7 year relationship ended, should I feel worse

LegacyUser

Hi all,
This mind seem odd as everyone is different and relationships vary but my GF of 7 years came out 2 weeks ago and said she want to see other people and wanted a break to do so.
I said no way am I ok with you taken a break to sleep around and have the door open to come back to me.

I think it was just her way of forcing me to end it so she could play the marter.

Any way, 2 weeks on now and I have to say I don't feel broken hearted or depressed.
The first week was just a blur, probably in shock, then the Sunday after I was in bits, cried all day and felt so back. Chest was just breaking open.

Since then I have felt very little like that, only anger towards her and jealousy when I think of her with someone else.

My boss and team leader, colleagues and family memner have all suggested time off work but tbh the distraction is best I think.

But it just seems like other think I should be in a lot worse condition and I am starting to think the worst is to come.

I attend therapy every Friday so that could be allowing me to deal with this there and avoid the hurt 24/7.

What do you think?

Could I still be in denial about the whole this or just dealing with extremely well.

The woman was literally my life for 7 years. Spent every free second talking, texting and just hanging out. To go from that to not speaking I just feel like it didn't matter.

Maybe it was over for a long time and I just didn't recognize it.

Any advice would be great.

Sorry for the rant - Was only meant to be a few lines

Beruthiel

Everybody is different.
Maybe you will feel more grief later, maybe you won't.
You're already talking to a professional about it, that's healthy.
Never expect yourself to feel something you're 'supposed' to.
Just take the day as it comes and always be honest with yourself.
Best of luck.

Dude111

Shoulditbeworse wrote:

I said no way am I ok with you taken a break to sleep around and have the door open to come back to me.

Good for you for standing up,i can tell you really loved her.....

This was quite mean of her and i can only hope she will return to you;crying and saying she knows she made a big mistake!!

Good luck,god bless

Wagon

Shoulditbeworse wrote: »

Hi all,
This mind seem odd as everyone is different and relationships vary but my GF of 7 years came out 2 weeks ago and said she want to see other people and wanted a break to do so.
I said no way am I ok with you taken a break to sleep around and have the door open to come back to me.

I think it was just her way of forcing me to end it so she could play the marter.

This is why...

Since then I have felt very little like that, only anger towards her and jealousy when I think of her with someone else.

..you're like this. Can't blame you. You can't treat someone like that after 7 years and expect them to just agree. So you're mind says "**** it, lets leave her behind" and you are.

And fair play for not being a doormat. Spiffing good show old chap!

LegacyUser

And fair play for not being a doormat. Spiffing good show old chap!

Ill second this

Best of luck to you!!!

S23

You sound like you're doing alright. I wouldn't analyse it too much. You're obviously hurting somewhat and doing your best to work through this in a couple of different ways. Just hang in there and keep going. And if one day you have a really bad one and feel awful and have another day on the couch/in bed thats allowed too.

Also, I'll say a big +1 to not putting up with her **** and having the fortitude to stand up to her and call her on what she was doing. Not an easy thing to do when you know it means the end of such a long relationship.

Curry Addict

its a bit of a shock and fair play u did the right thing. u will go through many different stages of recovery from this and it will take time so just let it flow naturally.

Moomoo1

often it's easier to deal with those things when you are angry. And yeah, you should be angry.