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Am I just unapproachable?

  • 16-09-2010 10:18am
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    I've been single a good while. I mainly socialise in pubs/clubs etc.

    I'm ok looking, friendly and funny but I NEVER get approached by guys.

    When I approach them its always a success so I know I'm not minging lol.

    But if I sit back and do nothing and don't actively walk up and start talking to a bloke then nothing, nadda.

    So a few questions

    1. Are they just impressed by the fact that I'm woman enough to approach them and it's not that they actually like me?
    2. What can I do to make myself more approachable because not being approached is making me second guess myself?

    It's not something thats blighting my life or anything but I've been going through a dry spell (in fairness I haven't been making much of an effort when I'm out either - just got a bit fed up of the whole thing). I know I need to be more pro-active but just wondering if anyone has any tips.

    Cheers :)


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  • #2
    blackbird98
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 533 ✭✭✭blackbird98


    from a man's perspective, I have a few female friends the I regularly chat to in the pubs, but sometimes they may want to be alone. sometimes people can be very forward, take over the conversation, constantly interrupting, or whatever, and hence may not always be included in the group.

    The fact that you can sit back and say nothing, could be sending out the wrong signals, maybe they think that you want to be on your own?.

    Some guys also may be intimidated by a confident woman. can you not pre-arrange to meet / go out with some friends before you go to the pub?

    hope things improve for you


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