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Pebbles!

Hey guys!

I'm working myself into a state at the minute. My boyfriend loves the job he's at. it's all he's ever wanted to do, it means the world to him. But the way the country is now, there isn't much work and he's really getting him down. He's getting no everyway he turns, luck is never on his side he always has so many set backs, nothing ever goes right for him and he's very dishearten. The last couple of days he's been very quiet with me, he's so pissed off and it seems to be his way of dealing with it. I want to help him any way that I can but there's nothing I can do. I Just don't know what to say or do anymore!! Do I just give him space, I'm a worrier so I can't help it...It could blow over in the morning but until it does i'l be stressing over him. . .:(

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Pebbles! wrote: »

Hey guys!

I'm working myself into a state at the minute. My boyfriend loves the job he's at. it's all he's ever wanted to do, it means the world to him. But the way the country is now, there isn't much work and he's really getting him down. He's getting no everyway he turns, luck is never on his side he always has so many set backs, nothing ever goes right for him and he's very dishearten. The last couple of days he's been very quiet with me, he's so pissed off and it seems to be his way of dealing with it. I want to help him any way that I can but there's nothing I can do. I Just don't know what to say or do anymore!! Do I just give him space, I'm a worrier so I can't help it...It could blow over in the morning but until it does i'l be stressing over him. . .:(

I was in a very similar situation Pebbles. My girlfriend (well ex now) knows she has a job in which if she bides her time could be very rewarding for her and shes damn good at it too. But shes had so many empty promises and so much of a work load put on her on a low salary that she was between 2 minds as to stay or go abroad. I felt so useless throughout the whole process and couldnt do anything but offer her my love and try to take her mind off things but the stress seemed just 2 much. Sleepless nights for the 2 of us, her seeming distant because she couldnt get her mind off things. We had a great relationship, the best i have ever had and more than I ever expected from any relationship. Our break up just spontaneously happened one lunch time when she came home in almost a panic. We never fought and it was the stress that forced her to become distant (she just couldnt stop thinking about it). Now although I didnt initiate the break up and would have moved heaven and earth for her to be happy there was just nothing I could do to make it better. For me her health and her future are the most important things even if I am still cut up about it and even if her future doesnt include me. Basically I was stressing the whole time like you but ultimately there is nothing you can do about stress in your other halves workplace if its really getting them down. Its a horrible feeling and you do feel useless. The future is an unknown place and your situation as you say may change in the morning. I just suggest hanging in there as long as possible, letting him know your there and if he needs space then recognise that stress from this kind of thing can damage what you already have in your relationship so it may be best for his health. Only he can tell you when he comes to terms with it. Hopefully someone else has had a better experience that can cheer you up. That being said im getting on with things to try and not get myself down and i check in with her to make sure shes ok whilst giving her space at the same time.