Gf is bi

ken26

My GF has recently let me know that she wants to have a threesome. I am happy about it but now comes the problem of actually finding the right girl for this experience. It is not as if we can go out and start chatting up girls at clubs etc. How do we go about this? Would hate to miss out on this opportunity after all it is most mens fantasy. Any advice/info would be much appreciated!

Thanks.

bad2dabone

dear diary: Jackpot!

Roro4Brit

There's loadsa places - online ads, paper ads and I'm sure you can find people in clubs too etc.

Just wait until the blood retuns to your head and I'm sure you'll think of plenty of options :P

Quazzie

2 of the 3 people nearly always enjoy the threesome more than the third person.

Threesomes are ridiculously hard to organize, especially by a guy do if its really up to your gf to make it happen. They usually just happen as opposed to arrangement unless she has a really open minded liberated friend.

wonderfulname

OP, did you never watch friends? I'd be wary if I were you :P

ken26

Jackpot indeed lads!!!! One of her friends are out ofthe question. They are all in relationships anyway. Don't really want the hassle that could come from havin a threesome with on of her friends anyway.

She will be the shot caller on this one I will not be organising it, she will. Im happy with that. Just want to make sure it is done right so it won't be a one time thing.

Would prefer to avoid news paper ads etc but we will see. Just have to suss things out more as she does not know where to start either.

rainbow kirby

bad2dabone wrote: »

dear diary: Jackpot!

AH-style comments are not appreciated around here.

push_it

ah poor poor ken,

Silly boy.

Boys have a deluded version of what 3somes actually are.

Give your girlfriend 18months to 2 years before she's running off with the girls.

But as for your question, maybe try gardargirls.com. some bi-girls on there that might be up for it.

Good luck

ken26

ah it is not an episode of friends as someone said in previous post, she won't be running away with any girls. We have been with eachother a while now and also have a 5 yr old daughter. Not worried about it in the slightest. Thanks for the link. I will check it out now

Op – Did you ask her who she has in mind? It is possible that she has come to the conclusion she wants to do it because she has thought about it with particular people. Maybe there is someone she wishes to ask.

From what little personal experience I have on the subject, with us guys it is a case that we want the threesome and any good looking girl will do. What we want is just to have two girls there, and that is the sum total of what we think about on the issue.

For girls there is a little more to it than that and there has to be all sorts of other connections above the base ones us lads have.

I currently live in a relationship with two girls, and it was never a case that they just wanted to jump into bed with a girl. In fact neither of them are into girls at all generally. It was just with each other something slowly developed over a period of time and it grew into us being in a full time thing together for the last 2 years now.

Because of our situation we have met and talked with a large enough number of people who have had an array of experiences sexually, including things like this, and it is from this I get the impression that it is rarely the same image of how it should go that girls have compared to what we have.

All vast generalisations of course, but worth being aware of as you proceed.

Eebs

I think threesomes can be disasters waiting to happen.
Why do you want to do this? What's the motivation? Having two girls at the same time in general? The voyeuristic appeal? Just figure that out first because real life is nothing like porn threesomes. There is no script and no one else who calls cut. So go into this aware of the potential pitfalls.

From Chasing Amy Regarding threesomes:

No, it will. Maybe you'll see me differently from then on - maybe you'll despise me for going along with it, once you're in the moment. Maybe I'll moan differently and then you'll resent Banky, and become suspicious of us. Or you'll alienate him because of it, and then grow to blame and hate me for the deterioration of your friendship. Or what if- I sincerely doubt it, but what if - I saw something in Banky that I never saw before, and fell in love with him and left you. I've been down roads like this before; many times. I know you feel doing this will broaden your horizons and give you experience. But I've had those experiences on my own. I can't accompany you on your's. I'm past that now.

That just highlights some of the problems. Threesomes can be great but they require a real ability to communicate effectively and promptly. If you feel something bad is going on you have to be able to communicate it because things can spiral into uncomfortable really quickly. It can end up ruining your relationship. What if you did feel she was spending more time with the other girl than you? What if she felt that about you?

That said it can also be a great experience. My advice if you're going to try it is not just to wait for the right person but to have pretty clear guidelines on what will freak you out and to have a 'safe word' that if someone calls it quits the agreement is everyone stops. Nothing worse than feeling a spare wheel in a situation like that. It can ruin relationships and friendships.

That said, check out swinger websites. Get a few tips on how to avoid problems and be safe. It can be brilliant but with all things there are risks.

Eebs

push_it wrote: »

ah poor poor ken,

Silly boy.

Boys have a deluded version of what 3somes actually are.

Give your girlfriend 18months to 2 years before she's running off with the girls.

But as for your question, maybe try gardargirls.com. some bi-girls on there that might be up for it.

Good luck

Ah poor poor you, you seem to have the impression that all women interested in women are lesbians and cheaters.

Nevyn

Can the thread title be changed to "gf is bi and sexually adventurous"
Cos not all bi women are.

Darkdream

hi..guess what I am one of those bi girls who have a boyfriend (now), we met through a common friend who i was making out with in a club, and after a while i ended up getting together with him and still having my good time with girls...
BUT..
not into threesome, (i'd be jealous of the other girl going with him) and he's actually ok with it.. i know that like most men he dreams about it..but he's ok with me having a good time with a girl every now and again..and getting his friends maaad with envy.


BTW
forget about ads on papers or on the net.. i would never and i mean never trust it..best way would be in a club..
good luck