I made a mistake

LegacyUser

i'll try keep this as brief as possible cause i'll only end up rambling... About 18 months ago i met a girl. It started out as a long distance thing but we talked every single day and met up most weekends. Anyway to cut a long story short within six months of meeting each other we were living together... She'd been having some trouble at home wanted to move out, i really liked her and asked her to move into mine.

For the first few months everything was great. Looking back tho i think it's cause we were still getting to know each other and after the long distance thing it was a novelty being able to spend so much time together.Then the arguements started. We argued about everything, we have completely different values. It got to the stage where we were arguing about stupid things and i realised we were never going to work. I told her how i felt, she refused to talk to me for a day or two then told me how sorry she was and wanted to try again. This is what she does anytime we argue or i tell her that it's not working, that i'm not happy, she gets upset first but then it's like it never happened and she acts like everything's great.

The thing is i then lost my job. So now every penny i have goes towards our bills etc there's nothing left over. I really want to move out, put an end to this situation and she knows this but how can i do that when i haven't a cent to my name and if i stay she carries on as if everything is fine and i've got to the stage where i can't be bothered arguing anymore she knows how i feel. I feel trapped. What do i do? How do i get out of this mess?

Miss Fluff

What an intolerable situation. Do you have family/friends living in the area whom would give you a bed for a while until you get on your feet?

Cheap Thrills!

Just tell her to leave?

If she doesn't then pack up her stuff and leave it on the porch and change the locks?

You don't have to allow her to stay just because she is in denial, that's not your problem.

CDfm

Ok OP -does she contribute financially and has she signed a lease or anything.

Moomoo1

Cheap Thrills! wrote: »

Just tell her to leave?

If she doesn't then pack up her stuff and leave it on the porch and change the locks?

You don't have to allow her to stay just because she is in denial, that's not your problem.

how's he going to pay the rent?

Cheap Thrills!

Moomoo1 wrote: »

how's he going to pay the rent?

Got a bit confused, OP said it was his place and every cent went on bills but I see now he said 'our bills' - I thought he was paying all the bills. Hmm

Hm, well I suppose all you can do OP is maybe go to the community welfare officer and explain and see if you could get an emergency few quid for a deposit in a share or something?

Do you get any social welfare......?

LegacyUser

sorry was in such a state this morning i posted this twice.

Thanks for the reply Miss Fluff. It actually helped in a way to be able to talk about it.

The thing is my parents passed some years ago and my close friends are scattered across various parts of the world. My closest mate just left a few weeks ago so i'm feeling very on my own with all this.