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I'm in a confusing situation.

  • 01-10-2010 10:25pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hey there,

    Where do I start? This is going to sound a little strange I guess.

    I was involved with the church for quite a while, from my early teens doing alter serving. I didn't really want to do it in the first place but my parents thought it might be a good idea to get 'contacts' (even though they assumed this before those reports about the church came out). I don't know why I went along with it but I guess I was always kinda innocent and easily led but I didn't want to disrespect them.

    Now I'm still living with them (in my late teens), in college and I know what I want to do with my life, more or less, in the future. I told them I didn't want to do the serving and I quit. They didn't mind that fact (to my relief) but they said I had to still go to mass. Now personally I consider myself an atheist/agnostic and I guess it was quite hypocritical of me to do the serving as such but I never really came out about my beliefs, I just went with the flow and did what my parents said. I told them that I didn't want to go to mass anymore because "I didn't really believe in that stuff anymore". These are the words I said.

    When I said this they got angry and called me an idiot and even threaten that they would kick me out. They told me I didn't know how to get on in life, etc.. Mind you I wouldn't mind at all leaving home now (and I guess it's about time I did) but I don't want to be on bad terms with my parents. This all seems like a big mess and it was all my fault because got too involved with things I didn't believe in.

    Can anyone give my advice about what I should do?


Comments

  • #2
    WesternNight
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,286 ✭✭✭WesternNight


    Well, if you want to move out and have the means to do so then I'd say go for it. Sit your parents down and explain to them calmly what you believe. Some reasoning might help (as opposed to just saying "I don't believe it and that's that") them to realise that you're not just, say, rebelling against them or something for the sake of it.

    Hopefully they'll be able to accept it and everyone will be able to get on with their lives.

    As for the alter service, I wouldn't get hung up on that. You're still in your teens, you're still finding your feet and figuring out who you are and what you stand for.


  • #3
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    If you were confirmed then you are an adult in the eyes of the church and you are responsible for your soul and your relationship with the christian god and it's between you, that god and who ever you choose as your confessor.

    This is what you tell you parents, thank them for safe guarding your soul as they promised at your baptism and for raising you in the faith and the community of the church and parish but you are an adult, you took the vows at confirmation and you have to find your own way, and that if you need to you will talk to them.


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