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  • 17-09-2010 7:55pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    last year i started to develope a fantasy of my partner having a one night stand with some one else and to be honest im really confused on why the thought of this excites me,we spoke about it briefly and she said it excites her too but we just left it at that.as i said im just confused and to be honest a bit freaked out that i feel the way i do about the whole idea.we are both 30 with young kids


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  • #2
    Zen65
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,630 ✭✭✭Zen65


    sam maguire wrote: »
    last year i started to develope a fantasy of my partner having a one night stand with some one else ......

    Over the course of your life you will have many strange fantasies which will appeal to you at that moment in time. These are simply "controlled" stories in your head which edit out the embarrassment/jealousy/anger/pain (depending on your fantasy) which you would actually experience if you ever tried to act out these ideas.

    Enjoy the fantasy for what it is, but don't embark on trying to act it out in real life, you will be disappointed (or worse). There may be exceptions to this, which (if both you and your partner discuss and agree) might be fun to try, but the introduction of a third party is rarely ever going to be problem-free. You have kids, so taking high-risk chances with your relationship would be foolhardy.


    Be at peace,

    Z


  • #3
    whatsamsn
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    Well you said you are married with kids. Obviously you're with your wife a good few years now.

    People can develop sexual fantasies. Such fantasies that if it were to actually happen they couldnt go through it. I've known girls who said they wanted to have sex with another women and their boyfriend. But yet when it came down to doing it - they couldnt.

    There seems to be a big difference between fantasy and actually willing to go through with a fantasy.


    But op I wouldnt go through with it. You clearly would have issues with it.
    So my two cents is dont potentially ruin your marriage and to be brutally honest you would be mental to let another guy have sex with the woman you love and the mother of your kids.


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