Ever fall for a lap dancer?

robert2000 · 13-09-2010 3:03pm #1

Had my first experience in a Lap dancing place on Saturday night was out with a mate who had been to one or two i had some spare cash and thought it was about time i tried this out........ it was pretty much what i had expected Lot's of stunning ladies all only to happy to talk and be nice to you for the price of a lap dance, the 5th or 6th girl caught my attention and that was it ....... i think if i had more money with me i would have spent it all, I'm just glad my card was nearly maxed out on normal stuff food, bills, holidays and such.
Has this happened to anyone else or am i just being a twat

mikom · 13-09-2010 3:06pm

robert2000 wrote: »

the 5th or 6th girl caught my attention

I think you should go for it....... she was really into you.

Otis Driftwood · 13-09-2010 3:06pm

I wouldnt use the term you used to describe yourself however lap dancers are paid to make blokes feel good about themselves,if you dont have the cash they wont bother their barney so Id say chalk it down to what it was,a once off experience.You had fun but dont be so naive to think that you are any different from any one of her punters.

Otis Driftwood · 13-09-2010 3:08pm

mikom wrote: »

I think you should go for it....... she was really into you.

AH this isnt,please remember that before posting,cheers.

Brendog · 13-09-2010 3:17pm

Well Lap dancers are supposed to entice males.
I think thats the whole attraction of the lap dancing business.

But yeah it is foolish to fall for a lap dancer. Unless you talked to her afterwards. Went for dinner, discussed your common interests and decided "I could spend the rest of my life with this woman".

Rowley Birkin QC · 13-09-2010 3:20pm

I was mates with the bouncer of the lap-dancing place next door to the pub I used to work in Amsterdam. Had a few beers and a dance on the house one night, it was grand. About as useful as being in a restaurant, reading the menu and not being allowed to order anything though.

What was way more entertaining was watching the girls fleecing foolish guys of all their cash and moving onto the next dude while the first guy looked on forlornly.

krudler · 13-09-2010 3:36pm

You were probably the 15th or so guy she was "really in to" that night, multiply that by a regular working week for her and she probably doesnt even remember the faces of the guys shes danced for at the end of the night.

Dravokivich · 13-09-2010 4:17pm

Yeap, if i didn't they wouldn't be good at their jobs.

:P

Would I ever follow up on it...

Probably not and not purely because they are lapdancers. They are in that club to excite and tease you.

If I was to get involved with a lady and found out she was a lapdancer, I probably wouldn't have a problem with it. I'd be interested in where and concerned that proper security was in place, other then that it wouldn't be a problem.

mackbolan · 13-09-2010 6:54pm

A lapdancer is paid to keep the punters happy and to keep them coming back for more.
Keep your hard earned money and your dignity for goodness sake.

Logical Fallacy · 13-09-2010 7:52pm

robert2000 wrote: »

Had my first experience in a Lap dancing place on Saturday night was out with a mate who had been to one or two i had some spare cash and thought it was about time i tried this out........ it was pretty much what i had expected Lot's of stunning ladies all only to happy to talk and be nice to you for the price of a lap dance, the 5th or 6th girl caught my attention and that was it ....... i think if i had more money with me i would have spent it all, I'm just glad my card was nearly maxed out on normal stuff food, bills, holidays and such.
Has this happened to anyone else or am i just being a twat

To be honest mate, the just means you ran into a lap dancer who met the basic tenants of a female that you would be attracted to (looks, demeanour etc ) and who was really good at her job.

robert2000 · 13-09-2010 8:11pm

OK thanks for all the responses, i thought i might get slated. I will stay away from that place and just keep a very pleasant memory.

Uriel. · 14-09-2010 10:25am

robert2000 wrote: »

OK thanks for all the responses, i thought i might get slated. I will stay away from that place and just keep a very pleasant memory.

Probably for the best mate.

You'd be best off holding onto your money for more attainable girls.

BopNiblets · 14-09-2010 2:58pm

Uriel. wrote: »

Probably for the best mate.

You'd be best off holding onto your money for more attainable girls.

I'd say it costs more money trying to see normal girls naked though.

mackbolan · 14-09-2010 6:19pm

BopNiblets wrote: »

I'd say it costs more money trying to see normal girls naked though.

Eh...'normal' girls don't charge. They give it away for free. Make the effort to talk to one. Only losers pay for sex.

Snowie · 14-09-2010 6:25pm

nah never been to a strip joint, but I dont think Id be to pushed, while yes there girls are attractive, and lovely to talk too. Its an act, its fact it to lure you into spending money.

Does she really give a damm who you are what you do and what you look like?

No

shes there to make money.. Shes there to lure you to spend your money...

So No i couldn't, Now if i meet a stripper in RL out side her work... Maybe i could i dunno would really depend on the girl.....

minidazzler · 14-09-2010 6:40pm

mackbolan wrote: »

Eh...'normal' girls don't charge. They give it away for free. Make the effort to talk to one. Only losers pay for sex.

You realise that he meant wooing a "normal" girl costs more. Rather than he pays "normal" girls for sex.

Monkeybonkers · 14-09-2010 7:45pm

mackbolan wrote: »

Only losers pay for sex.

Are you saying Wayne Rooney is a loser? Oh, wait.........

Scotty # · 14-09-2010 8:47pm

robert2000 wrote: »

Has this happened to anyone else or am i just being a twat

Yes, fell for one about 8 years ago. We have 2 kids now and are very happy.

In fairness though, I knew her before she was a lap dancer and we only started dating a few months after she started dancing. I've never actually seen her at work but we did have a pole in the middle of our sitting room for 2 years:D.

The other posters are correct. They'll be as nice as they possibly can. That's how they make their money. Each girl has to make her own money and to do that they have to get the guy to want a dance from them and not the other girls. The girls who are the best at coming across as genuine are the ones who make the big money.

The Corinthian · 14-09-2010 9:12pm

I dated one years ago, can't say I fell for her though.

Lap dancers tend to be physically attractive and out of the league of your average chap, so 'falling for one' who is giving you attention (because she wants you to spend money) is more likely to happen than normal, especially if you add alcohol and lack of clothing.

You could ask one out there, but I wouldn't advise it - you're already in the 'client' category in her eyes if you're in a club, and that probably takes you off the menu.

Brendog wrote: »

But yeah it is foolish to fall for a lap dancer. Unless you talked to her afterwards. Went for dinner, discussed your common interests and decided "I could spend the rest of my life with this woman".

Do you want to spend the rest of your life with every woman you have dinner with or just lap dancers? Creepy...

LoanShark · 18-09-2010 11:14am

I've been to 3 lapdancing clubs and probably have had about 8 altogether..I know they are there to get men to part with their money and give them a good tim etc.. BUT There was only one girl, who I honestly could say I would give it all up for and run away with, I know its her job to be nice and all that but this girl was perfect in every way..We sat talking for a while and had a drink...But at the end of the day she was just doing her job...Although I think she may have liked me too....She didn't charge me as much as the others....

Ever fall for a lap dancer?

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