court experiences for child access

miss bubbles

hey was just wondering other people experiences of court for child access? wot kind of time period the dads got and days? friend of mine due her court date soon so any advice wud be appreciated. her son is 2.
thank u:o

Cavehill Red

Each case is judged on its own merits.
It depends on what the father requests firstly. If he only wants the kid one day a week, the court will, all things being equal, likely grant that. If he wants the kid significantly more often, then it will get thrashed out with consideration given to both parents' life situations (work etc).
It is always preferable to work these things out in a mediated setting first, then seek court approval for the agreement. Perhaps your friend ought to contact the father and seek to make an arrangement directly with him, in order that they both avoid the unnecessarily adversarial nature of court.

miss bubbles

cheers love for that. but he already summoned her and he is quite the selfish fella, so i doubt hed do any of this the nice way. he was never denied access he just wanted tings his way and he didnt want to take in2 consideration the best interest of da child. do that make sense?

Cavehill Red

Not really, it sounds anentirely one-sided version to be honest. I suspect the father might see things very differently.
It's not selfish for a parent to wish to have a relationship with their child. The best thing your friend could do is work to separate their outstanding issues with the father from their relationship with him as co-parents of their child.
As I suggested, ideally that should be done by way of a mediated agreement which can then be endorsed by the court. Otherwise, the court will seek to find a middle path that may well suit one parent or none entirely, and will certainly not account for the ups and downs of regular life, when one particular week one of the parents has a family do they wish the child to attend, or they fall ill and can't look after him.
A mediated agreement sets up the opportunity to work together in the child's best interests, and on that basis, the parents can build a new interaction with some flexibility, rather than adhering to a rigid court regime that sooner or later will not suit one or other parent.

miss bubbles

i do not think for one moment its selfish for a father wanting to be a parent. he wants the child at night hours instead of day. he then brings him over to his house and leaves him with his family goes off and does his own thing. is dat wot u call a parent wanting a relationship with their child. im only basing my opinion on the experience in which i no with this particular case. the court is goin ahead so unfortunetly thers no way out of that.

FreudianSlippers

You've got your answer miss bubbles, I don't think posting accusations such as the ones you posted above is really necessary.