To have a GF...impossible task or not?

LegacyUser

I'm a guy in my 20's and have been forever single...why does this bother me so much?

I'm a decent guy, get on very well with women and if it mattered at all...i'm not a bad looking man yet I still dunno how to initiate anything more romantic with them as i dont go out alot, whether it's to an event outside a pub/club or in one. I'm not very shy except for this one reason...then i'd be ok. I am in college but still at home as its only a few miles away, yet getting to know some girls there too but i believe living away from home would be a massive help but cannot afford it.

I see people all over the place coupled up and enjoying each other and sharing their lives and constantly wonder how these situations occur...how hard can it be? Anyone out there got any tips etc to help me and others out there? I would rather not see any pick up artist stuff please it really grinds my gears!

LegacyUser

Hey mate, I know how you feel and it really hurts to see other couples togther doesnt it? jeliousy has become a mayjor issue for me. Even walking through town on a saturday night winds me up because I am so desperate for some company...

A friend of mine actually picks up women left , right and centre and the reason he does it because he litrally has no fear. I have seen him walk upto women in shopping centres asking for girls phone numbers and getting them aswell and he isnt even that good looking.

His advice to me was to have no fear, I'm afraid that's all the input from me as I am in the same situation as you I have no concrete advice.... sorry......

I hope it helps that you know there are others in a similar situation though?

Mackman

Im by no means a ladies man, in fact i was in the same boat as you OP, but i did manage to get a woman to marry me so i guess i did something right What im saying is that there is hope, dont give up!

My advice is, if what you're doing isnt working, try something else. Pubs and clubs are the worst places to meet a girlfriend IMO.
Try internet dating, speed dating, pop into the clubs and society's office in the college and sign up to something your interested in, that way you'l meet women who have similar interests and you'll already have something to chat about.

Another good thing to learn is to learn when a woman is interested in you, learn the signals! i was blind to these for years, missed countless encounters because if it, and looking back on it i cringe!
Pay attention to her body language, women wont come right out and tell you they're interested (well most of them anyway), so they hint for you to make the first move.
Keep an eye out for her looking at you when your not looking, smiling at a distance, her touching your arm when your talking. Then just ask her out for a drink, see how things go. Try to have fun, dont stress over it. (easier said than done i know)

One more thing, confidence, confidence is key, but its also tricky. You dont want to come accross as cocky or full of yourself.
If your not confident in who you are, it shows, and women will pick up on that. What can help with the confidence is wearing nice clothes, a bit of grooming, nice hair cut, clean shaven/trimmed beard

Hope this helps!

katie99

I am in the same situation. A bit older perhaps but the same single situation.
A lot of it is luck.
Many friends met their partners through their jobs. They either worked together or met through work. It is a tricky one these days though.
Others met through hobbies, personal interests.
Me? I have been told by guys I am very attractive, good fun, nice, friendly warm and chatty. Yet I don't seem to attract GENUINE single men.
I've reached the conclusion that meeting your partner is all about luck.
I am not standoffish nor am I snobbish or judgemental.
What do I want in a guy?
To be honest, be himself, be independent thinking. Good fun and a nice smile would be a bonus.