish. Or indeed English as they're one of the few countries in Europe that share our foolhardy but utterly endearing dedication to "standing your round".