friendship issue

LegacyUser

I've been friends with this girl about 9mths, we both moved abroad, so we got close enough in that time. but sometimes when she gets drunk, she gets in a strop about something, blanks me, gives me teh silent treatment to the point of being rude. it's happened maybe 4-5 times since i've known her, once I played a practical joke she didn't take too well, but the other times has been either 'i was too drunk lastnight bla sorry, was zoned out' or some excuse for being mad at me at the time, but in the light of day, she apologizes.

lastnight we were out, her gay best friend came to live with her and this guy she's just started seeing came up for the weekend to visit her.....well, i was having a grand night dancign with everyone, laughing, getting on great with her new fella and the other friend who I also know. so she decides it's time to go home - the gay friend told me she's outside waiting and we have to go. I think wtf, that's a bit huffy to just walk out without saying a word. well, didn't take any notice, but then when i saw her face, she was pretty pissed off....she blanks me, gives me looks, and refuses to talk to me when i try to ask if she's ok. she tells me she's tired, and i overhear her tellin a mate 'i'll tell u later'...

so today we all met for dinner and she says she was jealous of me lastnight...i asked was it the dancing with her fella? no, i was horsing around with our mate and her fella outside the club, chatting and play acting..she apologized said she was insecure and tried to brush it off as nothing.

i'm pretty hurt by this- after all this time, she thinks i'm the kind of person to muscle in on her boyfriend..i'm also pretty mad that she thinks it's ok to throw these strops and the next day think it doesn't affect me. I spent the whole day wondering if I imagined things lastnight, if she was pissed at me, and why.

what should I do? i made a comment tonight when they asked me if i was going out I said so everyone could hear but fast enough that her non-english speaking bf couldn't pick up 'no, i'm not going out, what, after lastnight, i don't want to be around u when u get drunk, i've had too much abuse already'

am i overreacting, was I out of line to make that comment...that said, she just said 'whatever' and brushed it off....is she being out of line does our friendship mean anything to her?

Kevster

Hi,

I believe that you are over-reacting - yes - but I also believe that you are too forgiving to this girl. Please be aware that I'm only basing this on what you have written - i.e. you might actually not be too forgiving in broad terms. If I was in your situation, I would gradually reduce contact with her. It is apparent that she does not respect that you have emotions too. The relationship is biased on her side, and you should not put up with that.

Kevin