Dignity

Carter12

Just reading “dumped” thread there and I agree it all about keeping his dignity. However in my situation, what if your dignity is totally gone and you have lowered your standards for a person because you love them. But they really couldnt give a ****e about you?

Im working on trying to get my dignity back (today is my first day). Im a nice girl, not promiscuous, respectful job, good family, but I feel absolutely **** in allowing myself to be treated like dirt by this man and compromising my standards. I met him yesterday for sex and I am disgusted with myself for what I did and so ashamed of myself.

Am I making sense ? im all over the place today.

Im in a toxic relationship with this man for the past 6 years and I just want to rise above it and move on. Usually its with a shred of dignity, but I have none left.

Babooshka

Hiya

Sorry you feel so bad in yourself. Dignity is not a tangible thing...so it really is up to you how much or less of it you "have" or want to have. No one can see your dignity so even if you fake dignity, no one would ever know, except they'd get a clue from how you let them treat you. Make sense? Hold onto your feeling of disgust and remember how it feels, it is there for a reason. No one else can or should judge you, you are doing that for yourself, and I think your self is trying to tell you that, in fact, you have plenty of dignity inside, because you're not willing to be treated like crap or make little of yourself any more. So just act on that feeling, and I daresay it'll get you away from the harm that's in your life right now.

Focus on what you want and walk away from what/who doesn't want you, at least properly anyway. Best of luck - B