Dilemma

Carter12

Hello,

Ive posted before about this friend. We have been friends to past 20 odd years, reared children together and supported each other with all the crap life can throw at you.

She likes a lot of attention, anytime we meet up I feel obligated to tell her how nice she looks, I don't mind, it makes her happy. She always looks well BTW. The last few years she has pulled away from me. I did have a talk with her and cleared the air, but nothing changed. She was still going out and not asking us along, or fobbing off anytime I suggested meeting up for nights out. The last straw is its my birthday this weekend and I invited her and hubby out for dinner with us on Sunday, she said she will get back to me. So after a lot of tears and hurt ive accepted that the friendship is gone.

However, her mam has breast cancer and is going under an op on Monday. Their not sure how bad it is yet. I was talking to my (ex) friend this morning and let her know that I was only a txt away if there is anything I can do.

Now I feel I should call into her on the way home from work to make sure she is ok, and then on the other hand im thinking “well she doesn't want me when she is dressed up and going out, why should I go out of my way now”

I really don't know what to do. Just needed to get that off my chest.

cheesey1

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IThe last straw is its my birthday this weekend and I invited her and hubby out for dinner with us on Sunday, she said she will get back to me.


However, her mam has breast cancer and is going under an op on Monday. Their not sure how bad it is yet.

I really don't know what to do. Just needed to get that off my chest.[/QUOTE]

This probably why she didn't get back to you about going out for dinner for your birthday, I am sure it is the last thing on her mind. She is probably thinking of her Mum and the operation she is going to have and what the future holds for her.

Carter12

Yes your right. Ill call into her on the way home. Thanks

Chicago Chick

Maybe she did not want to go out for your birthday as she did not feel she would be good company, I would assume her mums illness is a large worry for her as it would be for most people. I know personally that when something is wrong I will tend to distance myself from people as I need space, maybe this could be it.

In relation to the other times, I don't know what to say. Is it possible she did not realise what she was doing or did it happen very often. Sorry to hear it all made you cry though and belated Happy Birthday.

Carter12

Thanks. Its my birthday this Sunday coming . We are both late 40s so this is like schoolyard stuff, and I just feel really awkward about it.

Her dad died 2 years ago and I was there constantly for her, took time off from work, txt her every day, called down to her once a week. I left work one day as she was at home drunk at 11 in the morning and couldnt even string a sentence together. I went to her house, put her to bed and got her Son out of bed to keep an eye on her.

But the last chat we had she said she felt I wasnt there for her when her dad died, but I really dont know what more I could have done.

Regards my bday, its not really important.

I will call into her today and see how she is

Thanks