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  • 14-09-2010 9:19pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    Hi

    know a guy a few months we got together he was'nt long out of a long relationship maybe a few months, we slept together a couple of times was'nt a relationship but there had been a strong attraction between us and we get on great, he said he was'nt looking for a new relationship the last time i seen him I said ok i hope he finds a girl that would make him happy and understood that he needed to be alone as I was walking away he followed me and said that he was'nt looking for another girl he just wanted to be alone and that I was perfect for him and he would contact me I just said OK,I have'nt heard from him since! and I would'nt contact him either. question is why say that to me when I was telling him I understood he wanted to be alone!? I don't understand guys sometimes!?!


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
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    Cos he wanted to keep you on tap for sex and also didnt want to feel like an a-hole for sleeping with you and walking away. The most likely reason he hasnt contacted you is that he has found someone else to sleep with... Not trying to be mean but dont waste any brain power on this guy.... He will come back sniffing around at some stage but I would nto entertain him if it were me


  • #3
    stupidusername
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    Couldn't believe this when I read it. OP I'm in almost the exact same position as you. Took me a while to cop on but ya as 'cos he could' said he's just after sex. He's a pr!ck and you shouldn't make yourself available for him, especially if he gets back to you and gives you the idea that's all he wants from you again.

    It's hard, depending on how low your self esteem is, to tell yourself you deserve better than to be treated like this, but you do.

    I've cut contact with the guy now and I'm trying to get it out of my head. he messed me around for a while there, telling me one thing and acting another way, but it's all just to keep you dangling.

    And trust me, no guy is worth that


  • #4
    LegacyUser
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    Miss Mystery wrote: »
    he said he was'nt looking for a new relationship the last time i seen him I said ok i hope he finds a girl that would make him happy and understood that he needed to be alone as I was walking away he followed me and said that he was'nt looking for another girl he just wanted to be alone and that I was perfect for him and he would contact me I just said OK,I have'nt heard from him since!

    He sounds like a total moron. He was trying to pull your heart strings, trying to be deep about 'I don't want to be hurt again' bullsh*t just so he could sleep with you without having a relationship. You took what he said at face value, started walking away when suddenly he comes after you again saying 'I want to be alone'! If he really wanted to be alone, he wouldn't be following you around saying it umpteen times. In reality, he was probably surprised you didn't fall for his bull and thought 'Oh oh, I'm losing a f*ck buddy here'.
    He's a player. Ditch him, he has user written all over him. You're not even going out with him and already you're getting mixed signals. Not a good sign.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
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    Thats the thing coz I forgot to mention, I really don't think he's after s*x as I did say to him when he said he was'nt looking for a new relationship, Who said I was?, but of course he knows I like him more than a f*ck buddy! I feel he has been very hurt in his last relationship and maybe just wants to be alone so I accepted it, I am the first girl he's been with since his break up a few months ago, and don;t want to be a rebound girl so thats why i'm happy to stay away,he has moved into his own apartment 4 months ago he was living with his ex,he is late 30's so would think he's past playing all them games, but obviously he is playing some game with me as he he never contacted me after saying what he did.I will never understand men!


  • #6
    LegacyUser
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    I disagree somewhat with the responces here so far. He said he wanted to be alone fo a while, you said fine and he said he'd contact you - presumably when he has had enough of being alone. You mentioned he was just out of a long relationship.

    Its possible its what everyone else seems to think, that he wanted a shag and nothing more but the way you present the situation it sounds like he liked you but wasnt ready to commit and wasnt interested in stringing you along. So whats the problem?

    Get on with your own life and if he ever makes contact you'll know then if he was into you or not.


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