In love with a girl who dumped me 2 and half years ago. What do I do?

War Machine 539

Every one has told me - Get over her, she isnt into you, but I know in my heart of hearts she was. I have gone through many uphill emotional battles, Im only 19 my parents died when I was a 6, I was in an abusive foster home and yet these things pale in comparison to how I feel about this girl. I love her. I want to get her back. Does anyone have any similar experiences and could they share there outcomes? Its not a matter of getting over her, because that quite simply wont happen, Does Love Prevail? Or does time march on.

RandyMann

War Machine 539 wrote: »

Every one has told me - Get over her, she isnt into you, but I know in my heart of hearts she was. I have gone through many uphill emotional battles, Im only 19 my parents died when I was a 6, I was in an abusive foster home and yet these things pale in comparison to how I feel about this girl. I love her. I want to get her back. Does anyone have any similar experiences and could they share there outcomes? Its not a matter of getting over her, because that quite simply wont happen, Does Love Prevail? Or does time march on.

Time will march on when you meet someone else that you will fall in love with. You are very young and things will definitely change when you meet someone else.
You will never forget your first love but you will get over her for sure. You will look back with fond memories of course but they will be be different to what you feel now. It will change, keep the faith.

Wibbs

What RandyMann wrote. My first love? Oh when we split(mostly my doing too), I had such regrets and loads of general passion about what I had lost and prayers. Yes prayers so that we may hook up again as lovers and share a future. Well in the end this didnt happen. Fast forward 15 years and I bump into her. She had turned out to be every single thing that wouldn't have suited me. I say good luck to her, but oh god no. Well all I can say without irony is thank god for unanswered prayers.

Now at the moment you won't believe this. I sure as hell wouldnt have at the time. But you can take this to the bank(non NAMA) when I tell you this will be painful for a time, but this will also pass. I'll put a 1000 quid bet it will. Get bcak to us in 3 years time so I can collect on it.

newtoboards

My first serious relationship breakup I was devestated. I didn't think I would ever recover to be honest as I felt truely heartbroken. After a time a few of my friends dragged me off on a holiday and it was great, I got to have fun and realised that I longed for a relationship that just wasn't that great.

I eventually moved on and a few years later The Ex popped back into my life and said woops I think I made a mistake but to be honest there was no going back for me.

You should try to meet someone new, even if you know it is just going to be a bit of fun till you're over this girl. Afterall there's no point in being misrable waiting for her to come back into your life.

Stephanos

Your mates are right in telling you to move on.

As you said, you've overcome so much in life, the abusive foster home, and have come out stronger. You should look on this situation the same. You can only move on when you allow yourself to do so. You'll be better for the experience, trust me.

You use the expression "love prevails"; this expression is really only typical when two people love one another. Ask yourself if she has the same feelings for you. Are you wasting your time?

As the last poster said, you never forget your first love. It's time to move on a find a second

War Machine 539

newtoboards wrote: »

My first serious relationship breakup I was devestated. I didn't think I would ever recover to be honest as I felt truely heartbroken. After a time a few of my friends dragged me off on a holiday and it was great, I got to have fun and realised that I longed for a relationship that just wasn't that great.

I eventually moved on and a few years later The Ex popped back into my life and said woops I think I made a mistake but to be honest there was no going back for me.

You should try to meet someone new, even if you know it is just going to be a bit of fun till you're over this girl. Afterall there's no point in being misrable waiting for her to come back into your life.

Have been in other relationships, for longer, just ended one, Thats the problem! Have corresponded with her since putting this up last night, slightly encouraging!

Stephanos

War Machine 539 wrote: »

Have been in other relationships, for longer, just ended one, Thats the problem! Have corresponded with her since putting this up last night, slightly encouraging!

Are you not just wasting your time? If she fancied you, would she not be with you?

War Machine 539

And then live my life knowing I didnt try? Not an option.

Stephanos

War Machine 539 wrote: »

And then live my life knowing I didnt try? Not an option.

Then try! Meet up with her and tell her how you feel. If she gives you an answer then you will eventually be able to move on, albeit in a relationship with her or someone else. You'll never be able to move on until you express your feelings.

I'm all for telling her how you feel. It's really brave. Go for it!!

Moomoo1

Wibbs wrote: »

What RandyMann wrote. My first love? Oh when we split(mostly my doing too), I had such regrets and loads of general passion about what I had lost and prayers. Yes prayers so that we may hook up again as lovers and share a future. Well in the end this didnt happen. Fast forward 15 years and I bump into her. She had turned out to be every single thing that wouldn't have suited me. I say good luck to her, but oh god no. Well all I can say without irony is thank god for unanswered prayers.

Now at the moment you won't believe this. I sure as hell wouldnt have at the time. But you can take this to the bank(non NAMA) when I tell you this will be painful for a time, but this will also pass. I'll put a 1000 quid bet it will. Get bcak to us in 3 years time so I can collect on it.

ah, but wibbs, maybe if she had stayed with you she'd have turned out totally differently?:P

War Machine 539

Update: The Boyfriend is out of the equation.

Wibbs

Grand, but be careful you dont fall into the easy rebound after this last bloke. If she's still reeling a little emotionally from the last relationship it could well happen. Depends on how long the other guy was for I suppose. 6 months not such an issue, if she went from you to him it might be. Just take it handy for the moment IMHO.

War Machine 539

Final Update, I have finally gotten over this girl. I must advise anyone reading this that its easier to get over an ex, by getting over an other one. Thanks for all your comments and advice, they genuinely helped!