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New relationship sex

  • 25-09-2010 10:13pm
    #1
    Rainbow_Brite!
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3 ✭


    I've been out of the dating game for a while, gave myself time to cool off after the end of a long term relationship...Anyway I've recently met a man and I do like him, we are getting on well. It's very early days but I want to get to know him before we start sleeping together. My question is how do i approach this...I get on well with him but I'm afraid that if I'm willing to kiss but not go " all the way" do I look like a tease? I don't want him thinking i'm not into him or i'm frigid or anything like that because i'm not and I do like him, i just don't want to rush into things. I enjoy spending time with him, it's just that I want to get to know him more before we sleep together. I know this is a really juvenile question, i'm not that young, just out of practice when it comes to new relationships.


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  • #2
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Be straight with him and tell him the truth. Tell him you want to take things slowly. If you're attracted to him and see yourself sleeping with him at some stage tell him that you are attracted to him and that you see yourself sleeping with him at some stage. I've waited before and there is nothing hotter than weeks of foreplay and build-up if you're both really into each other. It is so so hot.

    Being honest I think people have sex too easily sometimes and while that's cool too, there is something so erotic about getting to know someone first and building it up to when you have really gotten to know someone and when neither of you can bear it a second longer. Tell him that. And you can go way further than kissing without having penetrative sex as long as he knows that you're not ready yet then that does not constitute as teasting, more building up the tension ;)


  • #3
    LighterGuy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,243 ✭✭✭LighterGuy


    As a guy I would rather be told up straight.

    If you dont want to have sex until you know him more. Say it to him :) it will put him in his place in a good way.

    Try to not use cliche lines that dont indicate a rough passage of time, eg, "its too soon" or "not yet"

    A good example would be if I was dating a girl and she wanted to wait 2 months it would save some much hassle if she said 2 months. But if she gave cliche lines, after 3-4 weeks i would be thinking "how come we havent had sex yet?" and would be naturally starting to think that if she isnt showing any interest in sleeping with me maybe shes not into me / this wont go anywhere.


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