Is this weird?

LegacyUser

General Query - been with my boyfriend for 2 years. When he goes out for a few drinks on his own he never texts me or drunk phone calls me?

Is this weird?

Ickle Magoo

No - it's not weird plenty of couples don't feel the need to be in contact 24/7, including a night out...

Taltos

Have you asked him why he doesn't do either?

It might be suspicious - but equally it might not be. Just talk to him though - don't let your mind play tricks on you.

Pebbles!

Not really, everybody needs their own space and time out for everything. have you text him and for him not to reply thou?? I could get suspicious if he's always texting and then doesn't reply or answer the phone!!!

LighterGuy

Is it weird?

Its hard to answer.

- Some relationships its perfectly ok. Just means one half is busy having fun
- And on the flip side some couples send the odd text to their partners during the night then after they get home.

Its all about what is the normal in your relationship.
If while up until recently he would send the odd text on a night out but now suddenly doesnt... then that would be "weird" to what you usually expect.


Question is, has this always been this way op?

John Mason

its perfectly normal

nothing worse then idiotic drunken messages

IrishEyes19

Take it as a compliment rather than a negative. Question is do you ever do it to him? Perhaps he's wary that if you don't, he doesn't. Its not a pleasant thing anyway to be woken at 4am by a text or call of drunken slurred words. Maybe he doesnt drink to that excess anyway that he whips out his phone and dials you.

Not only is it normal, it is quite healthy. You both need time where you go out and leave each other behind for a short time. Nothing, and nobody, should be on your mind constantly for every waking moment. Whatever it is, a hobby, work, or a partner, you need to switch off from time to time.

Chicago Chick

No it's not weird at all. I would have only occasional rang my hubby on a night out with the girls. I would ring more now if I was out as we had our first baby a couple of months ago, but up until that time I don't think I would have rang often. To be honest I just liked to take some time to relax and be with friends when I was out. It doesn't mean I loved him any less, just that I wanted some time for myself.

Zen65

Unregistered wrote: »

Is this weird?

He's been acting this way for two years, right? For him then this is normal & not weird at all. For many years it would not occur to me to phone or text my wife when I'm at work, and even rare for me to do it if I'm out of an evening.

We are all creatures of habit.

Be at peace,

Z

pollypocket10

I don't think so.

I would rarely text or call my oh when I'm on nights out. It's not that I wouldn't be thinking of him or miss him or whatever. I just think when you make plans to meet up with friends then it would be rude. I see him everyday, I see my friends less often so I like to make the most out of the time I am with them and not be preoccupied with my phone.

HE on the other hand will usually send me a couple of drunken texts :rolleyes: They can be nice BUT it's not nice to be woken up so all in all I'd say your better off

blackbird98

it's not weird, it would be weird if you wanted drunken texts or calls!!!!

whenever I'm out, I would never call or text my wife, unless I'm staying out overnight away from home, then I would call her that evening, before I went out

the gob

i think a good percentage of people would text their other half at
some stage during a full night out

even if the texts just say "having a great time" or i will be home at a certain time so dont wait up

IrishEyes19

the gob wrote: »

i think a good percentage of people would text their other half at
some stage during a full night out

even if the texts just say "having a great time" or i will be home at a certain time so dont wait up

The OP never stated if she is living with him or not though! I wouldnt worry to be honest, OP, I never did that with any bf, I often thought actually it would be a huge turn off so I was very careful with my phone on nights out, particularly if I was drinking.

LegacyUser

Hi Guys,

Thanks for all the comments!let me just be clear, it has nothing to do with trust or anything like that. I completely trush him! I was just wondering in general!And also no we are not living together at the moment but plan to be soon!:)

Thanks again!

I am a friend

Nope it's not weird. Am sure he is thrilled to have such a cool gf when all his mates have to check in every hour. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you.