Once a ladies man always a ladies man

starlit

If a guy has always been a bit of a ladies man will that always be the case even when he settles down or does the leopard never change his spots???
What is your opinion on this?

starbelgrade

It depends entirely on the guy. I was always a ladies man until I got married & have been a one woman man ever since... it just depends on the guy.

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

snuggles285 wrote: »

If a guy has always been a bit of a ladies man will that always be the case even when he settles down or does the leopard never change his spots???
What is your opinion on this?

Sticking my neck out here but... depends on the individual in question.

Max Power1

as starbelgrade says, depends on the individual imo

biko

PI: Men can change!
AH: Men cannot change!

Wompa1

snuggles285 wrote: »

If a guy has always been a bit of a ladies man will that always be the case even when he settles down or does the leopard never change his spots???
What is your opinion on this?

You can always get the procedure reversed..

flyton5

The guy in question just needs a women who ticks all the boxes...

Princess Consuela Bananahammock

biko wrote: »

PI: Men can change!
AH: Men cannot change!

Ladies Lounge: Can I have the leopard please?

Herbal Deity

ITT: "I'm really insecure and suspicious of my bf, please reassure me!"

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biko wrote: »

PI: Men can change!
AH: Men cannot change!

Rocky Balboa: Everybody can change!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qz74cEN5aw

--Kaiser--

Hobo: Any spare change?

Sanjuro

Leon Phelps

Cookie_Monster

He could become a ladies lady...

Zipp101

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DjN8X7tgpUE

00112984

Why bother taking that risk?

If "settling down" involves marriage or other big legal responsibilities such as having kids, buying property etc., you're betting on someone/yourself changing and the risk is huge.

Banned Account

I was a ladies man for a good few years when younger. Now, even though I'm not going out with anyone, I'm much more settled. If i'm with someone i'm with them. If I don't want to be with them I'll tell them - I don't do the dirt on people anymore - not worth the headache to be honest.

So, yes OP, some people can change.

(I still want a threesome though:()

Knine

00112984 wrote: »

Why bother taking that risk?

If "settling down" involves marriage or other big legal responsibilities such as having kids, buying property etc., you're betting on someone/yourself changing and the risk is huge.

Agree with this. I judge someone on their previous behaviour. If they treated their ex like ****e, its likely at some point they will treat you the same. Ive learnt the hard way!

Can he change? - Yes
Can you change him? - No

Brendog

Why does "Ladies man" mean a guy who is very attractive to women and has sex with large numbers of them...

but a "Mans man" is a manly guy who is associated with power tools, construction and beer?

starlit

Herbal Deity wrote: »

ITT: "I'm really insecure and suspicious of my bf, please reassure me!"

No don't have a boyfriend. The thought just popped into my head when I were out last Saturday night, just noticed a guy was a bit of a ladies man thats all and gave me the eye/stare a few times. It just creeped me out a bit.

scientific1982

Depends if he loves and respects the woman hes with. Having said that, nature is not fond of monogamy.

Banned Account

snuggles285 wrote: »

No don't have a boyfriend. The thought just popped into my head when I were out last Saturday night, just noticed a guy was a bit of a ladies man thats all and gave me the eye/stare a few times. It just creeped me out a bit.

Meh, you should have let him nail you tbh - he might have been good:cool:

Gone Drinking

Women..

STOP THINKING SO MUCH

PeterIanStaker

It depends on the person. There are lots of married people, or people in long-term relationships that cheat on each other, just like there are people who are happy with who they are with and wouldn't do it.

Sea Sharp

I'd say yes.
The development of a beer belly may assist in this change.

starlit

Fitzcaraldo wrote: »

Meh, you should have let him nail you tbh - he might have been good:cool:

Think he was a bit drunk to be honest. Cute though, but not too sure if I'd have wanted him! I wasn't even sure if he had a gf. He gave off the impression that he had at first but then started chatting, dancing and wooing all the girls! He started singing so think that put me off him right away!

Feeona

starbelgrade wrote: »

I was always a ladies man until I got married & have been a one woman man ever since.

That's not what you said last night

recylingbin

Maybe he's a closet.

Kimono-Girl

in short; once a ladies man not always a ladies man!


people change constantly and just because a guy has slept around for a few years/with a few women doesn't mean he can't settle down and be happy with one girl!

Canis Lupus

recylingbin wrote: »

Maybe he's a closet.

I think, good sir, she would notice if he was an item of furniture. I mean really....

RockinRolla

I'm a ladies man as in, I feel more comfortable walking into a room with twenty women than walking into a room with five guys.

louisa1

I have to agree if a man wants to he can.....but we as woman can not change them!!!!
Being with someone for a number of years that i thought i cud change i have now realised it aint gonna happen.
But as well you gotta realise that some women out there these days just dont give a dam and if they want them they will go all out to get them!!! Invloved, married or not! I have seen them in action they know ur out with ur husband/partner and they dont care they chat them up in front of you!!!
If you where anyway insecure god help you.....I just think you gotta love the poor person chasing someones seconds.....

minidazzler

The question used to be "Can cheaters change?" Now we have switched to "Can someone with an average sex life where he sleeps with a few women change even though any change won't be all that effective because he wasn't that bad to begin with?"

Being a ladies man doesnt mean someone is cheating on anyone, they may just have multiple sexual partners with no commitment to any of them, that is NOT the same as cheating. So when he agrees to exclusivity and doesn't fcuk anyone else, he's not changing really, he's just stopping the other stuff.

In short, Ladies men don't need to change, not like what we do is wrong.

Wibbs

minidazzler wrote: »

Being a ladies man doesnt mean someone is cheating on anyone, they may just have multiple sexual partners with no commitment to any of them, that is NOT the same as cheating. So when he agrees to exclusivity and doesn't fcuk anyone else, he's not changing really, he's just stopping the other stuff.

This.

Copper23

It depends on the girl involved too in fairness...

If she is worth it, he'll settle down, if she's not, he won't. Why do you think he is a ladies man in the first place? If he is good at getting women but very few have probably impressed him enough to settle down.

If a ladies man meets the sort of girl he likes he'll easily be happy. She'd have to be independent and confident enough to know she's enough for him though and not go around all jealous and accusing and so on.

If the lady involved has it in her head that he's a ladies man, tries to "change" him, acts jealous all the time and stuff like that then why wouldn't he get fed up and end up looking elsewhere.

Its no necessarily the mans fault if the women are not living up to his standards, its his life.

Snowie

i think men and women can booth change but it takes work comitment and time.
Some people get fuastrated and resort back to, there old ways for any number of reasons.

fonecrusher1

Whats the definition of a ladies man?

-Someone who constantly chases after women with great success, who's sole drive in life is to have the romance with women.
or
-Someone who attracts a lot of attention from women because he's goodlooking/smooth/has a way with words.
or
a bit of both?

Chasing after every single woman in a nightclub, being rejected over & over again & having a success ratio of 1/100 is not being a ladies man, thats called being a thick-skinned horn dog.:D

Little Acorn

fonecrusher1 wrote: »

Whats the definition of a ladies man?

-Someone who constantly chases after women with great success, who's sole drive in life is to have the romance with women.
or
-Someone who attracts a lot of attention from women because he's goodlooking/smooth/has a way with words.
or
a bit of both?

Chasing after every single woman in a nightclub, being rejected over & over again & having a success ratio of 1/100 is not being a ladies man, thats called being a thick-skinned horn dog.:D

The bolded bit is sort of what my understanding of a ladies man was. I never necessary took it to mean someone who cheats.
I have a few male friends who would be a bit like your description. Say at a party or whatever, they would have girls hanging on their every word. Just a mixture of huge confidence [but not arrogance], ability to make people laugh, and just a general charm that makes a lot of girls like them.
This even happens if they're not interested in being with one of the girls, it's just part of their personality and fairly innocent. Wouldn't even call it "chatting up"!:)

Sound Bite

OP, I think minidazzler has put it best really.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a ladies man and tbh some of my male friends could be described as ladies men but the majority of them are different in a relationship.

When they are single they will play the field (and every single corner of it!) but if in a relationship they dont cheat.

When single they are free to do what they like, but if they decide to go out with someone they are perfectly capable of being with just one women.

There's a huge difference between a ladies man & a cheat.

Lux23

Is the same question ever asked of women? I have had dozens of 'realtionships' and loads of other encounters in between but when I am with someone, I don't ever feel the need to cheat. Just because someone likes to have fun when they are single doesn't mean they are untrustworthy.

sheesh

Yeah I had a friend who was a real ladies man but has really quietened down since he got married believe it or not OP alot of men like to settle down too.

starbelgrade

RockinRolla wrote: »

I'm a ladies man as in, I feel more comfortable walking into a room with twenty women than walking into a room with five guys.

I thought that was the definition of a gay man.

Abi

bluewolf wrote: »

Can he change? - Yes
Can you change him? - No

I wouldn't try to change a guy, it's either right or its wrong. If I felt like it wasn't working out I'd say so. If he plays around it's gone.

/waves


Some women have higher tolerance for this kind of shit, but to me - the foundations of a person never changes. That risk will always be there imo.

Pighead

Abigayle wrote: »

I wouldn't try to change a guy, it's either right or its wrong. If I felt like it wasn't working out I'd say so. If he plays around it's gone.

/waves


Some women have higher tolerance for this kind of shit, but to me - the foundations of a person never changes. That risk will always be there imo.

But what if the man was your absolute dream-man. A prince among men with the huge big brains of Matt Cooper, the chiselled torso of Pighead and the quivering love muscle of Black Beauty. Surely it would be worth trying to change Pighead that man and see could you work things through.

RockinRolla

starbelgrade wrote: »

I thought that was the definition of a gay man.

You homophobic, sweetheart?

Abi

Pighead wrote: »

But what if the man was your absolute dream-man. A prince among men with the huge big brains of Matt Cooper, the chiselled torso of Pighead and the quivering love muscle of Black Beauty. Surely it would be worth trying to change Pighead that man and see could you work things through.

My tastes are different to yours I'm afraid

Pighead

Abigayle wrote: »

My tastes are different to yours I'm afraid

Not a Black Beauty fan huh? That's alright babes. Share our similarities, celebrate our differences.

Abi

Pighead wrote: »

Not a Black Beauty fan huh? That's alright babes. Share our similarities, celebrate our differences.

Nyesss...

Scuid Mhór

i will always be boogeying down with the ladies, yes.

Kasabian

I used to be a ladies man in so much that I would have a few casual relationships going at once . It was fun , then I met her and fell in love and that all changed. I was happy , little did I know but she still liked her casual relationships and kept them going .

Guess it works both ways.