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What to expect from counselling...?

  • 03-10-2010 12:39pm
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    So I'm due to begin counselling with this week - I was abused when i was a kid.

    As always, because i've booked counselling before, as the actual appointment is getting closer, I'm unsure whether I need it now. A few weeks back, when I was going through a bad time, i was sure I needed counselling and I rang and made an appointment. Now however, I'm feeling much better in myself and don't have a clue what to say when the counsellor asks me 'So...why are you here...?'

    So what can I expect from counselling for those of you who've been through it? Does it really help? Can it stop me going through these awful depressive stages every few months...?
    Thanks for reading.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    I think you should still go to the counselling and when they ask you why you are there tell them the truth, you were abused and you go through times when it really gets you down and you want to be able to move on and take it from there. If you felt you needed outside help when you were going through a really tough time and you know that it's likely to happen again, then counselling could be really beneficial.

    All the best.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thank you ickle.

    But I honestly feel absolutely fine now - I know the shadow is hanging over me and will rear it's ugly head, probably in about another 3 months, which is the time I always pick up the phone and make an appointment.

    But today, life is good and i don't feel the need to talk to someone about my problems.

    Why is that?

    Why do I always get to the point when i wonder what the heck was wrong with me a few weeks back - why can't I just feel the way I do today, all the time???

    I genuinely feel great today - Im not on meds and haven't even had a drink recently, so it's not a 'chemical' influence if you get my drift. Is it my 'coping mechanism' as they say in all the best self help books.

    And how does just talking to someone about the abuse, fix my life today??


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9 Three Sheets


    So I'm due to begin counselling with this week - I was abused when i was a kid.

    As always, because i've booked counselling before, as the actual appointment is getting closer, I'm unsure whether I need it now. A few weeks back, when I was going through a bad time, i was sure I needed counselling and I rang and made an appointment. Now however, I'm feeling much better in myself and don't have a clue what to say when the counsellor asks me 'So...why are you here...?'

    So what can I expect from counselling for those of you who've been through it? Does it really help? Can it stop me going through these awful depressive stages every few months...?
    Thanks for reading.
    I can guess that the reason that you always feel "better" in the days leading up to the appointed time is because you begin to feel the affects of "doing something about the problem". Sort of like the exitement prior to going on holiday. Problem is, you haven't followed through and the initial giddyness is soon gone because you really didn't do anything at all.

    You must make a serious commitment if you want to recieve the benefits of counselling. There are no short-cuts to problem solving and even a placebo needs to be administered in order for it to have any affect.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi,
    about 7 or 8 months ago i was like you, had made an appoinement for counselling but as time grew closer i started to think "ah i feel ok, maybe i dont need it" but my friend made me go. im so glad she did. i had certain problems in my life and i was depressed but it was such an amazing help. i felt the same as you, wasnt sure what to expect or what i was gonig to say but once i was there i just blabbed out the truth. and there is no easy fix for these things but there are ways of making it better on the road to "recovery". what i hadnt realised is that its me who helped me, it was counselling that helped me help myself.
    best of luck with it and please go and stick at it and give it time


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for that.

    I guess this is why my life is as it is today - I run away from just about everything. Now I'm even running away from the counselling, which could ultimately help me.

    Feeling good again today though and dreading it.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 161 ✭✭StarryMoon0


    Don't cancel!

    Just go and start getting thngs sorted.
    I been going to counciling for a few months now, best thing I've ever done for myself!

    Yes, we all have good days, but don't take a few good days as reason to cancel the appt. It will come up again, wouldn't it be better to just get working on it so you can look forward to the time when you will be feeling pretty good about things all the time? :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Well off I went this morning - as happy as larry. Honestly, almost didn't knock at the door, but in I went.

    Within ten minutes I was crying buckets! Don't know where it came from or how it came out so quickly...
    I felt so awful/a physical wreck when it was over, and I had to use public transport to go home, so luckily it was sunny this morning and I could wear my sunglasses to hide my eyes.

    I'm off work for the afternoon and feel completely exhausted - I feel I could sleep for a week.

    Really overwhelmed with the stuff I said...stuff I didn't even realise I was thinking about...
    Thanks for the advice guys. I've another appointment next week - already thinking of ways to back out of it, because I feel like crap now, but I'll go in the hope that eventually, I will feel better.
    Cheers.


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