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this girl needs love from someone

  • 02-10-2010 11:31pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey people, There is this girl that i really like and I know she likes me, she has told me many times that I am a 'babe' and told her friends she really likes me.

    However since then many things happened for example she was in a sorta relationship with this guy and he ended up leaving her for another girl and because I was to embaressd to as her out she got with another guy who cheated on her again.

    I feel so sorry for her and I know I can be the person that could look after her.

    Thing is how exactly should I go about this exactly?

    I have never had a g/f atall and her being more experience really frightens me.

    Help me please...............


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  • #2
    generalmental
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 485 ✭✭generalmental


    you are probably not gonna like this, but asking ppl on boards is not gonna get that girl. just ask HER what have you got to lose, the worst thing she can say is no,and i bet ppl have said no to you before.

    as for the experience thing dont worry bout it,you have to start somewhere,some women like the innocence of it


  • #3
    HavingCrack
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,847 ✭✭✭HavingCrack


    One thing, don't "tell her your feelings", it just doesn't work for whatever reason. I'm sure most other posters will agree with me. The best way is to get the two of you alone and if the conversation and mood feel right try to kiss her. If she kisses back -BINGO, you're in. If she pushes you away nothing is ever going to happen between you two but at least you'll know for sure.


  • #4
    baby and crumble
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,512 ✭✭✭baby and crumble


    HavingCrack wrote:
    One thing, don't "tell her your feelings", it just doesn't work for whatever reason. I'm sure most other posters will agree with me. The best way is to get the two of you alone and if the conversation and mood feel right try to kiss her. If she kisses back -BINGO, you're in. If she pushes you away nothing is ever going to happen between you two but at least you'll know for sure.

    Are you for real? Don't talk about your feelings just jump on her???? Not the best advice I ever heard tbh.

    OP, if you're nervous about it, just talk to her. Obviously don't lay out ALL your anxieties on her, just say "hey, listen, I like you a lot, and I know you've been messed around so you mightn't be up for a relationship right now, but I think we'd be great together. Fancy coffee/dinner/movie sometime and we can see?"

    Word of warning though- only try dating if you actually like her, not because you 'feel sorry for her'. It'll just end badly.


  • #5
    HavingCrack
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,847 ✭✭✭HavingCrack


    zoegh wrote: »
    Are you for real? Don't talk about your feelings just jump on her???? Not the best advice I ever heard tbh.

    OP, if you're nervous about it, just talk to her. Obviously don't lay out ALL your anxieties on her, just say "hey, listen, I like you a lot, and I know you've been messed around so you mightn't be up for a relationship right now, but I think we'd be great together. Fancy coffee/dinner/movie sometime and we can see?"

    Word of warning though- only try dating if you actually like her, not because you 'feel sorry for her'. It'll just end badly.

    Just going on personal experience. I never said jump on her by the way. You're twisting what I said. I said if the mood and the conversation felt right go for kiss. If the Op doesn't like my advice he doesn't have to take it.

    I wouldn't say your advice is particularly good to be honest.


  • #6
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Unhelpful and off-topic posting will get you banned from this forum.
    Do take time to read the charter which contains the rules and abide by them.
    Have a nice day.
    Thaedydal


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  • #7
    kylith
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,737 ✭✭✭✭kylith


    zoegh wrote: »
    OP, if you're nervous about it, just talk to her. Obviously don't lay out ALL your anxieties on her, just say "hey, listen, I like you a lot, and I know you've been messed around so you mightn't be up for a relationship right now, but I think we'd be great together. Fancy coffee/dinner/movie sometime and we can see?"

    Word of warning though- only try dating if you actually like her, not because you 'feel sorry for her'. It'll just end badly.
    +1 Just ask her out for coffee/cinema/few scoops and see where it goes from there.

    Going straight for a kiss when you don't really know how the other person feels may end badly.


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