big ears

gillian1983

i keep getting told im really ugly and its getting me down.
constantly people tell me it. they focus on my BIG EARS and it hurts. im working in a cinema and when i handed a man tickets last night he said ''its a wonder u didnt hear me with those giant ears'' just really gets to me. and once i was trying to get a compliment from a guy cos he told my friend she had a beautiful smile and i said whats my best feature.. and he said ''your ears'' and laughed

tenchi-fan

sunflower27 wrote: »

The man at the cinema is a tool. What's the bet he isnt perfect either :rolleyes: Probably had a bulging beer gut and receeding hair line...

It's odd how you try to make the op feel better with little regard for PI readers who actually have weight issues or feel down over hair loss...

Nice one!

Taltos

tenchi-fan wrote: »

It's odd how you try to make the op feel better with little regard for PI readers who actually have weight issues or feel down over hair loss...

Nice one!

Had to laugh - as I have both
SF though is spot on OP. You show me a beautiful person and I will show you the same person who hates some part of themselves - could be their ears, or their eyes.

However - these idiots are exactly that idiots. Have some preprepared responses for jerks like this, though do be careful in work.
i.e. - that bloke
"At least I can make my ears smaller, pity you can't make your d1ck bigger"
or "I'm sorry sir I was blinded by the glare of your... oh never mind enjoy the show..."

Ideally though as trite as it sounds you need to learn how to just let these comments wash over you. These idiots are nothing to you and so their opinions are worth less than the dog sh1t you walk on outside.

Focus on the positive - lovely attractive smile, clearly sensitive nature - trust me, when you meet the right person none of this will matter, and the above 2 items I have pulled will make him feel like the luckiest guy in the world - but only when you learn to be happy with who you are. Just tell yourself these strangers are jealous - I mean they have to be - why else would they try to hurt someone...

Me - balding, bit of a tummy. But so what. I'm happy - well most of the time and not much I can do about that except either shave my head of wear alot of hats

jimmycrackcorm

op, Wear your hair long to cover your ears and it won't be a problem then.

xzanti

If someone comments on another person appearance, that generally says more about the them than the person they're making fun of..

People who are happy and secure with themselves don't feel the need to put others down to feel better about themselves. Don't drop to their level.. If you are feeling self conscious about your ears there are hair styles you can try.. We all have things we hate about ourselves but we just have to make the best we can with what we have..

I have well dodgy skin and I HATE my nose, but there's things I do with makeup etc to conceal and enhance where I need it.. I'm sure there's loads of parts of you that others would be envious of.. Try not to let it get you down

LegacyUser

sunflower27 wrote: »

at Taltos

My bf is losing his hair; **** happens. I meant no offence to anyone.

Ask anyone what they don't like about themselves and most people will have more than one answer.

I get what you meant when you said that bout guy, I find most actually good looking attractive guys don't feel the need to comment on someones 'flaws' when it comes to looks. I guess they are secure enough in themselves not to point out others insecurities unlike others...

tenchi-fan

sunflower27 wrote: »

at Taltos

My bf is losing his hair; **** happens. I meant no offence to anyone.

Ask anyone what they don't like about themselves and most people will have more than one answer.

no, you are right, i was only joking!

I like cutting comments as much as the next person but it can be pretty negative and could often result in needless slagging, which some people take better than others. sometimes if some one's rude it's a better idea to avoid them!

barleybooley

I don't understand how someone feels they are justified in calling another 'ugly'. Surely that makes them ugly also?

Hi OP
Sorry to hear you're down about yourself, no one likes their flaws being focused on. I'm quite large (size 16) and I hate when people comment on my weight or on my pale skin and it's not as simple as do X to hide it or ignore them. Why should you have to change how you look to fit the bill of what other people might find attractive?

I remember reading 'The Twits' by Roald Dahl when I was a kid and in it he wrote about Mr an Mrs Twit who were ugly because they were ugly people inside but someone who is beautiful on the inside can look like anything and still be beautiful, cliched but true. The people who love you will love you for who you are and not how you look so rise above it, anyone that thinks they can make fun of people and be nasty isn't worth a second thought.

Hope you start to feel better, everyone here is on your side. No one's perfect, always remember that.