Burning feeling after sex

magneticimpulse

Ive this burning feeling after everytime i have sex without a condom. I had 2 long term partners (which i might add didnt last long due to this problem). It doesnt occur with a condom.

Both times I went to GUM/STD clinic...and even to 3 different ones. Ex's did the same. In fact one GP rang me after to "give out" because my Ex was in his office for the 2nd time and he refused to examine him again to find out why this was alway occuring. I did notice that during Oral he had a "trush" taste on his penis. Anyway my ex failed to say that to the GP. The GP blamed me for using bad shower gel...which ive always used Lush and natural organic products.

Anyway every time my GUM/STD results come back all clear. And its difficult for GP to find out problem, as it just occurs immediately after sex, burning, swelling. By the time I have an appointment the symtoms are gone.

Has anyone else experienced this problem or am I alone? Im really lost as to what to do, because as long as this continues, i cant enjoy sex, and if i cant enjoy it, then no guy is willing to hang around and wait for months with no sex.

easynote

try using more lubrication that might be the problem

Oryx

Please keep advice to personal experience and do not offer medical advice.

Thanks

magneticimpulse

easynote wrote: »

try using more lubrication that might be the problem

I dont think its a problem with lubrication, ive never been dry in that location

Its a problem only when I get sperm inside, it never occurs with condom.

Its really upsetting me, especially when you are away on a romantic weekend and your OH wants to sleep with you. Then it always ends the same way...i sleep with him and spend the night crying because of the pain and then the next day crying more because it hurts too much and it ruins the whole weekend....or holidays etc.

Oryx

Then get your doctor to check if you are allergic to semen.

Ickle Magoo

Have you gotten an allergy test regarding sperm? I can't imagine it would be too difficult to have sex directly prior to a med exam...

magneticimpulse

I actually suggested that, but the Specialists I went to would never do it. They followed the "text book" STD and GUM tests and the response is always the same. In fact the only advice i got from them was to go to the toilet before and after sex and make sure OH does the same. Although it was a "Sexual Health Clinic" they said they did not have the facilities to help nor did they know anything else I could do.


Ive had 2 failed relationships because of this because both times the guys got fed up by not being able to have regular sex. Is there a place open minded enough that will do tests? Is there a specialist which you can see about this? Maybe I could just get a standard allergy test.

My ex used to joke and say we just needed to have sex more because it was long distance and just once every 2 weeks maximum. He joked saying maybe my body was not used to sperm.


Problem is ive met this new guy recently and I dont want to put him through the same tests and exams that I went through with the 2 previous ex's. Im 29 and i cant have a relationship longer then 6 months because of it.

I spoke to female friends about this and they all say the exact same thing happens to them and its quite common. Apparently my brother and his girlfriend had the same problem too. My mam has the same problem. Im just thinking if so many people have this problem, why is it not spoken about? The problem of burning after sex...there doesnt seem to be anything to solve it.

Ickle Magoo

PI isn't really the right platform to wonder why things aren't being discussed. Perhaps your mother or brother have some helpful advice on how they've dealt with things that they can share?

Often if the medical practitioner you are dealing with doesn't or won't offer a particular service then you need to keep looking until you find one that does. I have no idea why a specialist would refuse to do something that could offer you a diagnosis, it doesn't seem like very sound medical practice to me.

I'd also have to say any guy who is getting fed up at wearing condoms which is the only way you can have sex without burning or swelling isn't worth being in a relationship with.

Best of luck