What do you do at a Wedding after party?

tunguska

I dont know if this is the right forum to post this so apologies if its not. I have to admit that Ive never been to a wedding in my life even though Im in my 30s. Ive been invited to a wedding after party next week and Im not really sure if I should go. The guy whos getting married is a friend but wouldnt be a close one. He sent me a message during the week inviting me to the afters, well to be more precise he sent me a message inviting me and the missus. The problem is I dont have a girlfriend and I dont know if this kind of nullifies my invitation. I sent the guy a message saying I dont have a girlfriend but I heard nothing back. In fairness to him he's up to his eyes in arrangements so thats to be expected. All the other lads I know who are going are in relationships or married so I'd be the only single one out of the group. I guess my question is this: Are the afters of a wedding for people in relationships only? Will I be like a spare twat standing around on my own? Plus I dont drink anymore (gave it up a few years ago for health reasons)which kind of makes things even more awkward as I dont have the "just get drunk" option.
Should I even bother going or will it be just too awkward?
Thanks

lazygal

Hi OP,

I've been to a fair few weddings and I'm in the middle of planning ours now. Our afters invites are to take care of the people we could not invite to the whole day because of budget and space. I don't expect that many to take us up on the offer TBH so don't stress about it. If you know people going and feel like a night out, by all means go, but TBH your absence probably won't be noticed.
hth

tinkerbell

If he sent you a msg inviting you and the missus, then I would assume that he meant a +1 by that invite ... in which case you could go and bring someone along?

lily lou

Hi tunguska, they're definitely not just for couples. I've been to the afters of a wedding on my own or if I thought it was going to be full of couples or people I didn't know I'd bring a friend. It's up to you really, but don't miss out just because you're single.

the_syco

tunguska wrote: »

Are the afters of a wedding for people in relationships only? Will I be like a spare twat standing around on my own? Plus I dont drink anymore (gave it up a few years ago for health reasons)which kind of makes things even more awkward as I dont have the "just get drunk" option.
Should I even bother going or will it be just too awkward?
Thanks

The afters consist of getting drunk, and dancing. Since you don't drink drink, just drink non-alcoholic drink, and dance. Have fun. All else fails, disappear into the dusk, and leave early. There'll be plenty of single people there. Find out who the single ladies are, and get it on.:)

BC

Will you know anyone else at the wedding?
If not then i'd bring someone (a friend) along with you.

tunguska

the_syco wrote: »

The afters consist of getting drunk, and dancing. Since you don't drink drink, just drink non-alcoholic drink, and dance. Have fun. All else fails, disappear into the dusk, and leave early. There'll be plenty of single people there. Find out who the single ladies are, and get it on.:)

I dont drink, dont have a girlfriend and..............I cant dance. Think Im pretty much screwed, wont bother going. Cheers for the replies.