asking a girl out

Muff Daddy

Hi,

I see a girl at work most days, but don't have any direct interaction with her.
I would really like to ask her out, but not sure how to approach it.
I found her on facebook as I have some work interaction with a friend of hers. I think a facebook message might be a bit stalkerish?

Any idea's gratefully welcomed!!

southofnowhere

Muff Daddy wrote: »

Hi,

I see a girl at work most days, but don't have any direct interaction with her.
I would really like to ask her out, but not sure how to approach it.
I found her on facebook as I have some work interaction with a friend of hers. I think a facebook message might be a bit stalkerish?

Any idea's gratefully welcomed!!

Don't do that!

No direct interaction? So you don;t talk to her?

Sort that out first, walk up and say hello (you know her friend, that's a starting point). Take it from there.

LegacyUser

yeah have to agree just adding her randomly on facebook would be a bit odd, maybe try talk to her for a few days, just small talk, and then add her, that would seem less weird i think...

pimbeche

Hi, I dont think its weird if you send her a message via facebook , i wouldnt find it weird. People do that all the time.
Especially if you dont have contact with her normally.

You could try to talk to her at work ,obviously the best thing , but if there is no opportunity to talk then do that!

Muff Daddy

Don't really know her friend either, only a couple of work conversations, so not the easiest way.
Might have to bump into her somewhere, or hang around to meet her;)

LighterGuy

Muff Daddy wrote: »

Hi,

I see a girl at work most days, but don't have any direct interaction with her.
I would really like to ask her out, but not sure how to approach it.
I found her on facebook as I have some work interaction with a friend of hers. I think a facebook message might be a bit stalkerish?

Any idea's gratefully welcomed!!

Dont randomly send a facebook message. I did it before. I spoiled my chances. Its just the way with certain girls - even tho some might be into you, they could be put off by sending a FB message asking them out. You would really need to establish contact before doing anything with facebook anyways. Such as even adding her.

When it comes to women you have to just show a little balls asking them out. If they say no they say no. getting over the fear of rejection is the one thing everyone has to do in life and only when we do so do we have better chances of getting the ones we want.

But op, everyone has been in a situation where there was a girl they liked but never talked. Guys have even pulled girls from shops just by regularly going into them (I have) - So if a guy can pull a girl from a shop, you can certainely chat this girl up

You just need to be tactful. If you just went over to her chatted her up and asked her out, chances are she could say no. Some girls are just like that. She might fancy you but she might not like the hard approach (get put off)

Smart man builds up to it.
You can say a word or two at the start. You could randomly ask her a question. Then as the days go by you say more and more... what you are doing is building up. Then when you are on first name terms THEN you ask out This improves your chances greatly as she knows you a little and knows a bit of your personality.

Remember sense of humor is always a winner. If in the building up stage you can make her laugh. You've got great chances.

So op but that thinking cap on.

Muff Daddy

Thanks for the advice!