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No confidence with women (what to do)(pulling etc)

  • 14-09-2010 4:11pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    hey there, I'm a young male, less than 20 and I don't drink, I've never kissed a girl, and have never had the confidence to chat up women.

    I had never chatted up girls before but the last few nights I've tried going up too girls chatting, thing is none of them have shown any interest, they all just kkinda put a funny look on their face and don't talk.

    I'd usually just go up and say, how's things, are ya having a good night?, things like that.

    Any tips on what else I can try/say?? I try to act as confident as possible but it's not the easiest thing to do when you just feel like the girl won't want to chat.

    Also any other tips would be greatly appreciated. :)


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  • #2
    whatsamsn
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    Trying to pull girls in pubs without a very healthy dose of confidence usually ends bad. Sure many confident goodlooking men have been blanked, back turned to, rudly told to get lost etc in pubs.

    I would go to the gym, or perhaps what ever would give you confidence. Alot of people have to get their own confidence in life.


  • #3
    [Deleted User]
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    I've never been a big fan of pulling down the pub. Even as a teenager I wasn't. I find it much more rewarding to get to know somebody, then, if you do have the hots and you do hook up, it feels so much more exciting, plus has a better chance of going somewhere.

    That said OP, if you really are into pulling in the pub/club, I always found a guy who is just enjoying himself is always so much more approachable. Not drinking is actually a bonus, many women I know much prefer a guy who can enjoy himself as he is, than a guy who's got to drink to get his confidence (and often then comes across rather... silly).

    You're young, and while I know that doesn't help to say it, but you are very much not alone in being your age and not having any experience. A lot of girls are in the same boat, too!

    As for how to chat up a girl, well... I always found the best place to get into a chat is probably at the bar. Even though you're not drinking, buy a Coke and stand there. Girls have to come to the bar for drinks, it's very easy to say hello, be friendly, I often found bringing up a relevant current affair, a funny comment, even "I like your hair!" (With a smile of course!) to be conversation starters. It wont work every time, granted, but that's about all I have to go on!!


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