Upsetting the apple cart

Unwilling

I'm getting married shortly - and I was sending out invites for the evening reception (afters)
I work in a relatively small company - there are certain people I definately wanted to invite, some I was on the fence about and others who wouldn't be of concern.
Because it is a small operation I sent an email out to ALL. Thus not insulting anyone by not inviting them.

Interestingly enough I seem to have done the opposite. By inviting "all" I seem to have upset those in my immediate department. Who, incidentally, have not acknowledged my invite in any way shape or form!!! They've just blanked it.

I'm upset that I've managed to insult people by inviting them to my wedding reception!!!

Any thoughts???

ozt9vdujny3srf

I don't know why that would upset any reasonable person. Maybe the people in your department just don't like you!

Unwilling

Truckle - in my brief time working here I have learned that these are not indeed "reasonalbe" people
But I think also, they don't like me.

But what's with the bad manners!!!

Someone invites you somewhere you say "thank you" or "no thank you".................................

I feel i should say something but it's so awkward.. and by say somethign I don't me cause a row, just something like " hey guys, did you get the invite?"

niceoneted

Perhaps those in your dept thought it was too informal of an invite and they expected more than just being in the general email to the company. Maybe they feel it's only a gesture and that they are not really invited/wanted there.

Sergio

Either give out personal invites to everybody or just post one on the noticeboard in your office or canteen etc
I wouldnt be too upset about this as its only the afters of your wedding your inviting people not to the whole reception.

00112984

I think when it comes to afters, people are less likely to commit to going/not going and wing it a bit closer to the time.

I think moreso if invited in a very informal manner (ie, by e-mail). Personally, if I got an afters invite via e-mail I'd assume it's more of a "we'll see you if you see you" type of thing.

bills

I would put an invitation in the canteen to afters including all staff.
Maybe, just casually bring it up in coversation also.

kandr10

That's really rude of them OP! You clearly put a lot of thought into how to tackle it too. Let us know what they say if you bring it up!
Best of luck with the big day

Unwilling

Hi all

I really appreciate the feedback- I hear what you are saying. Somepeople might have thought a general invite was too informal - others might think because it's informal no need to respond formally.

However, as I sit in a small office with my direct department - I would have thought someone would have MENTIONED it, acknowledged it - SOMETHING. Again, thanks but no thanks, I'll get back to you, Nice invite... whatever.

But alas, it is still being blanked - and presently that suits me fine.