Throwing the bouquet

Sunny Dayz

Is throwing the bouquet and the garter still the done thing at weddings?

From what I know it is the bridemaid's bouquet often thrown.
I was planning on getting my own bouquet preserved and using my bridemaid's bouquet after for a grave.

Would it be noticed if "throwing the bouquet" wasn't done? I know it's only a bit of fun but flowers are expensive and I don't want to be literally throwing them away to some one who might not appreciate them!

niceoneted

If you don't want to use them as you already have them ear marked for other use then don't.
Don't worry about what other people notice. In actual fact when I see that some traditions are not followed at weddings it makes me admire the couple as they are not being sheep.

tinkerbell

Personally I hate the idea of throwing the bouquet and I hate the idea of the garter thing even more, because it is so cringe watching some guy try to put the garter on the girl who caught the bouquet *shudder*

There is no problem at all not throwing it, it's your day - so do what ya like!

00112984

I haven't seen the garter thing being done at a wedding anytime over the past ten years. I'd say most people don't do this.

Some still throw the bouquet but a lot don't so don't feel bad if you don't. I didn't throw mine and nobody even asked about it.

artyeva

i doubt if anyone would notice if you didn't bother.

if you did though you could ask your florist to make up a throwing bouquet - or else get some cheapies from a supermarket in similar colours to your own and tie them up with some ribbon. will anyone really complain?!

toadfly

I've been at three weddings this year, one threw flowers but none done the garter.

If you dont want it, then dont do it!

cowlove

I didn't throw the bouquest at my wedding. I don't think anyone missed it! Nobody said so to me anyway. You can get your florist to make up a bouquet to throw but I personally think this is a ridiculous extra when you are spending a fortune on flowers anyway. I would have just thrown the bridesmaids bouquet if I had thrown one.

clint_silver

I play a lot weddings in a band. we ask the brides beforehand do they want to do the bouqet and garter. some want to do both some change their mind on the night. the groom rarely wants to do the garter. It can be fun, it can be cringing, most times its just ok.

9 out of 10 cats (sorry brides!) throw the bouquet. Ive seen table flowers being thrown when the garter couldnt be found. noone ever notices.

About 1/10 want to do the garter. although of the hundreds of weddings Ive played at Ive never seen the groom put it on anyone elses leg!!

I would say Ive had a few bridesmaids up over the years asking when am I going to get the bride to throw the bouquet after being specifically told by said bride she didnt want to throw it and when I ask the bride I find she's been cajoled into it by the bridesmaids. Its a bit of fun. but as others have said, its whatever you want yourself and if you change your mind on the night, you can just ask DJ or band to organise it.

Ahbegob

I video a lot of weddings and 8-10 times I'd say the bouquet is thrown. I'd say the REAL bouquet is rarely tossed into the melee. Usually it's just the bridesmaid's one, something the florist has thrown together soemthing, sometimes the bridesmaids will make up a bouquet out of whatever they find on the night

Kooli

I'm definitely not throwing the bouquet, I think it's such a cringey tradition. I've never participated in it at other weddings (i.e. tried to catch it), and I've no intention of having it at my own.
I know some people see it as 'just a bit of fun', but try as I might I can't see any fun in it at all!