Extra-marital Affair - I think I'd like one !!

notmyreal

You've heard it all before - Married x years, spark gone from what's essentially a good relationship, sex is irregular and mechanical. Don't want to split up, love our kids etc. etc. Whats the harm if my partner doesn't find out ...and I dont catch the clap !

Let me know what you think

Revolution9

What's the harm if your partner does find out?
Leaves you?
Takes the kids?
Divorce, gets your house/money?

Sure what's the harm. Great idea. Go for it. :cool:

bonerm

notmyreal wrote: »

You've heard it all before - Married x years, spark gone from what's essentially a good relationship, sex is irregular and mechanical. Don't want to split up, love our kids etc. etc. Whats the harm if my partner doesn't find out ...and I dont catch the clap !

Let me know what you think

Don't do it! You've been married for X years now. Only another L or possibly LX years to put up with each other before you're both dead. You can manage that much.

ScumLord

If married couples could allow each other to go off for a week and get it out of their system every few years it could be enough to save a lot of relationships.

Once a couple is married for a while it's the obligation to raise their kids that keeps them together more than anything. If they realised that's what they where actually doing then I don't see why they shouldn't be allowed to have the owl poke from a random person included in the marriage deal.

Bjorn Bored.

I think your

a) male

b) sad

c) would pay for sex (i would rather cut it off than stoop that low)

d) self possesed and inconsiderate

and

e) not a very good parent anyway if you are even considering this.


Now if you had the balls you were born with,you would either try to work harder at your marriage,or at the very least leave your wife and kids(they dont need you if your this way anyway)

to be blunt about it,if you want an affair,just do the decent thing and be honest for once,tell your wife and let her get on with her life,i am sure she will meet someone who respects her more than you ever have.

starlit

I'm single but I still woudn't have an affair with a married man neither would I have an affair with someone else if I were in a relationship and I wouldn't ever have an affair even if I were married.

thebigbiffo

sometimes i'd love a bit of the ol strange - and i do wonder sometimes what the harm would really be if i shagged some random bird on the side.

as long as there's no real emotional attachement, why does the act of sex purely for sex screw with solid relationships? for blokes...it can be just a ride, end of.

Jimmy Bottlehead

thebigbiffo wrote: »

sometimes i'd love a bit of the ol strange - and i do wonder sometimes what the harm would really be if i shagged some random bird on the side.

as long as there's no real emotional attachement, why does the act of sex purely for sex screw with solid relationships? for blokes...it can be just a ride, end of.

Yeah but just think of your missus screaming in ecstacy as another man rocks her world more than you ever did... not quite as appealing! But truth be bold, an allowed bit on the side every so often would save relationships and make you value what you have.

On a more serious note... doing a chick on the side is NOT a good feeling if you love your wife. You will regret it, whether she finds out or not.

j1974

notmyreal wrote: »

You've heard it all before - Married x years, spark gone from what's essentially a good relationship, sex is irregular and mechanical. Don't want to split up, love our kids etc. etc. Whats the harm if my partner doesn't find out ...and I dont catch the clap !

Let me know what you think

how do you think your partner is feeling???? but theyve decided to stick with things because they stood there in front of family and friends and promised to take a chance on ye, essentially allow you to be their life. Now you refer to a scabby affair as betrayal that's ok as long as your partner doesnt find out??? I dont think it would be as bad if you started the thread saying youd fallen for some girl in work because you spend 8-10 hours together blah blah blah and then listed your reasons as above and now this affair has just happened, its the last thing you wanted but her it is and now you dont know what to do etc etc. I cud understand or at least respect that, these things can happen, it does so everyday.

Youre actually planning to have one?? you sound quite cold and calculating in your intentions also, that's worrying to think your partner may think the world of you and here's you wankin off to swinger sites on the internet. Do your partner the courtesy of telling them how you feel and seeing if they are going through the same. What child wants mammy or daddy to be a calculating scumbag like that. people fall out of love all the time and yes kids are involved and wedding rings are pawned and all that, but both parties can still be dignified and remain friends, that's honourable. "Ah sure what's the harm" if you were married to my brother id clatter the face off ya for knowingly and purposefully hurting him. and if you're a guy, which I think you are, cant be arsed with your profile, id bang your head of every wall in the place for making a thick out of my sister.

best o luck to ya,

starlit

ejmaztec wrote: »

You're no fun at all.:(

Its not in me to ever do it even when I was in previous relationships I never once had an affair. I am monogamous at heart! My conscience would get the better of me, and at times my head rules my heart when it comes to these things. I could never do it, its just not in my nature.

dr.bollocko

OK I'm going to move this to relationship issues now. It will be locked until the moderators there get a chance to review it and see if this discussion is worth continuing.