Loneliness due to unemployment

acoc100

Was wondering if anyone else found the hardest part of being unemployed and having nothing to do all day is the lack of social interaction and loneliness.

Can anyone else relate to this?

donna.s

I can definitely relate! I'm sure there's thousands who feel the same now too, unfortunately

6679

Tell me about it, but I am lucky in the sense that a few of my friends are also unemployed and are trying to find work. But there is a large part of the day where I have nothing to be doing but I have found myself going for runs/gym/playing football a lot recently along with the odd bit of study before going off to an unsuccessful interview

Also doing a bit of programming and graphic design stuff to keep me in the game so to say.

losthorizon

I live in an area where I didnt grow up. All my former friends are all over the place. Nothing much to do all day except wait for my wife to come home. I still keep applying for jobs but I rarely even get an interview. Yesterday, though, I got a phone call for one so wish me luck for tomorrow. After 8 long months I need it.

charlemont

very true.. its head wrecking..

dan_d

Good luck...hope it goes really really well for you.

The answer to the OPs question is a resounding yes. I hate feeling like the only person I get to talk to every day is my OH...it's not good for him, when he wants to sit down after work and watch TV, and I'm babbling away!

I'm trying to fill the hours with gym time, language lessons, music lessons etc, but no doubt it's very tough going some days. I'm trying not to think too much about my situation because I'll actually become a quivering mess of complete depression if I do.

It's a terrible situation to be in, and I really think there's a total lack of understanding at Gov level of what it does to people. It's not just the ever increasing social welfare bill, and the difficulties families are getting into financially....it's the loneliness, the depression, the lack of self-confidence that are a result of unemployment. It's social problems that extend far and beyond past the fact that they've to pay more and more money out in social welfare every month, problems that will ruin generations for years to come.

Course that doesn't matter too much to people who are only interested in watching their popularity rates in opinion polls...

didntgotoplan

I'm finding lots of my friends emigrating over unemployment here. I luckily started a job Monday, but finding it lonely as so many of my friends are gone. There is only a few of us left here and it looks like some of them may leave as they are unemployed.

NinjaNikki

God i know how ur feeling it's all i do is sit there all day doing nothing i try do stuff but there is nothing to do i feel like i'm never going to get a job!

mikemac

I suppose all I can add is maybe use the time to go running and the gym.
Get in the best shape of your life, you'll never have a better time to try it

Something to aim at anyway

Joey the lips

I did... So i joined SVP.... It helps a lot...

NinjaNikki

feelingstressed wrote: »

I suppose all I can add is maybe use the time to go running and the gym.
Get in the best shape of your life, you'll never have a better time to try it

Something to aim at anyway

see i moved over from the uk and became an au pair but things got out of hand i got abused by the family in long run i left been jobless from july time and i cant seem to get the dole i have no money live with my boyfriend yet every bit of money we have is on rent bills and food i have a bad foot as i fell on my foot to get a pps in dublin city center and they wont let me go to my local office load bull **** so i have no money at all not even 1 cent!!!

sorry bad spelling

dan_d

didntgotoplan wrote: »

I'm finding lots of my friends emigrating over unemployment here. I luckily started a job Monday, but finding it lonely as so many of my friends are gone. There is only a few of us left here and it looks like some of them may leave as they are unemployed.

Also my position.
It sucks.:mad:
Makes me wonder what I'm hanging around for - to pay more taxes and see no return from them for the rest of my life.:mad::mad:
Leaving becomes so much more attractive every day.

will.in.cork

dan_d wrote: »

Also my position.
It sucks.:mad:
Makes me wonder what I'm hanging around for - to pay more taxes and see no return from them for the rest of my life.:mad::mad:
Leaving becomes so much more attractive every day.

Where u gonna go dan d?

Was in canada for few months, lots of americans n europeans coming in there so jobs are v.hard to find! Spent 3 months travelling but no work. Came home and got a part time jobs after 3 weeks of trying?

Its a very expensive place so u better have a few grand in savings to spend else live with friends over there/family...the bills wont be so high then...

Best of luck whatever you do!

xalot

Try get some exercise every day, get out for a long walk or go to the gym. It'll get you out of the house and stop the cabin fever. Plus the endorphans will help your overall mood.

Hope things get better soon for you

tibuk

I have spend something around 1100 e attending interviews, tests (train tickets, gas and other stuff), I have also completed one course robotics programming - 850e. All for nothing - doing now CCNA heh. Will see what next.:D

Berty

I remember being out of work reading similar posts like this and emptatising. The worst replies to this sh*t you can read are that you need to find yourself a HOBBY.

Some people unfortunately cannot afford a hobby and do not have the to dedicate to anything other than finding a job.

Whilst I was unemployed and home during the day the doorbell would ring and I would find myself face to face with somebody trying to sell me something I didnt want. I would burn the ear off them. They never come back.

LOL.

Boards.ie IS ALWAYS ONLINE(except when its hacked and offline)

Faith+1

tibuk wrote: »

I have spend something around 1100 e attending interviews, tests (train tickets, gas and other stuff), I have also completed one course robotics programming - 850e. All for nothing - doing now CCNA heh. Will see what next.:D

You would of been better using that money for a one way ticket out of this dump.

_Kaiser_

Berty wrote: »

Boards.ie IS ALWAYS ONLINE(except when its hacked and offline)

Were it not for Boards I'm sure I'd have gone mad by now!

I'm rapidly approaching a year since I was laid off (IT manager with 12 years experience in the public and private sectors) and can count on one hand the number of interviews I've had. Oh I've had plenty of timewasting experiences with agencies, but only 2/3 actual worthwhile interviews.

The last one a few weeks back was the worst because I got as far as it coming down to me and someone else, and only lost out because they'd done a few courses recently! (if only I had the money for things like that)
It really got me down.. I'd started to think that just MAYBE I'd get it, but moreso because it means starting all over again, dealing with the agency timewasting and then only to not even get an interview out if it.

I've enough to do around the house most days but that doesn't help.. I've always been working until last year and I just hate sitting around all day like this worrying about how I'm gonna pay the next bill.

Still, no choice but to keep trying either I suppose..

eire2009

It hasnt gotten any better for me and sadly probably wont for many for some time.. But one thing is for sure you`ll get used to it eventually.. Ive been doing a lot of work for **** all recently for friends/family its giving me something to do but I really need a steady wage at this stage

dan_d

will.in.cork wrote: »

Where u gonna go dan d?

Was in canada for few months, lots of americans n europeans coming in there so jobs are v.hard to find! Spent 3 months travelling but no work. Came home and got a part time jobs after 3 weeks of trying?

Its a very expensive place so u better have a few grand in savings to spend else live with friends over there/family...the bills wont be so high then...

Best of luck whatever you do!

Wherever will have me.

Won't leave without a job being secured in another country. Have a lot of savings. Have friends living in Canada 3 years now.

Like I said. Wherever will have me.

Cork

When people ask: "How is the job hunting going?".

They are well meaning - but it used drive me up the wall.

Berty

On the 22nd March I went into the Welfare office to sign on. I was asked what job hunting I had done since losing my job on the 19th March.

Basically what Job Hunting had I done on the Saturday and Sunday?

That really grated me. :mad:

NinjaNikki

Berty wrote: »

On the 22nd March I went into the Welfare office to sign on. I was asked what job hunting I had done since losing my job on the 19th March.

Basically what Job Hunting had I done on the Saturday and Sunday?

That really grated me. :mad:

Right i was an au pair for a year ( from england btw) and was let off july 23rd not got pps as of yet but sorting out one will i get dole if so from when i get pps or when i 1st arrived in Ireland?

doolox

Did you have much notice before losing your job?
I had about 2 months notice but it didn't help one bit and I am still out after nearly a year!

The job scene for Electronics is seriously bad and getting worse as my skillset is rapidly going out of date.