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Girlfriend is very depressed.

  • 09-10-2010 10:30AM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey, I probably should've done this a while ago, but anyway.
    I've been with my girlfriend for a while now and we were really happy,
    she's had a really bad year and has tried to commit suicide a few times.
    She's said that I make her really happy and as long as we're together
    nothing matters. But lately I've been on the wrong end of things and
    for the past month, I've only been with her to stop her from doing anything rash.
    It's all been taking a huge toll on me and I'm constantly worried and in a bad mood.

    I've tried talking to her about things and helping her but it's not enough
    and at the same time, she refuses to go see someone about it. We had a fight
    recently and I saw her in a park, looking really, really suicidal. We sorted things out
    and she admitted that she was seriously thinking about getting alcohol and painkillers.

    I don't know what to do anymore, I don't feel like I did, but if I leave her,
    I'm afraid she'll kill herself...


Comments

  • #2
    Daisy Steiner
    Closed Accounts Posts: 751 ✭✭✭Daisy Steiner


    I think you should talk to her family and get her to someone who can help. I know you said she doesn't want to, but now I think this is too big for you to handle.

    What an awful situation to be in, I can totally see why you're afraid to split from her but seriously, the position you are in is not natural or normal. You are not responsible for her actions.

    Definitely meet with her family and ask them for help. Good luck.


  • #3
    Novella
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,713 ✭✭✭✭Novella


    You should never, ever be in a situation like you are in now. You need to remember that you are not responsible for anyone elses happiness, that is up to them. Yes, it's natural that you want to make your girlfriend happy, but is she? No. Depression runs a lot deeper than that. It's not your fault. She needs help. Encourage her to talk to her GP, and if she is adamant that she wants no intervention... well, tbh I think it's in her best interests if you go against her best wishes.
    You could try Pieta House - http://www.pieta.ie/
    They have a 'Know someone who needs help section?', so maybe have a wee read of that.

    Hope things turn out okay, OP.


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