Concerned over penis size

LegacyUser

First off I'm a virgin

I did vist a prostitute once but probably due to nerves, I was unable to ejaculate and tbh, it wasn't a good experience, in fact it was a terrible experience. The prostitute was so kind and caring, lovely girl but realy it was a cold experience and what a let down.

However I do well at other things and I do have a good job at the moment.
I do fancy a girl in work, taken her out to lunch a few times and on work nights out I've mostly spent the night dancing and talking to her, kissing on a nightclub seat in the corner for aaaaaaages. Oh yeah!

I've been invited to her sister's engagement party and since she owns her own house I've been told I'll be spending the night with her there with very suggestive language.

She is very confident, outgoing and I am aware of a few past boyfriends. I'm the very opposite, very shy, few friends and rarely in nightclubs unless I was dragged along.
Me, I'm a virgin and just 4 inches. And the nights I spent in a nightclub kissing on a couch I was so, so very nervous, she even commented on it.

I'm fecking terrified. She is a lovely girl and would never send spiteful comments around work but I've read previous threads where the OP gets laughed at for penis size. So would I get laughed at for size and cluelessness & inexperience ?

Girls like confident men, would I even tell her I'm a virgin?

Ickle Magoo

Not that I want to know the details of your visit but failing to ejaculate wouldn't mean you didn't lose your virginity if you had sexual intercourse with the prostitute.

Regardless, I wouldn't necessarily say anything about being inexperienced - most first times with a particular person are a bit of a fumble and steep learning curve. As for size? Well, it depends if your 4 inches are erect or not as to whether that would be considered below average but there is no point assuming she's going to laugh and she's be really horrible to do such a thing about something which you have no control over anyway. Just ask what she likes and how she likes it and go from there.

Best of luck

LegacyUser

I understand everything you're saying but as with most things in life you just have to suck it up and get on with it. You don't have a large penis but you have enough to get the job done easily. Women's vaginas are generally 5 inchs deep and only the first 3 inchs are sensitve to touch etc. 90% of all woman dont orgasm through penetrative sex, they need foreplay etc. For the first 4 to 5 weeks of going out with my now girlfriend I kept forgeting to get condoms, so when we ended up in bed we coudlnt have sex but we still fooled around and I made her cum everytime and she said it was the best sex she ever had but we didnt actually have sex if ya get me.

My point is, when ye have sex, spend age kissing and caressing her and go down on her for ages, try to make her cum before having sex and it will ake the actual sex much beter, once u make her cum she wont give a **** how u did it, big dick or not. If ur not sure how to do that there is loads of info on the net.

Pdfile

forplay is Everything Op...


i mean... that and no blowing your load within 30 seconds ( or so to speak ) and your laughing .

its obvious the girl likes you and if shes being so honest, go for it...

full steam ahead; wrap it up and have no regrets !

i have girl mates of years who all say honestly " smaller are generally better cause they try harder... if a guy has a 12" then he thinks he ain't even gotta bother "

:cool:

LegacyUser

I think you should be honest and tell her you're a virgin. If things don't go well, then at least she'll know there's room for improvement if things don't go very well the first time.

There's also a chance that you being a virgin will also boost her own confidence in bed, because she has more the knowledge and experience. Just tell her and ask her to show you and tell you what she likes. Some girls like the idea of "training" their guy to please them. Some also think it's sweet that they will be the first.

dory

(777) wrote: »

For the first 4 to 5 weeks of going out with my now girlfriend I kept forgeting to get condoms

You kept forgetting to get condoms for 4 to 5 weeks?


OP, like other have said it's not about size. Try not to overthink it because girls can sense nerves. And it seems to be a fact that not many girls orgasm from penetrative sex anyway so concentrate on the other stuff!

LegacyUser

(777) wrote: »

90% of all woman dont orgasm through penetrative sex, they need foreplay etc. .

What??? In my experience this is not true at all. Where is you get this info from?

greengiant09

first things first....you are not a virgin!...just because you didn't cum doesn't mean you didn't have 'sex'. do not tell her you were with a prossie but you might say you don't have much experience....theres no need to even mention this either unless she asks.

forget about your penis size....your small but still big enough to get the job done (pardon the pun)....i mean the difference between your size and the average bloke is fock all in real terms.

from my experience, if you want to satisfy her, you'd want to pay a lot more attention to her clit than trying to ram her senselessly through penetrative sex. get those fingers working!!!...or your mouth....mix it up.

if you have very little knowledge or experience of using your mouth or fingers, there's some really good videos on the net showing you exactly what to do (not porn videos btw!)

above all and remember this, sex isn't usually amazing the first time you have it with a person, it usually gets better over time as you get to know what your partner likes so try not to focus too much on trying to have this amazing sex you see in films!

tenchi-fan

Hi
The main thing isn't size and its not really what you can do with it. it's whether u can get hard or not. If ur rock hard 4" is plenty. If you;re not you should speak to your gp (viagra - it does a lot for your confidence too)
I think the prostitute was probably a mistake for you.
I don't know about mentioning if you're a virgin. I don't think I would.

LegacyUser

When I was with a girl for the first time in my early 20's. I was completly nervous/paniking over wheater she would notice and if i should tell her etc.
After much thought I decided to do so, while we were in bed and things were leading that way I mentioned that I had never been with anyone before and her responce was simply "So?" and we got on with it.
Most women at the stage where they obviouly like you as this girl appears to do so dont really care or mind if you are inexperenced.

Altough subsequent to this I was with a girl who found it hillarious and was shocked that I had only been with one person at that stage of my life when the previous partners conversation came up, however I beleive this to be the exception and as long as you put the effort in and make her cum first the penis size and the lack of experence probably wont matter.

Storminateacup

as long as your not so small that youre peeing on your testicles u shud be fine..
dont worry about it, if she laughs then shes not sumone you want to give it to anyway..

muinteoir09

interesting! wrote: »

What??? In my experience this is not true at all. Where is you get this info from?

He is right - most women don't orgasm through penetrative sex but rather clitoral stimulation. The misconception arises due to one night stands where women can have a tendency to fake it. Movies don't help either where everyone comes at the same time every time.

Ickle Magoo

muinteoir09 wrote: »

He is right - most women don't orgasm through penetrative sex but rather clitoral stimulation. The misconception arises due to one night stands where women can have a tendency to fake it. Movies don't help either where everyone comes at the same time every time.

In fairness to interesting!, I don't know about bandying around terms like most or even being as specific as 90% - there are certainly plenty of women who can and do orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone - perhaps he has experience mostly of them?

The bottom line is, the most important thing to ensure your woman gets an orgasm each and every time is communication, ask her what she likes and how she likes it.

All the best.

HavingCrack

atalefortwo wrote: »

I think you should be honest and tell her you're a virgin. If things don't go well, then at least she'll know there's room for improvement if things don't go very well the first time.

There's also a chance that you being a virgin will also boost her own confidence in bed, because she has more the knowledge and experience. Just tell her and ask her to show you and tell you what she likes. Some girls like the idea of "training" their guy to please them. Some also think it's sweet that they will be the first.

This is unusual advice. Every girl I know and every advice column I've read has said girls would prefer a lad who isn't a virgin. Perhaps I just know adventourous girls??? I wouldn't tell her you're a virgin OP (which you aren't really), it might make her uncomfortable.

IrishEyes19

HavingCrack wrote: »

This is unusual advice. Every girl I know and every advice column I've read has said girls would prefer a lad who isn't a virgin. Perhaps I just know adventourous girls??? I wouldn't tell her you're a virgin OP (which you aren't really), it might make her uncomfortable.

Meh, why say anything at all....everyone has to start somewhere as did the so called Casanovas of the world. Secondly, don't feel pushed to take it to that level either with her if you're not ready. I mean fair enough the words may have sounded suggestive, but that doesnt always ring true either.

And Im sure in practice girls prefer guys who arent a virgin, but Im also sure most guys dont go around saying they are either....so who knows. Take it in your stride and relax, if its the right person and the right time, you'll be in the moment and those fears should melt away.

Motley Crue

terriefiedItellya wrote: »

I did vist a prostitute once but probably due to nerves, I was unable to ejaculate and tbh, it wasn't a good experience, in fact it was a terrible experience. The prostitute was so kind and caring, lovely girl but realy it was a cold experience and what a let down.

If you penetrated the prostitute then you are not a virgin.

Second, it doesn't matter about size....no, really.....NO REALLY...it doesn't matter, it matters how to use it and it matters how confident you are...that's what is important...I can't tell you how to relax and act on the night, but you should take your time, and try not to think about anyone else at the party or think of anything really other then having a relaxing evening. When, and if, it comes time to do something with her...then just follow her lead....tell her you're unsure what to do, I'm sure she'll know what you want:D

tenchi-fan

tenchi-fan wrote: »

The main thing isn't size and its not really what you can do with it. it's whether u can get hard or not.

I do not mean to single you out Fan but you phrased best what I would take issue with on a thread like this.

I would agree with your second sentence here, but not your first. 4” is more than enough to “get the job done” as some have put it. This I agree with.

However the rest I am not sure is entirely accurate. It is quite possible for the penis to bring a woman to orgasm without getting hard at all.

The trick is to get rid of this idea, given to us guys by porn probably, that the girl in question is there having sex with your penis. This is not so. She is there having sex with YOU and your penis is only one aspect of that experience.

It is perfectly easy for example, and in fact quite common, for a girl to reach orgasm simply holding you close, looking into your eyes, kissing you and grinding herself against an entirely flaccid penis. Even the most flaccid penis is still the penis of the man she is excited about being in bed with, and it is still being grinded against one of the more sensitive parts of her anatomy. I myself have made it happen simply by saying the right things to a girl while my leg was between hers and she was able to squeeze her thighs against my leg. That’s an orgasm without even direct clitoral contact between it and any part of me.

When you realise sex is an all over body experience shared with the entire body of the other person, things like penis size, hardness, longevity in action and more all cease to be as relevant as you think. It is what you do together as a whole that matters, not what individual pieces perform well or are “up to spec”.

Nevyn

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