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hey i need some advice i made horrible mistake after a argument with my girlfriend and cheated on her and i didnt use a condom on the other girl im worried she can get preganant even if i didnt cum in her. i have heard of precum i had not had sex in 2 days and had went toilet since the last time i cum, i dont want to tell my gf i cheated i know i ****ed up and it wont happen again and i dont want to have contact the other girl. PLEASE HELP. WORRIED

PeakOutput

ask her to get the pill if its not too late

ask her to keep you up to date

get tested

man up and tell your girlfriend

viclemronny

PeakOutput wrote: »

ask her to get the pill if its not too late

ask her to keep you up to date

get tested

man up and tell your girlfriend

Do everything bar the last part. Provided she won't find out, then just keep your mouth shut. You want to tell her to stop feeling guilty and you'll dress it up as being the noble thing to do. You won't feel better but she'll feel worse.

Oh, just to point out, I don't condone your cheating, it's a pretty sh1tty thing to do, but there's no sense throwing petrol on the fire.

Maguined

viclemronny wrote: »

Do everything bar the last part. Provided she won't find out, then just keep your mouth shut. You want to tell her to stop feeling guilty and you'll dress it up as being the noble thing to do. You won't feel better but she'll feel worse.

Oh, just to point out, I don't condone your cheating, it's a pretty sh1tty thing to do, but there's no sense throwing petrol on the fire.

No but there is sense in being truthful to the girlfriend if he cares about her, anyone who suggests not telling their girlfriend they cheated on her and masks it as being "in her best interests" is a coward and a scumbag in my opinion.

Big Pussy Bonpensiero

Yeah, while cheating is the last thing I would do, I still wouldn't advise yeh to tell her about it. She's only going to break up with you. Just make sure it dosen't get back to her...
Unless your one is pregnant, then you have to tell her. Good luck!!

star-pants

Agree with PeakOutput -
Ask the other girl to keep you updated and if you didn't use protection with this other girl, you should get yourself tested for any STIs before you go back and sleep with your girlfriend (though you really should just be honest with her).

PeakOutput

viclemronny wrote: »

Do everything bar the last part. Provided she won't find out, then just keep your mouth shut. You want to tell her to stop feeling guilty and you'll dress it up as being the noble thing to do. You won't feel better but she'll feel worse.

Oh, just to point out, I don't condone your cheating, it's a pretty sh1tty thing to do, but there's no sense throwing petrol on the fire.

its not about you or her feeling better or worse its about giving her the choice

WesternNight

THFC wrote: »

Yeah, while cheating is the last thing I would do, I still wouldn't advise yeh to tell her about it. She's only going to break up with you.

And why on earth shouldn't she be given the choice to do just that? I'd wager she'll find out sooner or later, and if he has any respect for her at all he'd give her the chance to do the dumping rather than have her feel even more duped and betrayed later on.

OP, it's unlikely she's pregnant, but she should take a test if she's late to make sure. If it's been less than 72 hours since you had sex, she could get the morning after pill.

Big Pussy Bonpensiero

WesternNight wrote: »

And why on earth shouldn't she be given the choice to do just that? I'd wager she'll find out sooner or later, and if he has any respect for her at all he'd give her the chance to do the dumping rather than have her feel even more duped and betrayed later on.

OP, it's unlikely she's pregnant, but she should take a test if she's late to make sure. If it's been less than 72 hours since you had sex, she could get the morning after pill.

She has the choice. But there's no point giving her more reason to leave yeh... If he's only going to cheat on her this one time and really wants the relationship to last then he shouldn't tell her. Otherwise the trust will be gone between them and she'll never forget what he did.

star-pants

THFC wrote: »

She has the choice. But there's no point giving her more reason to leave yeh... If he's only going to cheat on her this one time and really wants the relationship to last then he shouldn't tell her. Otherwise the trust will be gone between them and she'll never forget what he did.

No point giving her reason to leave? ... if he's only going to cheat on her this one time? How has she choice if he doesn't tell her?

I'm sorry but that's bullcrap. Didn't tell you I'd a missus cuz I didn't want you having a reason to leave, I was only going to have the one missus...

No they had an argument & he hops into someone elses bed without pause for thought, or thought for protection.
So what he goes back to the gf, all's grand & dandy ''she'll never know'', til they have another argument? or til he gives her something he got off someone else?

No, I'm sorry but that's crap. If all it takes is an argument (not even a break up) to go sleep with someone else then clearly there is an issue with the relationship and it needs discussing. Whether or not he goes into specifics with her is another matter. Not judging the OP, everyone makes mistakes, but just responding to how you feel the OP should deal with the matter. And I'm not saying if someone cheats once they'll always cheat, it can just be a mistake, but it can also be an underlying reason too.

Bottle_of_Smoke

The possibility is there she is pregnant.

Also if she had unprotected sex with you she probably does it with others too. So you could have caught an std. They can take a while to show up in your system, HIV for example may not be detectable up until 3months after

Highly unlikely you caught that but I think it should be up to your girlfriend to decide if she wants to risk it. You should tell her the truth if you're going to continue your relationship

PeakOutput

THFC wrote: »

She has the choice. But there's no point giving her more reason to leave yeh... If he's only going to cheat on her this one time and really wants the relationship to last then he shouldn't tell her. Otherwise the trust will be gone between them and she'll never forget what he did.

by your reasoning, i drink drive, i hit someone, sure i wont stop cause this is the only time iv ever drink drove and ill never do it again so i dont deserve the punishment


cheating = selfish

not telling her cause YOU think YOU can make the decision on her behalf = more selfishnes

inmyday

PeakOutput wrote: »

by your reasoning, i drink drive, i hit someone, sure i wont stop cause this is the only time iv ever drink drove and ill never do it again so i dont deserve the punishment

I agree with this. Well said.

"it wont happen again, drunk, mistake, etc." = bullpoo...
It shouldnt have happened. Op, you should tell your gf the truth straight away.
You had sex with another woman, you deserve to be dumped. Fullstop.
And sex lasted between 2minutes-15minutes im guessing, so within that time, you couldnt stop yourself, and realise I really shouldnt be here.

Man up, you had sex, now face it. And if the other woman is pregnant then you have more important things to worry about than being dumped.

rant over. p.s. I'm a male.

Logical Fallacy

THFC wrote: »

She has the choice. But there's no point giving her more reason to leave yeh... If he's only going to cheat on her this one time and really wants the relationship to last then he shouldn't tell her. Otherwise the trust will be gone between them and she'll never forget what he did.

The trust is already gone. She trusted him, he cheated. End of.

The only thing in your argument that keeps the trust alive now is a lie, and trust built on lies is worth nothing at all to be honest.

Otis Driftwood

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