How long has it taken people to get pregnant?

lmahoney79 · 14-10-2010 7:50am #1

Hey, I know that this answer can be different for everyone but just wondered if there was some kind of average? We have only been trying a month so I know it's very early for us but still curious to know how long it took people....I have no patience!

silja · 14-10-2010 8:23am

Average for a healthy couple is 7 months.

Took us 3 years and 3 rounds of fertility treatment first time, 6 months of "not trying, but not preventing" second time.

lmahoney79 · 14-10-2010 9:48am

7 months! Oh dear, I better learn to calm down and be seriously more patient! I think I was just hoping it would happen sooner as my sister fell pregnant in the first month with both of her kids. I was thinking it might take more like 3 or 4 months maybe.

cynder · 14-10-2010 10:02am

First 2 were unplanned,

3rd guy, i came off the patch and two weeks later (1st ovulation) i was pregnant, i did the test 4 weeks after i came of the patch and it was positive.

*You need to do the deed 1 or 2 day/s before you ovulate, when you ovulate and for 2 days after you ovulate. Before you ovulate more chance of a girl, when you ovulate and for 2 days after chances are its a boy. Get ovulation test strips to improve your chances of getting pregnant quicker, the average lady will ovulate 14 days before her next period.

lmahoney79 · 14-10-2010 10:23am

yeah i got the strips the last time and I can recognise the various signs so I guess I just have to try next month then and keep trying, hopefully it will happen sooner rather than later!

xzanti · 14-10-2010 10:25am

8 months of 'proper' trying following a miscarriage..

Best of luck

strange john · 14-10-2010 10:31am

Took us one year before first pregnancy, which ended in a miscarriage at about 8 weeks. Three months later pregnant again and another miscarriage after 7 - 8 weeks. Now we're on the third which is looking very healthy at 14 weeks.

I thought it would happen straight away and for some it does, for others it takes longer. I don't think there's anything typical, and you can only base things on averages. It's a rollercoaster no matter what.

Best of luck.

ThePiedPiper · 14-10-2010 10:45am

Our first was unplanned but for our second, we were trying for 2 months I suppose. When it didn't happen the first month, we changed around a few things after a bit of internet research and bingo.

There's a few things we did to increase our chances. Staying in bed after doing the deed is the obvious one, to give the swimmers the best chance of staying in there longer and doing their work. The missionary position is considered optimal. Maintaining a good diet and lifestyle would also be important. Try to be relaxed, and as stress free as possible.

Best of luck.

cdb · 14-10-2010 10:50am

3 minutes

lmahoney79 · 14-10-2010 12:23pm

RunForestRun wrote: »

There's a few things we did to increase our chances. Staying in bed after doing the deed is the obvious one, to give the swimmers the best chance of staying in there longer and doing their work. The missionary position is considered optimal. Maintaining a good diet and lifestyle would also be important.

Thanks for that, most of that I had researched also on the net! Did the missionary position and made sure I stayed in bed for awhile afterwards, even elevated my hips a bit to help!

shablulim · 14-10-2010 10:52pm

Ten years and eight miscarriages, still waiting. It can take a healthy couple up to two years. After two years doctors will start looking into why it's not happened yet.

abouttobebanned · 14-10-2010 10:54pm

shablulim wrote: »

Ten years and eight miscarriages, still waiting. It can take a healthy couple up to two years. After two years doctors will start looking into why it's not happened yet.

:-(

Took us 7 years. 10 weeks pregnant now.

Das Kitty · 14-10-2010 10:56pm

It took us 6 months.

How Strange · 15-10-2010 10:04am

6 months of not trying to prevent it, 2 months of trying properly.

For me, I found the consciously trying part scary because you have to ask yourselves what if we can't and how far do we go to get pregnant and have a baby. We set clear boundaries at the beginning and I made my oh promise to make me stick to them later on if necessary. It's a very personal thing for each couple.

Grawns · 15-10-2010 11:16am

2 months of not trying to prevent it and I was 38 - was very lucky. Going to try again this month and am dreading it as I am now nearly 41 ( next month) and have no patience at all. Hope it's even half as easy this time.

lmahoney79 · 15-10-2010 12:20pm

Well did a test today and one pink line and a very very faint second pink line, so will try again tomorrow as dont want to take that to mean anything yet!

cynder · 15-10-2010 12:25pm

lmahoney79 wrote: »

Well did a test today and one pink line and a very very faint second pink line, so will try again tomorrow as dont want to take that to mean anything yet!

Not to get your hopes up, but that happened to me and I was. congrats,,,,,, fingers crossed for you.... Im sure tomorrow it will be pinker.(mine was a very faint 1/2 second line wasnt even a full line and i was pregnant)

amen · 15-10-2010 12:26pm

It can take a healthy couple up to two years/QUOTE]
actually average is about 7 months and it is recommended to got a doctor after 12 months. Insist on tests if they tell you come back.

Cat Melodeon · 17-10-2010 7:53pm

We were lucky to conceive the first time we tried. I hadn't been on the pill for over ten years, had a cycle that was as regular as clockwork, was in my early-mid thirties and had no health problems (wouldn't have been the fittest though). Hoping number 2 will be as easy when the time comes.

About a year and a half before we began trying I went to the doctor for a general health check. Told her we were planning to start a family soon and she wrote it down in my notes. I didn't think too much about it but when I went back a year and a half later to have our pregnancy confirmed, she said that if we had had any problems, we were on her records as having started trying to conceive from that previous visit and so could have been referred quickly to a fertility specialist. Thought that was sound of her, glad it wasn't needed.

CathyMoran · 18-10-2010 11:32am

We got pregnant as soon as we tried but that baby ended up miscarrying. We had several miscarriages before finally having our much wanted and loved son. We half hearted tried for this one but got pregnant on second attempt. Am 36 with other medical conditions but my mother got the menopause at 40 so time is running out for us. Have never been on the pill - we used barrier methods in the past.

shygirl2523 · 21-10-2010 8:53pm

hi guys... trying and waitin 13 yrs to get pregnant nothing happening.. just a question! my periods are all over the place.. i never have a set date for them. this make trying to convieve on the rite day very hard i had my period on the 15 of august and finished on the 18-19... then i missed september's period. i had my period on the 10th of this mth and finished on the 14.... can sumone please tell me when i should start testing for ovulation plz

does the first day of your period start when u just get a brownis stain ? or when u see blood ? and the last days ?

Oral Slang · 21-10-2010 9:19pm

http://www.babycentre.co.uk/tools/ovu/?intcmp=lnav_tool_ovu

The date you put in is the very first day you get a show.

chainsaws · 24-10-2010 3:29pm

Hi OP
Try having sex night and day.
A lot of couples who are finding it difficult to conceive should try having sex a whole lot more.
Have sex several times a day if you can.

cinderella2010 · 25-10-2010 10:17pm

Seriously Chainsaws it does not work that way - its all about timing

I see you like to leave unhelpful comments - this is a serious thread and people here cannot discuss the whole issue of TTC with friends and family so they come here

have some heart

cynder · 26-10-2010 9:50am

chainsaws wrote: »

Hi OP
Try having sex night and day.
A lot of couples who are finding it difficult to conceive should try having sex a whole lot more.
Have sex several times a day if you can.

I think research has proven that sex too often depletes the good sperm, where as having less only around ovulation stores up the good sperm to be released when needed (to make a baby). I'm not sure if this only counts for men with a low sperm count or if it goes for all men. I think it goes for all men.

Skadi · 27-10-2010 11:26am

shygirl2523 wrote: »

hi guys... trying and waitin 13 yrs to get pregnant nothing happening.. just a question! my periods are all over the place.. i never have a set date for them. this make trying to convieve on the rite day very hard i had my period on the 15 of august and finished on the 18-19... then i missed september's period. i had my period on the 10th of this mth and finished on the 14.... can sumone please tell me when i should start testing for ovulation plz

does the first day of your period start when u just get a brownis stain ? or when u see blood ? and the last days ?

It took me 10+ yrs to get pregnant. had one early miscarriage (on clonmid), one stillbirth (at around 23 weeks) and am just pregnant again.

My periods are very irregular some years I was lucky if I got 3 periods. I started getting back my periods last year (about every 2 months). I dieted by cutting out most preprocessed foods out of my diet. I followed the PCOS diet (http://www.amazon.com/PCOS-Diet-Book-Nutritional-Polycystic/dp/0007131844) which tells a lot about foods to avoid or foods that are good for you. I didn't find the diet strict and actually started to enjoy preparing my own meals. After the stillbirth I went back on the same diet and even though my periods were still irregular I got pregnant on the fourth cycle.

I found keeping track of my BBT (Body Basal Temperature) useful. I never stuck rigidly to a set time but just took it when I woke every morning. I knew then once my tempetature rose that my period was due 14 days later. If you keep track of your tempetature and when you have your periods when you see a consultant they may be able to determine if there are any problems with your cycle.

Ovulation tests never worked for me. So in the end I just kept an eye on the Cervical fluid and the rise in temperature. For me i found that my body seemed to take ages to ovulate, but at least I knew that if my temperature hadn't risen that there was still time for me to try and get pregnant even if it was frustrating.

How long has it taken people to get pregnant?

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