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internet dating emailing

  • 13-09-2010 9:25pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    hi i'm a member of an internet dating site, been emailing a few girls away and then it just kinda fades out, is it mental to email them again? would i be seen as a stalker? or have they just decicded they are not that into me and move on. cheers.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    The vast majority of the time if they stop replying dont send another message you are extremly unlikly to get a responce.

    If they havent replied and you just leave it be you may get another mesage a week or two later with "Just back from holidays" or whatever but I wouldnt hold out hope.

    Many times girls have stoped responding to me for no diserable reason and many times ive stoped talking to girls who have bored me.

    Internet dating site conversations arent like real ones there is no requirement for proper goodbyes.


  • #3
    ash23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    Have you asked them out?

    I used a dating site for a bit but got fed up because it felt like guys just wanted to email. It's a "dating" site. I get bored of someone emailing but not arranging to meet.


  • #4
    katie99
    Closed Accounts Posts: 206 ✭✭katie99


    I've tried internet dating without success. I found some guys were genuine, others were just interested in trying to have sex. Many were married or in relationships and were seeking their 'bit on the side'.
    I wouldn't recommend it.

    Does anyone have any other ideas about how to meet a guy or for a guy how to meet a girl?

    I don't enjoy the pub scene. Most guys only approach me when they are well tanked up and the majority are young than me, but fancy their chances of a quick shag.

    I don't know about walking clubs. Like how are you supposed to meet someone. A friend joined a sailing club last summer and he found it difficult to meet girls or to ask them out.
    Any other suggestions or are we doomed to a life of singledom?


  • #5
    solovely
    Closed Accounts Posts: 273 ✭✭solovely


    Does anyone have any other ideas about how to meet a guy or for a guy how to meet a girl?

    Katie, I hear your frustration! Posted a similar question here on Sunday in the depths of drink induced depression after a night out where my friend and I were the only single people (post got moved though cos it wasn't seen as a personal issue or something).

    Anyway, now that it's Tuesday, am feeling a lot more positive, but totally agree with you about how hard it is to meet decent people on a drunken night out. My friend also tried the online dating thing, but like ash23 found that guys don't actually ask girls out on it.

    So, our new POA, is to just get out and do more interesting stuff...gonna go to loads of the Fringe festival stuff, and any other festivals on around Ireland, do stuff in the evenings, even if it is coming into the depths of winter. I really don't think you meet people through clubs and classes...maybe it works for some people. For us, it's not just about meeting "the one" but as 30 year old single girls, you just wanna get out and meet more people in the same boat as yourself, spend enough time around married couples talking about curtains and grocery shopping bargains!!


  • #6
    Snoopy1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,185 ✭✭✭Snoopy1


    Ive tried internet dating, and guys do ask girls out. I went on loads of dates with different guys, yes some were weird. But, ive been in a relationship for the last 3 months with someone i met online.
    So dont think that its hopeless.


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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    op here again, good to know i'm not alone.
    i asked this particular girl out, half arranged a date and i'd to cancel, i've emailed here since but heard nothing back.
    trying to meet someone in a pub, club is hard, everyone is with their circle or friends and very rarely leave it.
    at this stage i'm thinking of asking all my female friends to set me up on a few dates lol.


  • #8
    MRBEAVER
    Closed Accounts Posts: 206 ✭✭MRBEAVER


    There are men and women on dating sites who want to go on dates. However the majority don't. If nothing happens after a few mails better to just drop the correspondance and move on. Too many just want to mail indefinitely which Imo is pointless.


  • #9
    MRBEAVER
    Closed Accounts Posts: 206 ✭✭MRBEAVER


    bic pen wrote: »
    i asked this particular girl out, half arranged a date and i'd to cancel, i've emailed here since but heard nothing .

    It might have been legitimate in your case but agreeing to a date but then cancelling is a
    common delaying tactic. Happened to me a few times. If it does further correspondence is usually a waste of time.


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