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Family Woes

  • 19-10-2010 10:59am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi Folks, just need to get this off my chest....

    Basicly for no real reason my family has disintergrated, Now i'm in my late 20's so it's not like we're kids. but as a family we've certainly had our ups and our downs (more downs than ups). I just find it sad and depressing that it's end up like this.
    I haven't spoken to my older brother or younger sister in 6 months. I have tried but there's no responce. I know your going to say but people move on and have other things in there lifes to worry about etc. and I probably feel it more than most as I'm the youngest and have had a bit of a rough patch lately. but, I just think it's sad we don't even return calls any more. the way things are going I doubt we'll even see each other at xmas.


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  • #2
    thefeatheredcat
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    OP,

    I know what it's like and it got to the point for me that I felt a bit abandoned. But it's so worth making the effort. Yes, they may be busy, but be open and upfront and ask if things are ok, and I mean really ok. They may have worries that they don't want to burden you with, may be really busy with other things, but the point is to make time.

    Over the years of living away from home for college and work my folks made a point of always ringing be on a Sunday night... It was nice to have time set aside and even though the time and day has changed they still touch base at least once a week and get the news from the rest and I use that as a follow up to contact them.

    Be open about having been through a rough patch - they might have just thought all was grand and dandy with you and that you were busy. While my sister and I were never close growing up, we're a pillar of support to eachother and keep regular contact and if after a few days I don't hear from her, I find some reason to text her to check that she's alright. She does the same.

    Maybe instead of sending them texts or calling, maybe send something through the post in a thinking of you kind of way? Or send a text asking how one of your other siblings is getting on and if they have heard from them?

    And do look forward to meeting up at Christmas and having a long chat with eachother and catching up. And I think even specifically sending a text to all siblings on meeting up together away from your folks/partners and kids would be a great idea.

    Sometimes I feel so forgotten about by my siblings that that thought has run through my head, but I know they'd be upset and disappointed if I wasn't there.

    If you have a bit of time on your hands at weekends, are you able to visit them and meet up directly? Sometimes that can go a bit further than a text and it's always easier to discuss things in person and more personal to catch up that way.


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