What is wrong with me

gayguy2009

I have been broken up with my ex for a few months now. I still think about him a lot. We were together for only 4 months but I still think about him too much. I have been sick all summer and I haven't been out too much. People are telling me to go out and get my mind off him and move on. But I physically can't! I wake up most morning and get real anxious and panicked, thinking about what he's doing, and thinking what if he's with someone else! I don't think I'll be able to find anyone like him again

whatsamsn

I know what you mean mate.
Usually its one out of a few reasons as to why someone is still hung-up over an ex whom they out dated for a brief period of time (Brief in this case wuld be defined you were only with him for 4 months and that was a few months ago)

Its best to ask yourself which one of the following do you think you are hung up over:

• It was a bad break-up - Examples of this would be being cheated on or lied to etc etc. This really causes a major mind-f*ck.
• Unexpected break up - Subliminally this makes us inferior and we put out ex's on a pedestal. Because the break-up came out of no-where. Its a mental mind game again.
• You were really attracted to your ex or a heavy infatuation - Thus again causing a mental mind game. You are into your ex and will feel it will be hard to find another that rocked your boat so much.

ask yourself which one was it of the above. Moving forward is all about knowing how you really feel.

gayguy2009

I think its the last two whatsamsn. I feel very mind ****ed, whats made it worse I got a text off him few week ago and text him back. Big mistake it was because he did not text back after. I'm only realizing now that he was doing it for an ego boost, even though i'd never thought he'd be someone to do that. I've been getting advice from friends saying to think of the bad times, but there wasn't really any wen i was around him, we never really had an argument.

Miss Fluff

gayguy2009 wrote: »

I have been sick all summer and I haven't been out too much.(

You poor lamb. Of course you're not moving on when you've been stuck indoors and feeling unwell. You can only really get over someone when you keep busy and make sure your life is as full as possible.

Now that you are back on the mend, meet up with friends/family and keep yourself as occupied as possible. These feelings of sadness will pass but keeping busy will expedite the healing process.

whatsamsn

gayguy2009 wrote: »

I think its the last two whatsamsn. I feel very mind ****ed, whats made it worse I got a text off him few week ago and text him back. Big mistake it was because he did not text back after. I'm only realizing now that he was doing it for an ego boost, even though i'd never thought he'd be someone to do that. I've been getting advice from friends saying to think of the bad times, but there wasn't really any wen i was around him, we never really had an argument.

If you can honestly say there was no real arguments then sadly to say you were never actually with him. Any relationship that only lasts a short period of time and ends abruptly without reason screams of things really going on under the surface.

Theres alot of people in life who will date others while doing so for the sake of it. Most common reason is it beats being single and lonely and this person will do till someone they are really into comes along. Some people are just plain out users as well. Entering a relationship, but its not really one for them.

Op, for what its worth. We share the same feelings. I dated a girl from July 2009 to the first week of Jan 2010. Im still messed in the head and think about that mess alot. But for me it was a nasty ending. She clearly was going to have sex with a new guy she became "friends" with - i had a fight with her over it - less than 4 days she slept with him. I rang her on the 5th day to try and patch things up. Then I found the truth. 4 days. still hurts.

I think what I am trying to say is both you and I are putting are ex's on pedestals. Rather than realising the truth. We sadly both dated a**holes. People who didnt care.

try and be strong.

Caliden

Op there's always more than one person that's going to be perfect for you. Dont get into the mindset of a soulmate.

Just accept that it's over and as much as it hurts, move on.
By all means remember the good times to cheer yourself up if you've had a bad day but dont dwell on them too much.

Go out, meet new people and when you least expect it you will meet someone perfect for you.


Relationships are about trial and error to find one that will truly last through the harsh times.
Keep your chin up Op, we've all been there at some stage