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LegacyUser

Hi, I was at my oh's house for dinner and he had some mates over who I had never met before. Nerves were a little high so I had a bit more wine at dinner than normal.
Then after dinner another mate arrived and more wine was opened. Then another and after a certain point I cannot remember anything.

I do know that I was hungry a few hours after dinner and I had some nibbles from the kitchen. But - and here is the problem - the next morning, my oh told me that he found me eating in the kitchen, and I have no recollection of this. He said I also opened a bottle of beer. I actually tried to microwave a meal.

I have no recollection of this?

I am so mortified. Needless to say I will go easy on the drink from now on but what to hell happened here? Anyone done anything similar or anyone know why I would have done what I did?

I have been under a lot of stress of late - and I know that on this night I was in a relaxing mode. But I am also very embarrasses now - and worried about my behaviour.

As I have no recollection of my nocturnal events - I assume I was sleep walking and eating? He said i was making no sense.

tenchi-fan

The thing that strikes me is all the excuses you are making! Definitely keep a check on your alcohol intake but I wouldn't read too much into a one-off binge.

There's a reason why you don't remember anything.. it's because nothing happened. Eating food is a non-event. I've often found empty food containers (or food down my shirt) after a night out and thinking "oh, I must have got a takeaway. I wonder was it nice."

It can be embarrassing being the drunkest person at the party. The best option is to stick to west coast cooler or bottles of beer - because you can keep track of what you're drinking.

Wine is dangerous because it's constantly topped up and you could easily drink well over a bottle without realising it.

PS You probably weren't sleepwalking.

LegacyUser

tenchi-fan wrote: »

The thing that strikes me is all the excuses you are making! Definitely keep a check on your alcohol intake but I wouldn't read too much into a one-off binge.

There's a reason why you don't remember anything.. it's because nothing happened. Eating food is a non-event. I've often found empty food containers (or food down my shirt) after a night out and thinking "oh, I must have got a takeaway. I wonder was it nice."

It can be embarrassing being the drunkest person at the party. The best option is to stick to west coast cooler or bottles of beer - because you can keep track of what you're drinking.

Wine is dangerous because it's constantly topped up and you could easily drink well over a bottle without realising it.

PS You probably weren't sleepwalking.

thanks for the reply - however if I was not sleep walking, how come I do not remember any of it? And also, my OH reckons I was cos I was responded to his suggestions and he could not make sense of what I was saying. He said I was talking about my past like as if I was dreaming (as I also talk in my sleep frequently - without alcohol). I also was a sleep walker when I was a kid - my mum had to buy a gate for the stairs to keep me from wandering at night. Yes I agree - I should keep away from wine - you are drunk before you know it. At least with bottles it is a slower pace and you know when you are drunk so you can stop.

tenchi-fan

Well maybe you were sleepwalking in that case!

But when people are drunk enough they can go into autopilot! Once my brother came in drunk, took off his clothes, threw them in the corner, pissed on them, and didn't remember any of it.

Big Bag of Chips

People who get very, very drunk, ramble about making no sense and doing things they can't remember!

It is possible that you were sleep walking, it's also possible that you drank so much that you got so drunk you don't remember bits of the night!

Unless this is something you do regularly I don't think you have a problem with alcohol.

darad

Its not really the worst thing in the world to be fair, you drank too much and went to the kitchen for some food and you dont remember. Dont beat yourself up so much over it. We all learn lessons like this, just take it handy on the vino in future

Sounds like you blacked out. I used to black out nearly every time I drank. If "the day after" conversations in Ireland are anything to go by then an awful lot of drinkers in Ireland regularly black out.

If this is your first black out consider yourself lucky. Just drink a bit less next time. Remember that drinking more isn't going to make you more sociable, it will just have the opposite effect.

LighterGuy

+1 for just a one night binge.

It happens sometimes op. Everyone who is a drinker has had at least one night where they cant remember. Sounds like this was a once off night for you.

So no you dont have a drink problem

LegacyUser

thanks for all your replies. No this does not happen regularly -has happened once before though - after a night of drinking cocktails from fish bowls.But that was 3 years ago. i guess I am just feeling guilty because i was obviously getting drunk and did not cop on to stop..though this does not happen often. Lesson learnt and I just hope my OH does not think I am a psycho. He does not seem to think any less of me though. Moderation from now on. Sleepwalking or no sleepwalking.

Cheap Thrills!

I think you're worrying unnecessarily. You just had an accidental blackout. It's not suprising since you were drinking wine.

Wine is the devils work, it's all the more suprising it's considered an 'acceptable' womens drink. Women metabolise alcohol slower than men, wine is high in alcohol and easy to drink so before you know it you're in blackout territory without trying very hard.

I gave it up totally due to finding it hard to control and it being too high in alcohol for me. I stick to beer and find I am able to enjoy that and because it's higher in volume, Yoo'd have to work unbelievably hard to black out on it.

It sounds from your post that this is your first blackout and you are freaked. Well if you were an alcoholic you wouldn't be freaked you'd rationalise it and justify it.

Just watch your intake in future. Stay away from wine, spirits etc if you are sensitive to alcohol.

I really don't think it's anything to worry about OP, happens to the best of us! I wouldn't be the biggest drinker, I would occassionly go on your typical night out binge but no more than a couple of times a month at most, I wouldn't say I drink to excess when I do, but I do drink what I'm sure would be considered as "a wee bit too much". Yet Thursday night just gone, I had been away with work all week and Thursday night was our last night so we all decided to have ourselves a bit of a party in one of the hotel rooms, and I honestly can't remember hardly any of the night (sounded good though from the stories!!)
I know I had 6 beers from my carryout, a couple of shots, and going by the receipts atleast another 6 beers from the bar...I've drank alot more in the past and woke up with a full vivid memory and relatively clear head, but that night is a complete blank for me, but I think the exhaustion of the week had a lot to do with it for me.

Honestly, it's absolutely nothing to worry about if it isn't a regular occurence, and if you're not doing something that you absolutely come to regret when you hear about it, I really wouldn't fret at all. I would say there could be a lot of factors other than just the amount you drink that could cause it to happen, i.e. stress, exhaustion etc etc but atleast maybe now you know roughly what your limit that your comfortable with yourself is for the future.

Jo King

What is considered normal drinking in Ireland is in reality excessive drinking. Many drink what would be considered the upper limit of a week's safe drinking in one night.
Blacking out when drinking happens. It is one of the signs of a problem with drink. There are many others but if even only 4 or 5 apply top you it is time to do something.

Here is a list.

Does your drinking cause you guilt?

Do you have a drink when you get up?

You know that you drink too much.

You drink every day.

You drink to make yourself feel better.

Once you start drinking you have to have more.

Your tolerance to alcohol has increased

If someone confronts you about your alcoholism you say you don't have a problem

You always drink before going to any social occasion if you know that alcohol was not going to be available.

You always drink your first drinks far too quickly.

You try to hide the amount that you are drinking

Do you crave alcohol and regularly think about drinking throughout the day

Are you unable to stop yourself from buying alcohol in a social situation?

Do you suffer from withdrawal symptoms when you don't drink and get anxious or irritable, feel sick and get the shakes?

Do you need to drink large amounts to get the same results that used to when you first started drinking

Do you do things completely out of character when drinking

Do you take dangerous risks when drinking for example, driving under the influence of alcohol?

Do you put yourself at risk of unwanted pregnacies, date rape or sexual transmitted diseases?

Do you get into trouble with the police because of your drinking?

Do you continue to drink even though you are hurting your relationships, health and are putting your job at risk?

Do you drink to relax to handle stress or to help you to sleep?

Do you need to have a drink to be able to socialise?

Do you hide your cans and empty bottles and tell lies about your drinking?

Do you often black out when drinking?

Do you feel unable to stop drinking?

Do you worry about running out of alcohol if you are in a place where alcohol is not available or hard to get?

ceadaoin.

Jo King wrote: »

What is considered normal drinking in Ireland is in reality excessive drinking. Many drink what would be considered the upper limit of a week's safe drinking in one night.
Blacking out when drinking happens. It is one of the signs of a problem with drink. There are many others but if even only 4 or 5 apply top you it is time to do something.

Here is a list....

2 blackouts in the space of 3 years is hardly indicative of a drinking problem.

It's very easy to drink too much without realising when you're in a group and your wine glass is constantly being topped up. OP just stick to bottles of beer or something you can easily keep track of next time. If you feel yourself getting tipsy then have a soft drink or a water.

I'm sure your boyfriend doesn't think you're a psycho, most people who drink have done silly things while under the influence. Just don't make a habit of it and you'll be fine!