should I move out of home?

LegacyUser

I have just entered college,I am 19 have recieved a letter saying that I am elgible for the grant an I will be getting bout 70 a week. but until I can get my grant I am wondering should I move out? my mam does not want me living at home,she bitches everyday about how useless I am,why am I not working and stuff.she regulary shouts abuse ...racial abuse at me(I am mixed race her my mam being irish)and sexual slurs she hits me the odd time and regulary holds her hand up to me as to scare me and ruins my confidence.... I can get an bank overdraft and have been offered some modeling work up galway once a week doing 3 hours of photoshoots for 70 euro and I dn;t know if to do it or not but I really want to move out

Galway K9

Im apauled at the number of views and no replies.

Really sorry to hear the sitaution at home. Sounds pretty brutal and harsh. . some leave home comfortably and some run for the hills. I kinda snook out haha.

All in all i loved leaving home. If your a user PM me until then hold in there and if you need any help or comfort dont hesitate.:)


"This too shall pass!"


Dont wanna give bad advice, but if it was ME i would run!!

Trashbat

Yes.

apart from the abuse your being put under, moving out is one of the most healthy things you can do. It'll teach you independence and you'll leard financial stability also.

As for your relationship with your mother, that is a much more difficult thing.

Have you, or indeed can you, talk to her about how you feel? Maybe some seperation would be good for all concerned.

Catari Jaguar

Hey. You poor thing. That situation sounds horrendous. Have you got friends that you can flat share with to split the costs? Or could you stay with a relative a while til you save up a few weeks of grant money? If you can find a weekend job it'll make it a lot easier. I really think that you should move out of that environment. It's not stable or healthy.

Taltos

Maybe seek advice from your Student's Union on accommodation etc.
Modelling may not be a steady enough income for you to survive on and may clash with your college course - again maybe the Union can point you in the right direction for a part time job - and you can use the modelling to supplement your income.

There may be also other information they can help with - around other grants you may be eligible for if you are emancipated.

However - no-one should ever have to go through what you are going through. Your mum is bang out of order, especially with the racial slurs - weird as if your father was good enough to have sex with then why does she have a problem with a mixed race kid - I mean what the hell did she think was going to happen after sex?

Best of luck and don't give up - reach out for help and insist you get it. It might be tough when you move out- but cannot imagine how it will be worse if you have the right support / information in place.

miss no stars

Move out and make it work. Do the modelling work and any other part time you can.

You have your grant - see if you can get it raised when you move out by declaring yourself financially independent from your mother.

You'll be busy studying and don't need the hassle of an unstable house while you're trying to focus on doing well. Most colleges have a hardship fund, talk to the SU and see where they can point you